There has got to be something more than this, you tell
yourself as you shuffle off to bed. Its been another defeating day of too many
hours at the office, a hurried, errand-filled lunch break, eating fast food at
your desk while working through stressful deadlines, dealing with your
co-workers latest personal crisis, intense rush hour traffic, shuttling the
kids around to their extra curriculars, throwing together dinner while you
sweep and make lunches for tomorrow - and at the end of the day, a moment or two
to put your feet up in front of the TV - because you can't stand anything else.
Where is y our life going? How is it ever going to get
there? What do you want to be when you grow up? These are all questions that a
life coach can help you answer, while objectively guiding you through the
difficult choices you make day in and
day out, helping you reduce your stress and workload, and teaching you how to
improve your life exponentially by starting with the key component of your
Working with a lifecoach is the best gift you could give
yourself. A coach will help you structure your life in such a way that you have
more time for yourself, less stress and more energy. A life coach will show you
how to set goals, assist you in managing your emotions, and give you the boost
you need to get unstuck and start reaching towards your dreams, to be
successful, prosperous and happy.
A life coach acts
as an objective but involved person in your life. Something of a rental-friend
who is never out to serve their own interests, they are proactive, trained
professionals who guide you through personal development, modifying your
habits, improving your outlook on life's many challenges and will help you tune
in to your destiny and leave the drone work behind.
Before you can succeed with a
life coach, its important to select a life coach that's right for you. Not all
life coaches will be able to successfully help you achieve the balance you are
craving, or get you to the corner office. There are some things you can look
for to see if a life coach is right for you.
First, you want to be sure you
have a clear understanding of why you are contacting a life coach. There might be one specific achievement you
are looking for, or perhaps you are not quite sure why, but your life feels
chaotic and you want to sort it out. A life coach will be better posed to meet
your needs when they understand what they are. It will be easier for you to
select an experienced coach when you know what your purpose is.
Second, you should do some
checking. Many life coaches are certified through an accredited program. There
are several accrediting organizations and a multitude of certifying schools. Be
sure to ask about your prospective coach's training and certification. Find out
how their school is accredited. There is no one way - many excellent life
coach's come from different training, and most accredited schools vary in the
curriculum and vigor - so you'll want to use other measures to determine if a life coach is right for you.
Consider using an agency. Life
Coach Agencies are popping up across the country. Because most life coaching is
done over the phone, its perfectly acceptable to go to an LA agency, even if
you live in Boston. Be careful though. Because of the overhead and notoriety
associated with the agency, you may find yourself paying more for services
you'd get from an independent coach.
Ask for References. Most life
coaches should be able to give you the names and phone numbers of at least 2 or
3 satisfied clients. Nothing speaks louder about the ability of a life coach to
guide you on your personal journey than their successes with other clients.
Calling former or current clients and asking a few simple questions about some
of the positive changes they have seen in their life since working with this
life coach will give you an idea of what you might expect.
How do you feel about the life
coach? Many life coaches offer a free consultation. This is a great way to see
how you and the life coach interact, what communication barriers you might
experience, if you feel at ease discussing your private matters with this
person, and if this person appears to be genuine.
Goals are an important way to
conquer life. The roadmap of our daily journey, the blue print that shapes the
direction our lives take, and the manifesto of what we want to accomplish
before we leave the planet, goals concretely state our plans and allow us to
start breaking our plans down into easy action steps.
There are some easy, positive
goal setting techniques you can follow, to enhance your goals and turn them
into reality faster. When you set yourself up for a planning session, create a
quiet, serene place with music that makes you feel positive and successful,
treat yourself to a nice glass of wine or some gourmet chocolates - give
yourself peace and allow yourself to enjoy the process of writing our your
1. Commit. Write down your goals. Putting it on paper makes it much
more tangible and allows you to better evaluate if its really a goal of yours.
2. Categorize. When you have a lot of goals, its
hard to keep up. You may find yourself overly ambitious in one area of your
life to the detriment of others.
Plan. Get out the calendar. Rome wasn't built in
a day, and neither will your life be. Set a completion time frame for your goal
- if you're not sure, break your goal down into smaller pieces and set yourself
reasonable deadlines. Using a calendar also helps you gauge how many projects
you will be attempting to deal with at a given time and give you a leg up in
4.Evaluate. Listen to your gut. When you write a
goal, examine how your body reacts, as this is a clear indication of how you
feel about it. If you clench up, reevaluate the necessity of it, or at least
see if it can wait for some more fun goals.
5. Be realistic. You are not going to lose 50
pounds in a month without ending up in the hospital. Be kind to yourself and
you will feel the rewards of reaching your goals!
6. Be positive. Feeling great now about your goals,
and believing they are easily attainable will keep you motivated and bring you
faster and lasting success. Even when your goals seem difficult or unreachable
, remember to visualize yourself succeeding and know that will carry you
through the hard times.
Goals motivate us through life
and provide inspiration in some of the darkest hours. Goals make us human.
In This Issue
What About You?
Taking time for yourself seems idyllic and unrealistic to
many of us. With many people taking on an abundance of responsibility and
struggling to make ends meet, taking time for ourselves seems selfish and
irresponsible. What about the bills, the kids, the boss, the husband, the
dishes, the dog and the neighborhood bake sale? Who will water the lawn, who
will get that deadline met?
The truth is, anyone could do it. Let your ego absorb that
for a moment. It doesn't have to be just you doing these things. There is often
others who are capable and able. We are often our own worst enemies --expecting
more out of ourselves than anyone else, and not learning when to say no, out of
a sense of personal obligation to be everything to everyone ... everyone but
Being your own best friend is not as hard as it sounds,
once you've learned to tactfully decline requests for your time and energy, you
will find it gets easier - and you may find requests start to taper off. Just
saying no is as simple as saying, no. You don't even have to explain. If it's
an optional work assignment, explain that the assignment would reduce your
productivity. If it's a pressing need at work, you might ask your boss to help
you prioritize the many tasks he's laid on your desk. Perhaps a friend needs a
weekly babysitter, or your ex wants to take the kids an extra weekend and you
had plans - whatever the case, learn to you the best advocate for yourself and
learn to say no.
Once you've got a little extra time for yourself, decide,
yes decide, how you want to use it. Is there a hobby or art you've longed to
take up? Perhaps you want to take up a fitness or dance class, catch up on your
reading, or just soak in a luxurious bubble bath night after night after night.
Go on, its your right.
Taking care of yourself first, while it seems selfish at
first, will give you more energy and enthusiasm to tackle things that come your
way. It makes you a more pleasant person to be around. Keeping your spirits up
empowers you to be a better you - and it's a much better to go through life.
Not everything that can be counted counts, and not
everything that counts can be counted.
I have learned, that if one advances confidently in the
direction of his
dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he
will meet with a
success unexpected in common hours.
Henry David Thoreau
Happiness depends upon ourselves.
"This one step - choosing a goal and
staying to it - changes everything."
- Scott Reed
Plan Your Day for Success
Guarantee control over your life with this simple video.
Jack Canfield, creator of the Chicken Soup for Soul Series, and world-renowned
life coach explains.