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Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. Back-to-School Web Blasts
5. A Wisdom Story
6. Give It Up
"If you would stop trying to impose your way on others, and begin listening to what they might offer as alternatives, you could eliminate all your battles, from family fights to world wars."
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
Are you stuck with a parenting problem? Perhaps it is time to remember that you always have more choices than you think you have. Can you consider the possibility that there might be a better way? That there might be several better ways?
Noticed on a green Chevy Chevette in Cedar Rapids, IA:
I Run Like a Girl
4. Article: Back-to-School Web Blasts
There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. "Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today." So she did, and she had a grand day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only two hairs on her head. "Hmmm . . . ," she said, "I think I'll part my hair down the middle today." So she did, and she had a grand day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only one hair on her head. "Well," she said, "I think I'll wear my hair in a ponytail." So she did, and she had a fun, fun day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror, and noticed there wasn't a single hair on her head. "YAY!" she exclaimed. "I don't have to fix my hair today!"
Note: Attitude is everything. Especially when parenting. You can never "not" model. Your children are watching you. They are learning from how you react to the hairs on your head.
Give up gossip. The number one bullying technique being used on the Internet today (by girls) is gossip. Who do you think they learned that from?
Give up complaining about teachers in front of your children. If you have a concern, talk to the teacher directly.
Give up "Good job!" Replace it with "You did it!"
Give up overfunctioning and rescuing your children. Allow them to learn from the outcomes of the choices they make.
Give up comparing your children to others. Your child is unique. There is no need to make him or her "better than" or "worse than" in your mind.
Give up the need to be right. Being right doesn’t work. It creates distance and destroys relationships.
Give up "shoulding on" your children. "Should" produces guilt and anxiety.
Give up background noise. Allow your child to experience silence on occasion.
Give up looking at problems. Look for solutions.
Give up neat and orderly. Allow your child to make a mess once in a while.
Give up mental scorekeeping. Treat each incident as if it was the first time it ever happened.
Give up talking so much. Talk less, act more.
Give up taking it personally. Your sense of self is not dependent on your child’s behavior.
Give up doing for your children. Never do for them what they can do for themselves.
Give up deleting these parent newsletters without reading them. Always read every word and send us a positive message.
Give up deciding everything. Allow children input on decisions.
Give up focusing on your child’s perceived faults. Focus on his or her strengths.
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The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need: Essential Tools for Busy Parents
by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
Learn how to deal effectively with whining, backtalk, pouting, teasing, ignoring, procrastinating, lying, swearing, and other inappropriate behaviors.
This useful book delivers three practical, skill-based, amazingly simple verbal discipline strategies that will work with your children, from tots to teens!
The Language of Response-Able Parenting
Featuring Chick Moorman
This 5-CD series gives a strong overview of the Parent Talk System. It includes ideas on how to develop controlled choice for children, how to praise to create a strong internal sense of self-esteem, and how to stamp out learned helplessness. Learn skills necessary to manage negative behaviors, communicate anger without wounding the spirit, and help your children develop a solution-seeking attitude. Practical verbal strategies that work!
September, October, November Parenting Workshops
With Chick Moorman or Thomas Haller
Practical two-hour sessions that parents can put to use immediately include:
The Only 3 Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound
Good Praise/Bad Praise
How to Make Your Child Do Homework Without Having a Nervous Breakdown Yourself
How to Talk to Your Children About Sex
The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose
Transforming Aggression in Children
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Aug. 28 - Manassas, VA.
Concurrent Sessions: The Missing Link: Debriefing and The One-Minute Behavior Modifier presented by Chick Moorman. Prince William County Public Schools, Career and Tech Center. For more information contact Doug Wright at 703-791-7297 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Aug. 29 - Swift Current, SK, Canada.
The Missing Links: Debriefing and Good Praise/Bad Praise presented by Chick Moorman, 10:45 am - 11:45 am and 1:15 pm - 2:15 pm. The Total Student Conference. For more information contact Nancy Leroy at 306-297-2733 ext. 246 or email email@example.com.
Sept. 21 - Stanton, MI
Keynote: The Only Three Discipline Strategies presented by Thomas Haller. Great Start Early Childhood Conference, Montcalm Community College.
Sept. 21 - Stanton, MI
Breakout Session: The Essential Elements of Praise presented by Thomas Haller. Great Start Early Childhood Conference, Montcalm Community College.
Sept. 24 - Hart, MI.
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Empower presented by Chick Moorman, 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm. Hart Public Schools, Spitler Elementary Gym. For more information contact Kathy Dickinson at 231-873-6366 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thomas on television answering viewer questions:
Relationship Matters – Every Monday at 9:15 am on WNEM TV5 Better Mid-Michigan
Family Matters with Thomas Haller
Fridays at noon, Saturdays at 8:45 am, Sundays at 7:45 am and 8:45 am on WNEM TV5. Also streaming live at: www.wnem.com
To view Dr. Tom's previous Family Matters
segments, CLICK HERE
Thomas on the radio answering questions and discussing hot topics:
Every Thursday morning at 7:30 am on CARZ 108FM – Streaming live online www.wcrz.com