Response-Able Parent Newsletter #88

November 11, 2009

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Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.


In This Issue

1.  Quote
2.  Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3.  Bumper Sticker
4.  Article: Taking Medicine
5.  Parent Talk Tip


1. Quote:

"One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters."
 
George Herbert


2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

What have you been paying attention to as a parent? What if paying attention to something causes it to increase? In what ways would that alter what you choose to pay attention to?


3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed on a green Ford Explorer in Schnecksville, PA:
 
Previous Owner Had
An Honor Student


4. Article: Taking Medicine

Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman
 
Maybe your child needs to take a common aspirin. Or perhaps he has been diagnosed with depression/anxiety and been put on Zoloft by your doctor. He could be eight years old or sixteen. Regardless of age or type of medicine prescribed, what do you do if he refuses to take it? How do you get a strong-willed child to take his medicine when he is determined not to take it? Can you force somebody to swallow?
 
Consider the following do's and don'ts. 
 
1.)  Do not attempt to force your child to swallow medicine. If you take that approach, the problem will only get worse, and it will continue to get worse as he or she grows older. Demanding obedience and exerting adult power in this situation will not work.
 
2.)  Do ask your doctor to prescribe a chewable or liquid version of the medicine. Doctors don't always think of this, and you may have to ask and push him or her to find a medicine easier for the child to take.
 
3.)  Do remember that the dislike of swallowing is more in the mind than in the body's ability to swallow. This child has swallowed bigger gulps of drink and food without realizing it. (However, simply telling her this won’t work.)
 
4.)  Do nurture and be gentle in your approach to help the child understand the importance of the medicine. Emphasize health and safety. Gentleness on the part of the parent is key to making this be a more positive experience for all concerned.
 
5.)  Do work together with your child to find a solution, and come up with creative ways to help him take the medicine: crushing the pills and adding them to applesauce or yogurt; swallowing them with a glass of a favorite juice or other drink; sticking the pill in the back of the throat (as far as possible) and drinking lots of water; or swishing the pill around in a mouth full of liquid and then swallowing it all at once. There is no one best way, just his way. Work cooperatively to help your child find his own best way.
 
6.)  Do not sneak medicine into your child's food or drink. Hiding a
pill in peanut butter may work with your dog. Nix that idea for your child. Stay open about why she needs the medicine and the creative ways you will help her learn to take it.
 
7.)  Do not attach consequences to the taking of medicine. Don't tell your child she will get ice cream if she takes her medicine, or he will lose TV if he doesn't. This is about health and safety, not bribery.
 
8.)  Do focus on health and safety. We do lots of things to stay healthy. We limit sugar drinks and junk food. We limit television and video games. We get shots, go to the dentist, and exercise. We read books, brush our teeth, and get sufficient sleep. Taking medicine becomes one of the many things we do that we sometimes don't like to do. Help your child understand by telling him, "We are going to do this healthy thing and we will find ways to make it as easy as possible."
 
9.)  Do tell your child, "I know that you don't like this medicine, and the doctor says you need to take it for now. You don't have to take it forever, only until we can get you healthy again."
 
Yes, it's tough on parents and children when kids don't want to take medicine. Hopefully, these ideas will help you keep moving forward with gentleness and love as you help your child through this difficult time.
 
 
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free Uncommon Parenting blog. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today: www.uncommon-parenting.com.


10 Commitment: Parenting with Purpose

CLICK HERE TO ORDER THE 10 COMMITMENTS BOOK.

5. Parent Talk Tip

Twenty-One Things Not to Say to Your Child During Study Time
From Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
  1. I have better things to do.
  2. Do we have to go through this every night?
  3. You're wasting time.
  4. If you'd spend as much time working as you do trying to get out of it, you'd be done by now.
  5. Why didn't you do it in school?
  6. Stop staring at the wall.
  7. No TV until you get it done.
  8. You're just being lazy.
  9. I don't have this problem with your sister.
  10. Better make sure you turn it in.
  11. Stop whining.
  12. This would be a lot faster if you knew your times tables.
  13. What are you waiting for?
  14. You can just sit there forever if you want. It's your choice.
  15. You call this neat? I can't even read it.
  16. You only did one in fifteen minutes.
  17. You have no ambition.
  18. Here, let me do it.
  19. Your teacher is an idiot.
  20. You can just do third grade over again.
  21. I haven't got time to show you right now.


Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 877-360-1477 (toll-free) or e-mail him at ipp57@aol.com.

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Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at thomas@thomashaller.com.

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Copyright

Copyright 2009 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.
 
 
 
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Book of the Month
101 Success Tips for Kids

by Reese Haller and Parker Haller
Paperback book ($11.95)
 
 
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Parents and educators want children to be successful. Coaches, school administrators and counselors want children to be successful. Politicians, clergy and grandparents want children to be successful. 101 Success Tips for Kids, written by Reese and Parker Haller, ages 11 and 8, will help children do just that.
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He's Still Number One
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Back Issues
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Schedule
Nov, 12, 2009 - Bay City, MI
How to Get Your Kids to do Homework presented by Thomas Haller, 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm. Bay Valley Hotel and Resort, Bay City, MI. For ticket information contact: Cathy@thomashaller.com. Click here to register on-line. View Flyer.
 
Nov. 14, 2009 – Bloomfield Hills, MI
Parent Talk: How to Set Limits & Increase Responsibility with the Words You Use presented by Thomas Haller, 10:45 am - 11:45 am. Parenting and Wellness Fair, Lahser High School, Bloomfield Hills, MI. For more information visit www.bbfaprevention.org.
 
Nov. 14, 2009 - Bloomfield Hills, MI
The Three Best Parenting Strategies Ever presented by Thomas Haller, 12:30 pm - 1:30 pm. Parenting and Wellness Fair, Lahser High School, Bloomfield Hills, MI. For more information visit www.bbfaprevention.org.
 
Nov. 14 - Montreal, Canada
SPEAQ Convention. Keynote and Concurrent Session presented by Chick Moorman, SPEAQ, Hilton Hotel. For information contact Melanie Ducharme 450-974-7000 ext. 2937 or email melanie.ducharme@videotron.ca.
 
Nov. 16 - Missoula, MT
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 17 - Spokane, WA
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 18 - Seattle, WA
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 19 - Portland, OR
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 20 - Boise, ID
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 20 - Caseville, MI
The Pyramid of Responsibility Assembly presented by Thomas Haller, 10:00 am - 11:15 am. Caseville High School, Caseville, MI.

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