Creating Your Own Reality—
How's That Working for You?
There’s been a lot of buzz in the past few years about the Law of Attraction and the idea that we create our own reality. But is that true? Do we really create our own reality? And if so, why would we create some of the things we’ve created in our lives? Are we masochistic or just nuts?
The idea was popularized in the late 1970s, in the Seth Material, a group of channeled books by Jane Roberts. It was a radical idea, and it pretty much caused heads to explode all over the place! About 10 years ago, The Secret brought the idea back into the popular culture, as everyone embraced the idea of envisioning themselves to wealth and success.
So, do we really create our own reality? If so, why aren’t we doing a better job of it, creating more love, joy, peace, and abundance for ourselves and for the world? Why aren’t we all out there doing just that?
We are, in fact, divine, powerful creator beings, and yes, we are creating our lives in many ways, on many levels, in every moment. But here’s the rub (er, the disclaimers):
1) Most of the time, we are creating unconsciously, from deep beliefs, assumptions, and expectations that we may not even know we have (OUCH!), and it is very hard to take responsibility for our role in creating situations we don't like and that we think are someone else's fault;
2) We aren't creating in a vacuum. We are co-creating with the millions of other creator beings in the world, who are also creating unconsciously, and our creations can impact each others' (what we see, in our personal lives and in the outer world, is what we get when that happens);
3) Energizing the vision of what we want is usually only the first step, and sitting on the couch waiting for what we want to miraculously appear won't work; we must take action;
4) Once we set the vision, we must let go of the outcome; when we try to control it, we prevent the flow of Magic that can bring us something better than we ever imagined;
5) There is a timeline—a gap—between our sending out the creative impulse or intention and the manifestation of it, and our negative beliefs, doubts, and fears and/or lack of action can delay or cancel it, or even create the opposite of what we want (i.e., if we send out the intention to attract more money, a new job, a new love, or whatever, but we subconsciously believe that we don’t deserve it, that there is a limited supply, that it’s hard to get those things, or that we will fail, those beliefs will prevent ourselves from receiving what we want);
6) We can often manifest the easy, non-essential things quickly—such as a parking place or the perfect jacket to match those new slacks—simply because we have no deep-seated beliefs against our receiving those things;
7) There is usually no clear-cut, observable cause-and-effect, so it is difficult to “hone our manifestation skills” and practice; and
8) Sometimes we just aren’t supposed to have what we are trying to create.
Often the very situations in our lives that we would like to eliminate are there because of a soul plan, and those situations will not shift until we fulfill their purpose, provide whatever service we had planned to provide, learn whatever we intended to learn, overcome our fear, empower ourselves, take action, and shift inside.
For example, if we came into this life with the soul plan to experience a disabling accident or illness—with the idea that the situation would allow us to learn to receive love and assistance, and give others the opportunity to care for someone—it is unlikely that any amount of working with the Law of Attraction or envisioning will heal us. Alternatively, if our soul goal was to overcome a disability, and we've done our part to learn and grow from the situation, a path to overcoming it will present itself.
Too often, we view the idea of creating our reality as a quick fix to all our problems, a magical means of controlling our lives and our environment—and even the people around us—through our conscious minds and our egos, to create all those material things and external circumstances that we think we want and need to be happy. Too often, we view the idea of creating our reality as the “magic pill” to make us instantly wealthy and thin (or whatever), while we conveniently bypass the messy, hard parts of learning, growing, and persevering.
But it doesn’t work that way. We all know that there is no such thing as a “magic pill,” even while we hope with all our hearts that there is one, and we’ll find it! In order to bring meaningful, lasting change into our lives, we know, deep down, that we must change our erroneous beliefs, confront our inner demons, face down our fears, put our ego in the back seat, get over our pride and our deeply held needs to control everything and be right all the time, and surrender… and then (as if that weren’t hard enough!), we must take actions, even if they are only baby steps, toward our goals. And, when resistance or difficulties show up in our path, we must work through those, reaffirm our goals, focus on what we want, and keep moving forward.
Otherwise, we'd miss all the fun, right?
This is not an easy process, but it is THE process. (as long as the majority of us believe it is!) It is what life is all about. It is about stripping away the false thoughts and beliefs that keep us imprisoned (in the Hell of our own creation, so to speak). It is about learning to be flexible, rising above challenges, learning and maturing from our experience, learning to trust ourselves and the Universe... and finally getting back to a point where we are truly living as our authentic selves and treating ourselves and each other with love and respect as we learn to peacefully co-exist.
If we really were here to wave a magic wand and create the life of our dreams (aka what we have been led to think we want), we would all be doing that right now (and probably making a mess)! We would all receive our magic wands in the delivery room, or as a rite of passage when we turned… what? 15? 18? 21? Yikes! Can you imagine a bunch of 15 year-olds with magic wands, able to create anything they want? Haha, parents would be disappearing across the planet in record numbers (and they would take broccoli with them)!
