Response-Able Parent Newsletter #86

August 17, 2009

Welcome! This is a free newsletter on becoming a Response-Able parent raising Response-Able children.

Mission Statement

Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.

In This Issue

1.  Quote
2.  Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3.  Bumper Sticker
4.  Article: Learning to Spit
5.  Blog, Blog, Blog
6.  Mission Statement

1. Quote

"What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family."
Mother Teresa

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

Today, choose to be the parent you always wanted to be. Don't think about it. Don't analyze it. Just be it.

3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed on a blue Mercury Mariner in Los Angeles, CA:
Find someone to help.
Eliminate critical . . . . Become supportive.

4. Article: Learning to Spit

By Chick Moorman

"Grandpa, will you teach me how to spit?" my eleven-year-old grandson asked me a few years ago. Hey, that's what grandfathers are for. Most mothers won't teach their kids to spit. It's a dirty, ugly habit, you know. Many fathers don't teach their kids to spit either. They'll teach how to hit a baseball or how to ride a bike. But they are fully aware of the fact that mothers don’t like fathers who teach kids to spit.

Good thing there are grandfathers. Somebody has to teach kids how to spit.

Yes, I taught my grandson how to spit. We worked on learning to get a saliva ball together in your mouth and on how to get it in the back and cock the firing mechanism by squeezing your cheeks together to create the right amount of pressure. Sucking in enough air and expelling the air and saliva all in one coordinated motion had to be explained and practiced. Several attempts were needed to refine this important skill. I wish you could have seen the smile on my grandson’s face when he uncorked a huge expectoration that landed several feet in front of him. Talk about improving a kid's sense of self-esteem!

No one had to utter some global, sappy, manipulative piece of praise like, "Good job." He could see the results in front of him on the ground. Instant feedback. Self confirmation. Success. "I can do it!" he probably thought to himself.

You might think spitting is a waste of time, an unimportant skill to teach a child. I beg to differ. Consider the helpful and useful learnings that can be attached to a gob of spit.

1.    Spitting against the wind is not helpful. It is more useful to go with the flow. After all, swimming upstream is always more of a struggle, isn't it?

2.    What goes up must come down. You might not want to look up when you spit unless you are pretty sure where it's going.

3.    Shoes look better when you spit-shine them. It you don't think so, do one shoe with a spray bottle and spit on the other. See which one gives you the greatest feeling of accomplishment. Unless, of course, you don't shine your own shoes—in which case, it's another issue.

4.    Spit in your own yard. Spitting on the school floor or in your living room is not a good idea.  Choose your places to spit and remember, you have to pick your spot in life to do certain things.

5.    Spit in the presence of someone other than your mother. Mothers think things like spitting are revolting. Spitting in front of your mother is asking for trouble. Plus, it is important to respect most of your mother's desires.

6.    If it doesn't taste right, spit it out. This refers to food, drink, music, activities, anger, frustration, and tobacco. It also works with friends. If they don't treat you like a friend . . . you get the idea.

7.    Watermelon-seed spitting contests in your backyard are healthy competition. It's a time to have fun. Winning and losing here is not a measure of your self-worth. Celebrate everyone's accomplishments and learn from others.

8.    You can get spitting mad instead of fighting mad. Angry with someone? Go outside and spit. Want to hit someone? Go for a walk in the woods and pretend to spit on them. Return when you are all spit out.
Grandfathers have to do their job. Tomorrow, I'm going to buy my granddaughter a jackknife and teach her to clean it by wiping it on her pants. Somebody has to teach these important life lessons. I'm up for it.

Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman are co-authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. Visit their blog at:

10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose


5. Blog, blog, blog your boat gently down the stream.

In response to your requests to hear from us more often, we continue to blog away. Sometimes we blog two or three times a week. And considering the feedback we're getting, we're not going to stop anytime soon!

Recent blog posts you might have missed include:

Please join us at and become a regular reader and a responder on our new web site. Sign up today on the right-hand side of the home page. And while you're there, check out some of the informational articles we've posted.

6. Mission Statement

You know about mission statements, that quick-hitting, one-liner that informs everyone of your purpose. Businesses have them. So do charitable organizations, foundations, and service clubs. We have one at the beginning of this newsletter. Did you see it?

But what about parents? Do they need a mission statement? Why not? We recently heard one, shared by one of our Parent Talk System trainers, Regina Scales.

"My goal is to raise my children to love God:

To become productive citizens.

And to make a contribution to society."

Not a bad idea, this mission statement for parents. How about if you and your spouse sit down tonight and create one for yourselves. Please send it to us. We would love to see it.

If we use it in a newsletter, we'll send you one of our books as our thanks.


Copyright 2009 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.


He's Still Number One

Listen to Thomas Haller's  #1-rated radio show, "Life Answers with Dr. Tom," on WIOG, Thursdays from 7-8 a.m., FM 102.5 in Mid-Michigan.

Special Book

Parent Talk: How to Talk to Your Children in Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility

by Chick Moorman

Paperback book, 291 pages ($15.00).

This book contains the verbal skills that parents need to raise responsible, caring, confident children. To be an effective parent you must be able to use words and language patterns that discourage resistance, reluctance, and resentment. You must learn language that empowers, nurtures, and uplifts rather than language that criticizes, shames, and wounds.

PARENT TALK will tell you what to say so that you can communicate more effectively---and peacefully---with your child. Learn the most effective words for the right situation.


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Aug. 18 - Muskegon, MI.
Keynote and Celebrate the Spirit Whisperers presented by Chick Moorman, 9:00 am - 3:00 pm. Muskegon ISD, Muskegon Community College. For information contact Melba White Newsome at 231-767-7260 or email  
Aug. 28 - Gaylord, MI.
Teaching Respect & Responsibility presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 3:00 pm. St. Fabian School. For information contact Carina Gaynier at  
Aug. 31 - Colebrook, NH.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:30 am - 3:30 pm. Colebrook Public Schools, Colebrook Elementary School. For information contact Mary Melanie Gray at  
Sept. 2 - LaFargeville, NY.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:15 am - 3:15 pm. LaFargeville Central School District, High School. For information contact Susan Whitney at 315-658-2241 or email  
Sept. 3 - Kingston, NY.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:30 am - 3:30 pm. Kingston City Schools, High School. For information contact Julie Linton at 845-943-3940 or email  
Sept. 3 - Kingston, NY.
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, 6:00 am - 8:00 pm. Kingston City Schools, High School. For information contact Julie Linton at 845-943-3940 or email
Sept.  9 - Okemos, MI
8:00am – 2:30 pm, The Pyramid of Responsibility presented by Thomas Haller. Be Excellent Day, Okemos High School, Michigan.
Sept.  9 - Okemos, MI
Teacher Talk: The Language of Response-Able Teaching presented by Thomas Haller. Okemos High School.
Sept. 9 - Okemos, MI
Parenting the Teen: Six Discipline Strategies Every Parent of a Teen Needs presented by Thomas Haller, 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm. Okemos High School.
Sept. 16 - Kangiqsualujjuaq, QC Canada.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:30 am - 3:30 pm. Ulluriaz School. For information contact Mark Brazeau at  
Sept. 21 - Montebello, CA.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:30 am - 3:30 pm. Cantwell - Sacred Heart of Mary. For information contact Giovanna Sergi at
Sept. 22 - Clio, MI
The Six Best Parenting Strategies Ever presented by Thomas Haller, 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm. 

Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 877-360-1477 (toll-free) or e-mail him at


Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at




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