Parent Newsletter #123
February 25, 2014
Welcome! This is a free parent newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.
Mission Statement
Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.
In This Issue
1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. New and Available Now
5. Article: How to Protect Your Children from Sexual Advances of Educators
6. Change Your Words
7. Sign Language
8. It's a Fact
1. Quote
"The first duty of love is to listen."
 
Paul Tillich
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
What if parenting perfection is never found in the outside situation or event? What if it can only exist in the mind and attitude of the person who looks?
3. Bumper Sticker
Noticed on a white Chevy Malibu in Cave Creek, AZ:
 
Proud Parent of a Shelter Dog
4.  New and Available Now
The Parent Talk Tip Collection: 730 Practical Verbal Skills to Help You Raise Responsible, Caring, Conscious Children
 
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
 
 
This e-book is available today. You can upload it now and begin putting it to use with your family immediately.
 
SNEAK PREVIEW
 
Parent Talk Tip #4
 
Toddlers respond better to "Watch me and pet the dog like this" than they do to "Don't be hitting the dog.”
 
Parent Talk Tip #14
 
"One, two, three" informs your kid, "You don't have to move until I start counting. Until then, treat me as invisible."
 
Parent Talk Tip #432
 
"I have the blanket and the candles. Get your favorite book. Let's read aloud by candlelight."
 
730 Tips to use with your family. Only $7.95 and NO postage or shipping.
 
4.  Article: How to Protect Your Children from Sexual Advances of Educators
 
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
 
No. This will not be an article on how to protect your children from sexual advances of educators. This issue is bigger than that. This issue is more important than that. We just put educators in the title so you would be tempted to read further.
 
Talking to your kids about how to protect themselves from sexual advances of educators is a poor investment of your time and of theirs. It is a poor investment because educators are no more likely to be sexual predators than clergy, your next door neighbor, police, fire fighters, lawyers, business people, counselors, Girl Scout leaders, choir directors, refrigerator repairmen, or close relatives. Your efforts need to be directed toward protecting your children from sexual advances from anyone.
 
So, how does a parent do that? Following are some do's and don'ts designed to help you help your children steer clear of inappropriate sexual advances.
  1. Do expand your conversations on this topic to include everyone. Yes, some educators attempt to have sex with their students. So do a small representation of all parts of society. Be inclusive. 
  2. Do not make this a one-time-only conversation. It could begin with young children while you are assisting with a bath. It can be readdressed intermittently as they grow older, ending in conversations prompted by news reports of sexual misconduct. Return to this topic throughout the ages and stages of your child's growth. 
  3. Do manage your own anxiety during these conversations. Some parents get nervous when discussing sexual topics. Be casual. The goal here is not to scare your children, but to give them vital information. 
  4. Do use the correct names of body parts. It is a penis, not a wee wee. Call it a vagina rather than referring to it as "down there." 
  5. Do teach your children that no one can invade their space without their permission. This could begin when children are toddlers and Aunt Berta wants to give them a big kiss. If they don't want to, they don't have to. They don't have to sit on someone's lap. They do not have to hold hands unless it is a safety issue. They control their space and they control their bodies. 
  6. Do help them learn to tell Grandma they don't want to sit on her lap in a polite way. Give them the words to use if necessary. Practice. 
  7. Do not teach them to say NO without practicing. 
  8. Do teach them to check it out inside. If it feels uncomfortable, get out of there. If it feels dangerous, RUN. 
  9. Do teach children that with sexual issues safety trumps politeness. They can be polite later if necessary. Go with what feels safe now. 
  10. When children honor their feelings by announcing that someone is in their space or by leaving the room because they are uncomfortable with someone present, stick up for them. Support their actions with words and actions of your own if needed.
  11. Do not make this about fear or danger. Keep the focus on healthy living. Help your children appreciate that these are skills needed to keep themselves healthy. 
  12. Do not teach your children to tell another adult first. The scout master, the priest, the playground supervisor, the coach may try to talk them out of it. They may not know how to respond appropriately to feelings involving issues of this magnitude.
  13. Do teach them to come directly to you if someone touches them or talks to them inappropriately. 
  14. Teach them the number one clue that danger is present. That important clue is these words: "Don't tell your mom or dad. This is our secret." If they hear those words, it is time to tell NOW! 
  15. Do teach the one exception to the suggestion above: Don't tell if it's a NICE surprise. Gifts and presents can be secrets. 
  16. Do teach teens the number one red flag of sexual predators. They are older. Whether you like it or not, teens are going to explore their sexuality. It is age appropriate. What is not appropriate is when the one making the advances is much older than the one being targeted.
One final comment: Do believe your children if they tell you about sexual abuse. Children hardly ever lie about this. Hardly ever. Please believe them.
 