So How Does it Really Work?
Inventor Nikola Tesla told us: If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.
The being(s) called Abraham, channeled through Esther Hicks, teach that we are all creating our reality under the Law of Attraction, based on the vibration we are putting out into the world. In essence, they say that we get back what we put out.
There is a famous adage, As above, so below. The lesser-known corollary to that is, As within, so without. The Law of Attraction, based on our vibration, explains how that corollary works: We can only attract into our lives people and circumstances that resonate with the vibration we are putting out. This isn’t a new concept, and we’ve had this idea for centuries, although it is usually interpreted to relate only to our actions: We reap what we sow, or, the more contemporary version, What goes around comes around.
The idea of vibratory resonance takes the idea to a new level and gives us another way to work with it. In fact, we are in a continuous feedback loop: whatever is present in our lives is a direct reflection of the vibrations we previously put out into the world. (Some of us just have to say, OUCH!) What we experience, and how we feel about it, provides the feedback: If we don’t like what we are experiencing and don’t feel good about it, we must raise our vibration in order to attract something better into our experience. Another version is the idea that doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result, is the definition of insanity. If we want something to change, we must change something about ourselves or what we're doing.
And what creates the vibration that we are putting out to the world? It is a combination of our deep—often unconscious—beliefs, our level of self-love and trust, our emotional state (fear, despair, pessimism, or optimism and love), our predominant mindset, and our thoughts, words, and deeds.
Whether you think you can, or you think you can't—
you're right. ~ Henry Ford
It is all, perhaps, an elaborate form of self-fulfilling prophecy. If we believe life is hard, it is. If we believe we can’t get a break, we can’t. If we believe we must suffer to get ahead, we will. If we believe people will let us down, they will. The Universe unerringly gives us what we (unconsciously) expect, and shows us that our deep (unconscious) beliefs are right.
It seems like a nasty Catch-22 to realize that in the midst of difficult circumstances the most constructive thing we can do is to consciously reach for those higher vibrations: to force our minds out of victimhood, blaming, complaining, and negativity (or from wallowing in self-pity) and into optimism, hope, trust, forgiveness, and gratitude. It feels like being in a Heads they win, tails we lose situation or, worse, the butt of a giant cosmic joke on us.
But our mindset goes a long way in determining our vibration. Optimism has a higher vibration than pessimism. Victimhood, despair, blaming, negativity, and complaining all have low vibrations, as do fear, hatred, irritation, and frustration. Self-loathing and self-doubt? Very low. Laughter, love, joy, hope, gratitude, forgiveness, responsibility, and trust all carry higher vibrations. The more we pull ourselves up out of the muck, regardless of what we are experiencing, and reach for something better—trusting that we can have, and deserve, something better—the more we raise our vibration and set up the vibrational environment to attract and create something better.
The real key to consciously creating lies in acknowledging what is (whatever is presenting in our lives), accepting responsibility for our role in creating it and bringing it into our lives (even if we don’t know how/why we did it), learning whatever lessons we can find from the experience, and working to identify what deep beliefs are being reflected back at us, so we can work to change them. Then we send out the vision of what we want, let go of the outcome, and follow our guidance as it comes. We must let go of the outcome and trust the Universe to do its Magic.
That is where the proverbial rubber hits the road. When we can use the lemons life hands us to make lemonade, we have won the game! When we can see the silver lining in those dark clouds that feel like they are choking the life out of us, we have effectively repositioned ourselves. When we can forgive and feel gratitude for those who have seemingly hurt us (often creating situations in which we must stand up for ourselves or take actions of self-love in the face of our fears), we have cleared the finish line! And when we can flow through challenges—and even disasters—without judgment, trusting that the Universe has our back, that we are safe, and that something good will come from it, we have our feet planted firmly on the road to enlightenment.
That doesn’t mean that we never feel down and never truly dislike some of the challenges we encounter. We are only human, after all, and life on earth can be pretty harsh and painful! It just means that when we go down into the pits of despair and self-pity, we choose not to take up permanent residence!
This is the true meaning of alchemy and the philosopher’s stone: it is the conscious, concerted effort to tame the ego/conscious mind away from its automatic negative responses; to identify, uproot, and change our erroneous, self-defeating beliefs; to relinquish our illusion of control; and to direct our attention, thoughts, attitude, and actions toward higher vibrations and better things. It is tearing our eyes away from doom, gloom, and disaster, and putting our attention and energy into the loving, joyous, abundant life we want, and fearlessly taking those baby steps toward it.
Why didn’t we get a manual, so we’d know how to do this?
