Parent Newsletter #98

February 10, 2011

Welcome! This is a free parent newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.

Mission Statement

Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.

In This Issue

  1. Quote
  2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
  3. Bumper Sticker
  4. Article: We Hear Voices
  5. Parent Talk Tip: What Have You Said to Your Children Today That Taught Them to Emotionally Accept the What Is of Their Lives?
  6. Magnificent Mondays

1. Quote:

"If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others."
Haim Ginott

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

Is there a parenting solution trying to find you today? Are you preventing it from arriving by assuming you already have it? Why not let your solution go and see what arrives to replace it?

3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed on a black pickup truck in St. Paul, MN:
Hate Is Not
A Family Value.

4. We Hear Voices

By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
We hear voices. Yes, both of us. Doesn't everybody?
Usually these voices speak to us when we least expect it. They talk to us when we wake up in the morning, drive down the road, shop in the grocery store, or exercise.  They make themselves heard while we listen to the radio, work with horses, or write a column for this newsletter.
The voices talk to us intermittently. Sometimes we don't hear them for days. At other times they seem to arrive regularly, in rapid succession. We never know when they will show up. Our voices are not predictable. They just pop into our heads sometimes.
The voices can be loud or soft. They can sound angry or sincere. They can threaten or encourage. They can be cold or warm.
Our voices have a familiar sound. We know who they are. They are the voices from parents past, messages that live on in our heads and hearts.
Following are messages from our voices that have spoken to us in the past year.
"Big boys don't cry."
"You are not leaving the house without a belt to hold your pants up."
"You get to have your own pace."
"You need to cut your hair."
"Keep going. You almost had it."
"You could be right about that."
"Don't worry about money. That's my job. If you need some, just come and ask."
"You better do well in algebra, because I can't help you."
"You're wasting your money buying all those baseball cards."
"Wipe that frown off your face."
"I was wrong. I made a mistake."
"You got a mulligan."
"You can take a break whenever you want."
"What will the neighbors think?"
"What do you mean you're not coming for Thanksgiving? We're not going to live forever, you know."
"You're a hard worker. You can handle it."
"You'll know what to do when the time comes."
"I look forward to our time together."
"Thanks for taking care of that. Without your help I probably wouldn't have gotten that done."
"I can get more religion fishing in a boat than I can from going to church on Sunday."
"You need to treat your mother with more respect. Look at all the things she does for you. You need to show her more appreciation."
"Yes, I'll play catch. Let me get a glove."
"You ought to be ashamed of yourself."
"People are different for a reason."
"You get to make your own decisions regardless of what your friends say."
"I love you."
These voices are voices from the past. They were spoken many years ago by parents who were doing the best they could to bring their children up with love and concern. We suspect they did not know at the time that they were planting life sentences in the minds and hearts of their children. We believe that process was largely unconscious on their part.
So now we ask ourselves, "What life sentences are we planting, watering, and cultivating in our children? What voices will they be hearing thirty years from now? Will we like what we are telling them? Will they?"
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of Parent Talk Essentials. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free Uncommon Parenting blog. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today: 

Parent Talk Essentials


5. Parent Talk Tip: What Have You Said to Your Children Today That Taught Them to Emotionally Accept the What Is of Their Lives?

"What parts of this can be changed and what parts cannot?"
"This might be one you have to let go."
"Can you accept what is even as you work to change it?"
"If it is what it is, now what?"
"What's next?"
"It might be time to move on."
"So where can you go from here?"
"Wishing and hoping may not move this."
"Going forward is easier than going back."
"How about forgiveness?”
"Yes, it's hard to accept a result we do not like."
"I think it's time to turn the page."

6. Magnificent Mondays

Want to hear something magnificent about Mondays?
For March and April, Thomas Haller is waiving his normal seminar honorarium and providing FREE parent workshops.
To honor and celebrate Parent Awareness Month (March) and International Parenting Commitment Day (March 20), Thomas Haller is donating six Magnificent Mondays to help parents raise responsible, caring, conscious children.
Call early or you will be left out.


Chick Moorman

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1-877-360-1477 (toll-free)


Thomas Haller

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New Parent Workshops
Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman are now offering new two-hour parent programs based on their new book, Parent Talk Essentials: How to Talk to Kids about Divorce, Sex, Money, School and Being Responsible in Today's World. 
  • Parenting for School Success: Achievement, Homework, and a Positive Attitude
  • Dealing with Divorce: Helping Your Child Through This Important Transition
  • Raising Responsible Children: Fostering Self-Responsibility, Self-Discipline, and Self-Motivation
  • How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex: Beyond Now or Never
  • Raising Money-Wise Children: Rich or Poor
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    Book of the Month

    The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need: Essential Tools for Busy Parents

    by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller

    Finally, a book that delivers practical discipline techniques for busy parents . . .
    The three practical, skill-based strategies presented in this useful book will help you:
    • Eliminate whining, back talk, and procrastination.
    • Gain cooperation without nagging or yelling.
    • Hold children accountable without wounding their spirit.
    • Communicate anger in a respectful way.
    • Design consequences that are reasonable, respectful, and related to the misbehavior.
    • Become the parent you always wanted to be.
    These three amazingly simple strategies are verbal skills that will work with your children. Appropriate from tots to teens! 

    Back Issues
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    Scottsdale/Phoenix, AZ
    Chick Moorman is in Scottsdale, AZ the third week in February for the Arabian Horse Show.  He is available to do parent programs at a reduced fee during that time. Limited engagements available. Call now at toll free, 877-360-1477.

    Feb. 11 - Springfield, MO.
    Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or
    Feb. 17 - Jefferson City, MO.
    Parent/Teacher Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm. Blair Oaks R-11 School District. For information contact Renee Maples at 573-634-2058 or email
    Feb. 18 - Jefferson City, MO.
    Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:30 am - 3:30 pm. Blair Oaks R-11 School District. For information contact Renee Maples at 573-634-2058 or email
    Feb. 23 - Paradise Valley, AZ.
    Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm. Contact Lorna Green at 602-449-2600 or email
    Feb. 28 - Richmond, VA.
    Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or
    March 5 - Livonia, MI.
    Girls Matter Conference presented by Thomas Haller.

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