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of Parent Talk Essentials: How to Talk to Kids about Divorce, Sex, Money, School, and Being Responsible in Today’s World. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free Uncommon Parenting blog. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today: www.uncommon-parenting.com.
Parent Talk Essentials By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
Parent Talk Essentials is a valuable collection of successful strategies for helping parents raise responsible, caring, conscious children.
 
In this book you will find effective Parent Talk that will help your children, tots to teens, navigate life's challenges concerning divorce, sex, money, school, relationships, being responsible, and other important issues.
 
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6. Change Your Words
Change "bully" to "bullying behavior."
 
If your thought is, "She is a bully," change your thought to, "She chose a bullying behavior." When you speak, let your words point to the behavior rather than to the person. When you call her a bully, you label her as being that way. Your words make permanent. When you speak about the behavior, your words do not define your daughter. They simply point out one behavior that she did one time.
 
The same holds true for…
  • troublemaker
  • whiner
  • uncoordinated
  • procrastinator
  • quitter
  • selfish
  • foulmouthed
  • lazy
  • rude
  • cocky
  • poor loser
  • liar
  • and many more
7. Sign Language

 
8. It's a Fact
We now have 14,975 subscribers to our Parenting Newsletter.
 
Thank you for being a regular reader. We appreciate your support and encouragement.
 
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Seminar Schedule
March 6 - Brighton, MI.
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, 6:30 pm - 9:00 pm. Maple Tree Montessori. For more information contact Sue Cherry at 810-599-3326 or email info@mapletreemontesori.com.
 
March 14 - Ten Sleep, WY.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 3:30 pm. Washakie County School District #2. For more information contact Neysha Lyman at 307-366-2233 Ext. 102 or email nlyman@wsh2.k12.wy.us.
 
March 17 - Rochester, MI.
10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose presented by Chick Moorman, 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm. Crittenton Hospital Medical Center. For more information contact Angela DelPup at 248-652-5174 or email adelpup@crittenton.com.
 
March 25 - Lathrop, CA.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
April 29 - St. Clair, MI.
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, 9:00am - 11:00 am and 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm. Eddy Elementary, East China Public Schools. For more information contact John Fitzmaurice at 810-676-1553 or email jfitzmaurice@ecsd.us.
 
May 8 - Fort Wayne, IN.
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm. Oak Farm Montessori. For more information contact Megan O'Sullivan at 260-897-4270 or email mosullivan@oakfarmschool.com.
 
May 12 - Burlington, VT.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
May 13 - Long Island, NY.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
May 14 - Whie Plains, NY.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
May 15 - Baltimore, MD.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
May 16 - Cherry Hill, NJ.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
May 20 - Albany, NY.
Teaching and Learning the Skills Needed for Academic Success: Self-Discipline, Perseverance, Confidence, Hope, and Resilience Grades K-12 presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
May 21 - Manchester, NH.
Teaching and Learning the Skills Needed for Academic Success: Self-Discipline, Perseverance, Confidence, Hope, and Resilience Grades K-12 presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
May 22 - Chicago, IL (Chicago South).
Teaching and Learning the Skills Needed for Academic Success: Self-Discipline, Perseverance, Confidence, Hope, and Resilience Grades K-12 presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
May 23 - Chicago, IL (Chicago North).
Teaching and Learning the Skills Needed for Academic Success: Self-Discipline, Perseverance, Confidence, Hope, and Resilience Grades K-12 presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
Media Schedule
 
Thomas on television answering viewer questions:
 
Relationship Matters – Every Monday at 9:15 am on WNEM TV5 Better Mid-Michigan
 
Family Matters with Thomas Haller Fridays at noon, Saturdays at 8:45 am, Sundays at   7:45 am and 8:45 am on WNEM TV5. Also streaming live at: www.wnem.com.
 
To view Dr. Tom's previous Family Matters segments, CLICK HERE.
 
Thomas on the radio answering questions and discussing hot topics:
 
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Listen to Thomas on The Thomas and Valerie Show on www.prx.org or on www.thethomasandvalerieshow.com.
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