TRANSform Your TRANSition Experience through Spirituality
I am launching a new concept for the transgender and transsexual community. It is spiritual services that support an individual that is pre, post, or in transition. Certainly all of the services I will be discussing can be applied to any individual regardless of identity, however, I am adapting many common ceremonies specifically to support transgender and gender fluid individuals especially while preparing for transition.
Many individuals in our Western culture may not know that these spiritual services are available. The source of these services are not based in any dogma or specific religious tradition but are generic spirituality that can augment any individual’s religious belief.
The purpose of the services is to empower transgender individuals by creating pride in who one is, by honoring one’s place in the world, by identifying one’s gifts, and by encouraging those gifts to be shared with the world. Many transgender folks have spent years in fear, shame, stigma, pain, isolation, and victimization. By tapping into one’s soul purpose, finding one’s spiritual path, the old painful skins can be shed and a new skin of hope, healing, and happiness can be stepped into.
The development of these services and ceremonies is designed to aid transgender and transsexual individuals in the following areas:
- Develop freedom from physical and emotional pain
- Manifest financial security
- Feel social acceptance
- Acknowledge spiritual assistance
- Create self-empowerment
- Embrace transition as the true gift it is
If you are interested in any of these ceremonies for yourself, you can hire me as an experienced ritualist to perform the ceremony for you or I can work with you to customize a ceremony specifically for you to conduct on your own.
This section applies to anyone that is considering changing your name. Your name is an energetic sign to everyone you meet of who you are and what your identity is.
A surname is the family name that we inherit at birth. Many would believe that we have no control over this name. However, if you believe in the pre-life selection process associated with reincarnation, you most likely chose your parents and hence also your surname.
Your given name is the first name or familiar name that your parents bestowed upon you at birth. Once again, this is something you were not able to vote on at the time it was given to you.
Many people accept the names given at their birth as sacred and unchangeable. However, in some cultures, one’s name identity is fluid. For example, in some Native American tribes, a child would be named after something that was relevant at his/her birth. However, when s/he completes the rite of passage from childhood to adulthood, s/he is assumes a new name.
In Australia, the Aborigine do not celebrate birthdays but the tribe does celebrate naming ceremonies. For instance, as a person grows into an identity, such as a storyteller for example, s/he will pick a name associated with his/her gift. The entire tribe will then join in celebration of the new name.
In pagan and magick traditions, individuals choose a secret “magic” name that they will use in ceremony and ritual.
So it seems very fitting that a transgender person that decides to physically transition will assume a new name that corresponds to their “chosen” gender. In our Western culture, this usually is marked by going to the DMV to obtain a new driver’s license. In addition, all legal documents including passport, social security, and birth certificate need to be changed. Quite often, a person will have their name legally changed by a court order.
However, what is most often overlooked is the ceremony that should go with acquiring a new name. After all, a name is a huge identity marker. Stepping into the energy of a new name should be honored with a ritual. This ritual can be performed in solitary as a contract between you and your soul. Or it can be a ceremony in which others are present as witnesses.
I have created a ceremony that involves everyone in the group blessing your new name before it is energetically integrated into your physical body.
There are many ways to choose a new name for yourself. You can do it randomly, choosing a name that you like the sound of. You can choose a name that is symbolic of something important to you. You can even go on line and find a name generator and see what comes up. Here are a few name generator sites:
If you are really meticulous about the energy of your name, you can use numerology to design a name with specific intent or meaning. Here are a few on line sites that will help you figure out the numerology of your name choices:
Gratitude & Release Ceremony
Often when we are in an unpleasant place in our lives, we begin to feel stuck there. Sometimes this stuckness perpetuates itself because we are in resistance. In order to move or shift, it becomes necessary to create a radical transformation in our perceptions.
In the Peruvian Andes there is a concept called “ayni”, which means to be in right relationship. Ways to bring you into right relationship involves:
1. Being grateful for what you have. (You can formalize your gratitude through ceremony.)
2. Radically forgiving those you feel have wronged you. (Refer to Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping)
3. Removing your resistance by accepting that your situation as a lesson specifically to help you grow. (It’s good medicine and a karmic healing.)
