Like nearly all of the challenges faced by parents, anxiety in children has many possible causes and solutions. Fortunately, Love and Logic offers a variety of "experiments" to determine what might work best with each unique child:
Establish or strengthen family routines.
With anxious, fearful kids, experiment with having set times for meals, bath times, reading, chores, bed times, etc.
Provide firmer limits.
There are few things more reassuring to a child than knowing that they have parents who are strong enough to beat-up the Boogie Man if he broke into the house at night. All children wonder if they have parents who are strong enough to keep them safe. One of the ways they find out is to test limits and see if their parents appear weak or very strong.
Give less attention to anxious behavior.
Experiment with using fewer words when your child is upset. Simply hug them and say, "I know you can handle this."
Model calmness and optimism.
Our children will rarely be any calmer and more confident than we are.
Avoid reinforcing avoidance behavior.
Too frequently we traumatize children more by allowing them to repeatedly avoid healthy activities that can build their sense of security and self-esteem.
Allow your child to be a child.
Every year, children are being pushed harder to become stars in academics, athletics, music, etc. This isn't good for kids.
Consider professional help.
Because anxiety can have so many different causes, it's always wise to get a professional medical opinion.
In my webinar, Love and Logic Solutions for Early Childhood
, I provide a variety of strategies that send children the message that they are loved and secure. When kids feel this way, they are more capable of facing life without fear.
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Dr. Charles Fay
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