We actually did get the manual, and it shows up in the sacred texts of all religions. In Christianity, it’s called the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. We also were taught: Love your neighbor as yourself, and (as noted before) We Reap What We Sow. It seems relatively simple, doesn’t it?
Most of us probably think we are good people and we follow these simple instructions, but do we? Do we really treat others the way we want them to treat us? Do we always treat others with the love, respect, acceptance, and support that we wish we could receive? Do we do that when we’re in a hurry? When we’re stressed out? When we’re competing for a job? When we’re feeling ill? Or do we treat others that way only on our “good days” or when we think someone is watching?
And how do we treat ourselves? Most of us think we do, but do we really love ourselves? That must come first of all and, frankly, it is where most of us fail and how we end up creating circumstances that we don't like. How can we love our neighbors, if we don’t really love ourselves? If we fear what makes us different, we will certainly fear what makes others different. How can we allow others to love us, if we don’t love ourselves? If we don’t know how to treat ourselves with love and respect and support, how will we know what it looks like to treat others that way? The best way to jump-start ourselves to higher vibrations and better lives is to consciously begin spreading love around everywhere, to ourselves and others, and sprinkling acts of kindness around the same way.
As we head into the Holiday Season, the time when we emphasize gratitude, joy, sharing and love, I’m going to be paying attention to what I’m getting back in that vibrational feedback loop and what it's trying to show me—and tweaking my vibration accordingly! How about you?
Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude
These are times when it behooves us to cultivate an attitude of gratitude, an attitude that becomes part of our daily lives, rather than something we remember once a year. Nothing could be more appropriate in these chaotic, stressful times of Shift. But what does that mean, exactly?
Gratitude is appreciation and thankfulness for what we have. Just as the holiday media machine is gearing up to generate as much frenzied desire as possible for what we don't have (and, therefore, need to run out and buy), gratitude will remind us to take stock and appreciate all that we have already: the love in our lives, our family and friends, our health, our homes, our jobs, our possessions, our skills and abilities, and our freedoms.
Gratitude reminds us to stop taking these things for granted and to value what we have; to stop yearning after what we are being told we want, and to want what we actually have.
This is an excerpt from the November 2013 issue. Read the full article here. The good news is that this year, the energies are not quite so volatile or explosive! (And for that, I am truly grateful!)
All content © 2014, E.B. Dye
|Looking back to 2012, most of us can attest to the fact that the only constant seems to be change. In one way or another, we all have been undergoing big changes, whether they are internal, external, or both.|
Many of us have changed jobs, ended or begun significant relationships, suffered losses of all types, relocated, and/or reinvented ourselves.
And we are right on schedule!
We’ve spent the last two-and-a-half years being turned upside-down and inside-out, and the massive internal changes have started manifesting in the outer world.
Many of us have found ourselves in difficult, challenging situations that we have had to overcome. We’ve had to confront our inner demons, face down our fears and, ultimately, surrender.
Many of us are still in the throes of very difficult transition processes, but some of us seem to be coming out the other side, rising like the phoenix, and finding a new sense of freedom.
We are all undergoing a version of trial-by-fire and we will manage to come through it and find ourselves in a very different—but better—place as a result.
I’ve been right there with everyone else, and my life looks very different today than it did in June 2012, when Uranus and Pluto officially started squaring off. These are changes I had not imagined, and it has not been easy.
Like many others, I have suffered a number of unforeseen and devastating losses, and I have had to make some very difficult—and very scary—decisions, some that I felt forced to make. I have undergone deep Dark Nights of the Soul. I have been forced to throw up my hands, admit I cannot control what happens, and surrender to a Higher Power to show me the Way. Like so many other people, good old Pluto has really forced me to my knees!
In the process, I have excavated down deep and brought many self-defeating beliefs to light, so they could be changed. I have also painstakingly learned to trust my guidance and myself, and to trust the Universe to support me. In other words (not to put too fine a point on it!), I’ve learned through all this experience to practice what I preach and to walk my talk at a whole new level!
And I am now free to be who I AM out in the world: my true, authentic self. And, while I really wish it all could have been easier, it was as difficult as it had to be to get me there, and the end result was worth every step of the way!
I’m still not done yet, either! Actually, we’re never done, really, even after we go Home. But it does seem to get easier as we go along, especially if we continue to relinquish the illusion of control, let go of what holds us back or no longer serves us, and allow ourselves to be guided. When we do that, the miracles start to happen, and we can end up in places better than anything we ever imagined!
I am happy to report that my latest change is one filled with optimism and excitement! I recently realized that I am being led (ever so gently this time, thank you!) to relocate. It’s the first time I’ve moved in 16 years; and the first time I’ve moved to another state in… well, let’s just say over 30 years. It is exhilarating and a bit scary, but at the moment it is mostly box-filled, as I go through the sometimes excruciating process of packing up all my belongings. So please bear with me if the timing of Tunnel Vision gets a bit erratic!