4. Being grateful for blessings on their way. (From the Native American concept of giving thanks for unknown blessings already on their way.)
5. Energetically release those situations and/or people that no longer serve you thereby making room for something new to flow in. (You can formalize your release through ceremony.)
Once these steps are complete, the energy shifts automatically, the new can flow into your life, and you are off and running into something new and exciting. Perhaps a dream of a lifetime comes true or a passion of yours is discovered.
As a trans person about to embark on the great transition, a Gratitude and Release Ceremony is highly recommended to aid in removing old energetic patterns and making space for new ones to come in.
Gratitude is a huge part of acceptance that is necessary to bringing peace to your soul, as is shown by some of the following quotes:
The thankful receiver bears a plentiful harvest. -William Blake
Whatever you appreciate and give thanks for will increase in your life. ―Sanaya Roman
Gratitude opens the door to abundance. –Unknown
Gratitude in advance is the most powerful creative force in the universe. -Neale Donald Walsch
Gratitude is an opener of locked-up blessings. -Marianne Williamson
Rite of Passage Ceremony for 2nd Puberty
A rite of passage is a ritual event that marks one’s transition from one status to another. One of the biggest transitions is between childhood and initiation into adulthood.
Rites of passage are also used celebrate other milestones in an individual's life. The seven major ones in binary gender, hetero-normative society identified as:
7. Ancestorship (Death)
However, a transsexual’s rite of passage stages can be quite different. The stages of rites of passages are dependent on what age transition is undertaken. In most instances, transition occurs in early to late adulthood so I have based the stages (below) on this. However, some transitions are being undergone at the actual age of 1st puberty, hence the general population’s model above can be used. The stages are:
1. First Birth
2. First Puberty
3. First Adulthood
4. Rebirth (commences with decision to transition and is accompanied with Naming Ceremony, adopting a new name)
5. Second Puberty (commences with hormone treatment therapy)
6. New Adulthood (commences with sex reassignment surgery if chosen)
8. Ancestorship (Death)
I consider two ceremonies to be the most important to a transgender person in transition:
1. The Naming Ceremony
2. The Rite of Passage
a. - From Girlhood to Manhood – A celebration of joining the adult male world includes a symbolic activation of fertilizing seeds. As a new father of the world, you use your masculine values to welcome your new self, standing in the fields of self-empowerment and bringing to harvest, the gifts of your soul.
b. - From Boyhood to Womanhood – A celebration of joining the adult female world includes a symbolic activation of menses. As a new mother of the world, you use your feminine values to welcome your new self into your loving arms and rebirth then nurture all the gifts of your soul.
Our western culture has become virtually devoid of ritual and ceremony. Of course there are the traditional ones associated with births, graduations, weddings, and funerals but adding specific ceremony for other rites of passage enriches our lives immensely. In addition, these ceremonies honor the individual and a deeper bond to community is formed when others share in the celebration of rites of passage.
Soul retrieval is bringing back soul parts that have been lost, stolen, or put away for safe keeping. Soul parts may be lost in two basic ways:
- Parts of one’s soul can be lost during traumatic events. Soul parts may be given away for safe keeping by the individual as a means of defense.
- Parts of one’s soul may be stolen by others that want to hold a piece of someone.
The symptoms of soul loss are many and include: trauma, post traumatic stress syndrome, shock, immune deficiency problems, chronic illness, coma, chronic depression, suicidal feelings, inability to heal, inability to move forward, long term grief, addictions, disassociation, lost memories, spaciness, inability to feel, feeling lost, incomplete, stuck, dispirited, or feeling unable to move forward, like you have no control, like a part of you has died, like something in life is missing, like someone stole your soul or a part of you, or like you want to return to a person/location for no good reason, or lost something you can’t get back.
It is almost guaranteed that someone who has grown up transgender or gender fluid has put away soul pieces for safe keeping. Transition is the perfect time to bring those pieces back to fully integrate in the new lifestyle.
The benefits of a soul retrieval can be: feeling more present, feeling more connected, moving forward easier, making decisions or changes easier, or making self-improvements.
