Parent Newsletter #104

October 13, 2011

Welcome! This is a free parent newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.

Mission Statement

Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.

In This Issue

1.  Quote
2.  Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3.  Bumper Sticker
4.  Article: Back and Forth from Mom's to Dad's: Seven Ways to Ease the Transition
5.  Parent Talk Tip: 10 Things to Say So Your Child Can Say "Good Job" to Himself

1. Quote:

"Mother's intuition is more than a cliché. It's a powerful tool that can help you raise your children."
Ivonne Delaflor

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

In some parenting situation today you can create a miracle by shifting your perception. Will you notice it? Will you make the shift?

3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed in Calgary, AB airport parking lot:
Hitting Children = Uneducated Parenting

4. Article: Back and Forth from Mom's to Dad's: Seven Ways to Ease the Transition

by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman
Does your child have a tough time going from Mom's to Dad's? Does she take a while to settle in? Does he resist getting out of the car? Does she make up stories at one end or the other? Does he cry when it’s time to leave? If so, it might be time to apply some of the following suggestions for a more easeful transition.
  1. When your child arrives at your home, concentrate on helping him connect with you and your place. As soon as he arrives, focus on what happens when he’s there. Play his favorite game. Give him his favorite snack. Welcome him back with the stuff and activities that help him feel connected to this place. Spend some time playing and interacting in his room. For the first hour, focus on this house.
  2. Do not talk about or ask your child what she has been doing at her mother's. That can come later. Definitely refrain from asking questions about her mother. This places the child in the middle. It is not her job to take care of you or her mother. Let her be the child.
  3. After the initial reconnect period, give your child a vision of what WE will be doing this weekend. This takes away the fear of the unknown. Explain or show what is coming up for him. Don't have it be all Disneyland adventures. Just give him some idea of what to expect. With a 3-6 year old it would be good to storyboard upcoming events with pictures. If you're planning to build a snowman, put up a picture of one. Do the same with going to the zoo, reading his favorite books, eating together, etc.
  4. Before it's time to leave and go back to Mom's, debrief the weekend. Review with your child what you shared together, taking turns telling about favorite activities. Point out if she learned something new or did something different. "You learned a new word." "You slept in." "You played Chutes and Ladders."
  5. Then move to talking about the upcoming week at Mom's. Talk about a few of the things your child can expect there. "Mrs. Smith, your preschool teacher, will be excited to see you." "Your dog will be waiting for you." "You'll probably have your favorite meal at Mom's." "I will be calling you during the week." Create a vision for him of what happens at Mom's.
  6. Send your child back with something to show and tell at preschool, something to talk to her classmates or her mother about. When you do this, you are helping her let go while simultaneously giving her a piece of the weekend to hang onto.
  7. Share with your child's mom important things about the weekend that she might need to know: how a bruise was created, how gently he held a frog, a new book he asked to have read to him again and again. If the two of you can get on the same page with transitions, and both of you implement the suggestions above, it will make your child's life much more relaxing and peaceful.
Transitions are not easy for a child at any age. Make them smoother with the ideas above. Your child is worth it. And so are you.
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of Parent Talk Essentials. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free Uncommon Parenting blog. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today:

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5. Parent Talk Tip: 10 Things to Say So Your Child Can Say "Good Job" to Himself

  1. "You did it."
  2. "Your pass was right there so he could kick it in."
  3. "You went up in three classes on this report card."
  4. "Way to go!"
  5. "I appreciate you taking those books to the basement. You saved my aching back."
  6. "Thank you for carrying in the bags. I was able to get dinner ready faster."
  7. "You raked the whole yard in less than an hour."
  8. "Six of your first seven shots went right in. Swish!"
  9. "I clapped as loud as I could when you finished the solo."
  10. "Grandma cried when she read your card."

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Book of the Month
The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need: Essential Tools for Busy Parents
by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
Finally, a book that delivers practical discipline techniques for busy parents . . .
The three practical, skill-based strategies presented in this useful book will help you:
  • Eliminate whining, back talk, and procrastination.
  • Gain cooperation without nagging or yelling.
  • Hold children accountable without wounding their spirit.
  • Communicate anger in a respectful way.
  • Design consequences that are reasonable, respectful, and related to the misbehavior.
  • Become the parent you always wanted to be.
These three amazingly simple strategies are verbal skills that will work with your children. Appropriate from tots to teens! 

Bonus Article: "Winning the Candy Wars"
By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman
Our children are being bombarded with candy from every direction. Chocolate bars, gum, suckers, and assorted gummy candies line the checkout lanes in grocery stores. School fundraisers sell candy bars, cookies, and brownies in the hallways during lunch hours. Every mall, skating rink, soccer complex, movie theater, and even the video store has a place to buy candy.

Oct. 19 - Holt, MI.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 10:00 am. Holt Middle School. For information contact Marshall Perkins at 517-699-3432 or email
Nov. 2 - Midland, MI.
How to Get Your Kids to Do Homework Without Having a Nervous Breakdown Yourself presented by Thomas Haller, 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm. Midland Reformed Church. For more information contact Jill at Click here for flyer.
Nov. 3 - Ann Arbor, MI.
Grace-Full Parenting: How to Infuse your Parenting with Grace presented by Chick Moorman, 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm. St. Francis of Assisi School. For information contact Diane Sheffrey at 734-821-2290 or email
Nov. 9 - Midland, MI.
Winning the War Against Back Talk, Sass and Disrespect presented by Thomas Haller, 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm. Midland Reformed Church. For more information contact Jill at Click here for flyer.

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