Fortunately, since I will be moving around the first of the year, I have time to really sort through things before they go into boxes (so far, anyway). I am finding that I am not only taking many trips down Memory Lane, I am also letting go of (throwing out) many things that either defined me in the past or were reflections of past definitions that no longer fit. This process is somewhat bittersweet, but very freeing. And I am saying good-bye to an area where I have lived most of my life. Bittersweet, indeed!
This is a perfect time for this type of reflection-and-clearing-out process, and I urge everyone to take some time to do it. We have a direct square of Uranus and Pluto on December 14, and the last direct square on March 16, and we will all be experiencing the influence of these planets and the changes they have wrought in our lives and in our culture for a long time to come.
As we move into the winter in the northern hemisphere, we enter a more dormant time, with less Light and less energy to support new initiatives. We also enter a time of holidays and families. What better time is there to reflect on the past, do a little “life review,” forgive and reach closure, and let go of things that hold us back there, so we can fully embrace the new?
This brave, new world we are all stepping into can be whatever we make of it, but we have to let go of the past in order to get there. We must create space for the new. And we also have to give ourselves the time to do a little dreaming about what we really want.
|Recent Interviews and Appearances|
|I've been busy the last couple of months, getting the word out about what I learned from my Near-Death Experience. Check out the audios and videos, below:|
WE DON'T DIE RADIO—I had a wonderful time being interviewed by Sandra Champlain on her "We Don't Die" radio show, about why I KNOW we don't die! Sandra is the author of the bestseller, We Don't Die; A Skeptic's Discovery of Life After Death.
Here's a link to the shows on Sandra's website or you can download or listen to the show free on iTunes (if you like it, please write a review and mention me by name). On either site, you may have to search by my name or Episode 025, or scroll down the list, as new interviews are added. There's quite a lot of "juicy" listening on her site.
I WAS ON FOX NEWS!—I had my 15 minutes of fame (well, make that 3 minutes) on FOX NEWS! This human interest segment about Near-Death Experiences was prompted by a recent study in the U.K. of 2,000 cardiac arrest patients, which found that consciousness continues after the death of the body. I was one of two NDErs interviewed on camera. Here's a link to the segment as it appeared on the San Antonio Fox News station.
I ALSO MADE FOUR PRESENTATIONS down in Virginia Beach, VA. Videos of my NDE presentation and my workshop on the Great Shift will be posted on my website soon (so check back)!
The video of my presentation on Living in the Light, given at the Fellowship of the Inner Light, will be posted soon on their YouTube channel.
COMING DECEMBER 1—Check out my article in the Predictions 2015 issue of the Sedona Journal of Emergence, available December 1. I'll post it on my website in January.
|Looking for some Holiday gifts?Here's what you'll find on my website, www.LionMagic.com:|
2015 CALENDARS are now available! Enjoy images of Alaska, Bermuda, Grand Canyon and Sedona, Jamaica, Ireland and Cathar Country in Southern France. I have a new calendar this year with images from my recent trip to France. All calendars are on sale: buy now and get $2 off!
NOW ON KINDLE as well as paperback: My metaphysical fantasy novel, The Search for the Crystal Key, is an adventure for all ages about believing in yourself and the power of love, based on information I received during my NDE. This is a perfect Holiday gift, especially for fantasy lovers in their late teens and twenties. (Sorry! No zombies, werewolves, or vampires; just a cranky, wise unicorn, a wise woman, a wizard, and an evil warrior queen!)
Downloadable mp3s of my Journey Through the Tunnel presentation and guided meditation to go through the Tunnel of Light and feel the unconditional Love of Home.
Information about my Intuitive Coaching and Reconnective Healing services, and Young Living Essential Oils.
The complete list of "What I Learned from Dying," and my articles in The Sedona Journal of Emergence.
Free Videos and Recordings of presentations and radio interviews, with discussions about my NDE and the Shift.
Links to all past issues of Tunnel Vision.
|I am an Intuitive Coach, Public Speaker, Author, Reconnective Healing® practitioner, and a Practical Mystic. A Near-Death Experience (NDE) in 1985 expanded my psychic abilities and created a link with some very loving—and humorous— Guardians of humanity and the ancient wisdom, who gave me a huge amount of information about life and the evolution of mankind.|
I bring this knowledge and connection to my clients and audiences, along with over 30 years’ accumulated wisdom and understanding of metaphysics, life on earth, and Who We Really Are.
I am the author of the metaphysical fantasy novel, The Search for the Crystal Key—an adventure about believing in yourself and the power of Love; and I am writing a new book, Creating Heaven on Earth... One Soul at a Time; A How-To Manual from the Perspective of a Near-Death Experience.
Find out more: LionMagic.com.