In addition, a person may be possessing soul pieces from others. During the process of soul retrieval, these bits can be released. It would make perfect sense that a transgender person may be holding soul bits of others especially individuals in the desired gender that one aspires to.
Body Part Retrieval
The mechanics of body part retrieval is similar to those of soul retrieval however instead of bringing lost soul pieces back to the client for integration, the energetic imprint of specific body parts are united with the client for integration.
This procedure is designed to bring in the desired body part before sex reassignment surgery. For example, an MTF (male-to-female) may want to release a penis and “call in” a new vagina. Or a FTM (female-to-male) may want to release breasts and “call in” a new penis.
I have written an article about the differences between the energy body and the physical body (refer to http://www.drakeinnerprizes.com/articles.htm). I believe in the case of a pre-op transsexual that the desired body parts already reside within the energy body. During a body part retrieval those energetic parts would be “pulled down into” the physical body, creating an imprint for the actual physical manifestation to occur through surgical procedure. This ceremony makes the integration of the energy body and physical body a conscious process as well as providing a celebration of the incorporation of wholeness between body and mind.
In addition, this pre-surgical ceremony includes making the chakras and aura healthy and strong which will aid in post-surgical healing.
Past Life Regression Journeys
A past life regression (PLR) is a therapeutic process accessing the unconscious memory of birth and past lives through hypnosis. Discovering past lives can give information and understanding often not found in this lifetime. It is also an effective way to heal past trauma by transforming the way we remember core issues.
A hypnotherapist trained in past life regression is an excellent facilitator in helping a person journey to other lives. The main reason a transgender client may want to explore past lives is to discover karma, contracts, and vows created in past lives that profoundly affect this life or have set the stage to come in as a transgender body.
Typical questions to ask in past lives are:
1. Who are you?
2. Are you male or female?
3. What is your skin color?
4. How old are you?
5. Where are you?
6. What is the date?
7. What are you doing?
8. Why are you doing it?
9. How do you feel about doing it?
10. Who is with you and what is your relationship to them?
11. Do you recognize that person(s) in this lifetime?
12. How does this lifetime relate to the current one?
13. What is your contract? What was your vow at death, if any?
A between lives regression (BLR) is a visit to the 5th dimension, spirit world, or after life space that we live in when we are not incarnated. This experience is also facilitated through a hypnotic state. The between lives state is where we meet our spirit guides and teachers and other members of our soul group. Some of the reasons to visit the between lives dimension is to discover pre-life contracts and agreements, one’s purpose for this lifetime, and one’s overall soul purpose.
Typical questions to ask in this dimension are:
1. Who is your guide?
2. Who are the members of your soul family?
3. Who is your primary soul mate?
4. What is the purpose for your choice of body, particular talents, life circumstances?
5. Who and why did you create your family of creation (parents/mates/children)?
6. How are you progressing in this life?
7. What is your life purpose?
8. What is the overall soul purpose?
9. What are your specific challenges or limitations and how can you let them go?
Spiritual Mentoring, Gender & Sexuality Workshops, & Personal Retreats
I have identified the following common energetic themes for transgender, transsexual, and gender fluid (TG/TS/GF) individuals.
1. The physical body is not grounded. Often someone who is TG/TS/GF does not really like their physical body so they do not spend a lot of time in it. Perhaps they only partially inhabit the physical body, for example from the waist up or the neck up. Instead they tend to spend a lot of time in their heads. Not being grounded in the physical body can leave an individual vulnerable to accidents and other problems.
2. Energy boundaries may be weak or damaged. Rejecting the physical body that does not match the energetic body and wishing for another physical body weakens the boundaries of the body, leaving it susceptible to invasion by foreign energy such as entities or seeds that can develop into disease. In addition, energetic bodies may have sustained rips, tears, and dents from life events that are in need of repair.
3. Hyper-vigilance is strong. The 3rd eye, the home of intuition, of a TG/TS/GF individual is wide open due to learning the skills of hyper-vigilance and empathy at a young age. Hyper-vigilance is further developed from reading how others read yourself.
4. Holding shame creates low self-esteem. TG/TS/GF individuals are shunned, stared at, and whispered about beginning in early childhood. A lifetime of being stigmatized creates feelings of worthlessness and deserving to be unloved.
