Parent Newsletter #96

November 15, 2010

Welcome! This is a free parent newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.

Mission Statement

Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.

In This Issue

  1. Quote
  2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
  3. Bumper Sticker
  4. Article: Thanksgiving Cooking
  5. Parent Talk Tip: What Have You Said to Your Children Today That Increased Their Emotional Intelligence?
  6. Prepublication Offer---Parent Talk Essentials 

1. Quote:

"Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing."
Proverbs 12:18, NIV 

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

Refuse to ask yourself, How can I win this battle with this child, teacher, neighbor, or relative? Ask instead, How can I rise above the battlefield and react from that perspective?

3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed on a green Nissan Maxima in Columbia, SC:
My Family Tree Has Some
Pretty Twisted Roots.

4. Thanksgiving Cooking

By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
Doing some Thanksgiving cooking this year? Why not alter the menu a bit? Spice it up. Add something new. Increase the variety.
How about cooking up a huge batch of connectedness? Share family stories. Invite people to tell about their favorite Thanksgiving. Get people to work in teams on a treasure hunt. Have everyone put what they are thankful for on a file card. Collect them and read them aloud. Have people guess who wrote each one as they are read.
Peel the skins off your grievances and put them in the garbage disposal. Still upset about something
Grandpa did two years ago? It's time to let it go. Upset because your sister doesn't parent her kids the way you think she should? It's time to peel off the layers of that one and begin again.
Don't allow judgment to stew in its own juices all day. Choose instead to be the silent observer. Work on changing your mind rather than changing others. Let your judgment chill out in the refrigerator.
Serve the sustenance in the right order. Lead with empathy first.  Solving problems, fixing things, and making amends can come later, after the important hors d’oeuvre of empathy is dished out in ample amounts.
Don't allow resentment to boil over. Ask for help if you need it. Invite others to take an active role in cooking and cleaning up. Don't give that which has the hidden price of resentment attached to it. When you give, give with an open heart.
Liberally add doses of language that affirm and uplift. Verbally appreciate, send affection, and offer acknowledgment. Isn't it time to add some food for the soul? Perhaps that is your job this day.
How about serving up some Grade A conversation? Eliminate gossip and talking about the latest episode of Dancing with the Stars. Leave Lindsay Lohan, Brad Pitt, and the state of the economy out of the conversation for a day. Improve the quality of the conversation and you improve the quality of the world.
Refuse to mash what is there. Whatever is there, let that be what you want. What is, is. To emotionally demand something else will burn your energy and darken your attitude.
Serve up one meaningful thing this day that helps someone enjoy a better moment, a better day, or a better life. You are the chef and the server. You get to decide what you feed your family and friends this day.
Prepare Thanksgiving from a get to rather than a have to attitude.  You get to go grocery shopping. You don’t have to. You get to drive two hundred miles. You get to see Grandpa. You get to watch all the kids interact and learn lessons about cooperation and sharing, or not.
Let Thanksgiving simmer slowly. Don't turn it into a microwave experience. There is no need for hurry up this day. Savor it.
Above all else, cook, talk, eat, relax, sit in silence, play, listen, entertain, clean up, pray, and share appreciation with love in your heart. You are worth it. And so is your family.
Happy Thanksgiving.
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of Teaching the Attraction Principle to Children. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free Uncommon Parenting blog. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today:

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5. Parent Talk Tip: What Have You Said to Your Children Today That Increases Their Emotional intelligence?

"You seem angry."
"Are you mad, sad, glad, or scared?"
"Did you recognize the feeling at the time?"
"Let me teach you a positive way to manage anger."
"Sounds like you chose to be frustrated with that."
"What thought preceded that feeling?"
"I have a strange feeling in my gut. I think that's annoyance. Yep. I’m annoyed, all right."
"Tell me what you're feeling and what you attribute it to."
"You get to be angry here. And you don't get to choose that angry act."
"Thank you for sharing your feelings with me."

6. Pre-Publication Offer: Parent Talk Essentials

Parent Talk Essentials: How to Talk to Kids about Divorce, Sex, Money, School and Being Responsible in Today's World is now at the printer’s. We expect copies to be in our warehouse in five weeks. 
We’ve been promising you a knock-your-socks-off prepublication deal. So hold on to your socks, because here comes the deal.
Tons of free stuff with your order of this important book. Way too many giveaways to list here.


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  • Dealing with Divorce: Helping Your Child Through This Important Transition
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From the Archives
Want some more things to be thankful for this Thanksgiving? Perhaps some things you have not thought about? Check out this timely article from our parenting newsletter a year ago. 
Special Thanks This Thanksgiving By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman

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Fred the Mouse: Giving and Receiving

by Reese Haller

Paperback book ($4.97)
The fourth book in the award-winning FRED THE MOUSE book series written by 10-year-old author Reese Haller. Book Four masterfully blends another adventure of Fred the Mouse with an extraordinary message about being a generous giver as well as a gracious receiver. An ideal stocking stuffer for a 5- to 10-year-old.

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