5. Preferred genitalia really are present. Others may not see your genitals physically manifested but you know they exist energetically. As Shirley Maclaine often says: “The absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.” The body of your choice does exist in an energetic state.
6. There is no such thing as “being born in the wrong body”. The root origins that make a person TG/TS/GF are varied and multi-dimensional but the most important influence is that of past lives. There are no accidents or coincidences in the universe. Being TG/TS/GF is a part of the pre-birth contract that was created for this incarnation and may be related to a karmic lesson.
As a certified hypnotherapist and trained shamanic energy medicine practitioner and teacher, I can provide energy medicine exercises, healing sessions, and regression sessions that will assist individuals in all of the above themes.
I can work with anyone that desires to go on personal retreat. Together we will create a customized experience just for you and your needs.
In addition, I offer classes and workshops that are specific to the subject of gender identity and sexual orientation. One example is my workshop called Dreaming the Energetic Body: Bridging the Worlds between the Physical & the Energetic. This is an experiential workshop that focuses on aligning one’s physical body image with one’s mental picture of that body.
Our energetic bodies may or may not match our physical bodies. Dreaming is using our inner eye to visualize and experience our energy body. In this workshop, we validate the energy body by getting to know it better through guided meditation and experiential exercises. A special focus is put on energy bodies that are incongruent with the physical body. This condition is most apparent in individuals with gender issues, weight issues, or physically impaired bodies. The more closely we can align our energy body and our physical body the better we can feel. Alignment starts with acknowledgement from ourselves and then from others.
Customized Self Hypnosis Recording
I will work with you to create a customized self-hypnosis recording. In order to do that I will have an extensive interview with you to address all of the issues you would like assistance with. Then I will write a hypnotic script, which provides positive affirmation type statements as post-hypnotic suggestions. These scripts are written specifically for the subconscious mind to understand and accept.
The recording will consist of the following parts:
1. Trance Induction – includes relaxation techniques and mental expectation creation
2. Script Reading – includes post-hypnotic suggestions
3. Trance Return – returning to alert, awakened consciousness feeling completely refreshed or if listening to as you fall asleep, falling into a deeply relaxed state of sleep.
4. Relaxing Background Music
Suggested specific areas of focus to include in the script are:
1. Freedom from Physical Pain
- Manage surgical pain
- Manage pain of electrolysis
- Manage pain and anxiety of hormonal injections
2. Freedom from Emotional Pain
- Clear away depression and anxiety
-Remove shame and stigma
-Increase self-esteem and self-confidence
-Improve relationships with: family, significant others, friends, work peers and managers
3. Social Acceptance
-Create confidence in your sexual attractiveness
-Find comfort in living in your chosen gender role including your clothes, voice, and body language
-Feel safe in private and public situations
-Take pride in being a pioneer and role model in the new age of gender choices
4. Financial Security
-Manifest money for medical bills, therapy sessions, new wardrobe, and living expenses during and after transition
5. Spiritual Assistance
-Ask higher power (based on your personal spiritual beliefs) to stand by you and support you
-Create a powerful foundation of inner spiritual guides
-Create open communication with your Higher Self
-Develop a better understanding of your Self and your purpose in this life
- Discovering what your Future Self looks like at 1 year and 5 years from now
- Creating your romantic, relationship, family, financial, career, and spiritual goals
The recording will be an MP3 file that can be available on CD or provided electronically to you.
Trans Spirit Reading List
Here is a recommended reading list, some books on general spiritual concepts and a few specific to transgender issues:
Linda Backman - Bringing Your Soul to Light: Healing Through Past Lives and the Time Between
Sakhi Bhava - Transgender Spirituality: Man into Goddess
Coleen Deatsman – The Hollow Bone
Donna Eden – Energy Medicine & The Energy Medicine Kit
Raven Kaldera - Hermaphrodeities: The Transgender Spirituality Workbook
Will Roscoe – Changing Ones: 3rd and 4th Genders in Native North America
Susan Stryker – Transgender History
Colin Tipping – Radical Forgivenes
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