Parent Newsletter #128
October 26, 2014
Welcome! This is a free parent newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.
Mission Statement
Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.
In This Issue
1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. Article: Magic Carpet
5. Parent Talk Tips
6. Family Matters
7. Offer for Arizona Parents
1. Quote
"Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them."
 
― Bill Ayers
 
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
What parenting wall appears before you today? Could that wall be asking you to find another door? Could it be guiding you in that direction?
3. Bumper Sticker
Noticed on a silver Civic Honda in Trenton, NJ:
 
PROUD HOOKER MOM
Worthington Hooker School
4. Magic Carpet
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
 
We know a parent who has a magic carpet in her home. To the untrained eye it appears to be a small oval rug that sits in front of the fireplace. It serves as a safety net should burning embers make it through the fireplace screen and fall onto the floor. The protective nature of this rug is an important and appreciated function but is not related in any way to its magical attributes. This magic rug plays a more important role. It produces magical and elegant solutions to family conflicts. This is how it works.
 
Recently, this parent's ten-year-old son began an algebra unit in his fifth-grade math class. His older sister had also been studying algebra throughout her eighth-grade school year. When the boy made an error on one homework problem, his sister leaped to the rescue. Fashioning herself as a future math teacher, she saw this opportunity as a chance to practice her trade. There was a slight problem, however. The young man did not want to be the practice dummy. A light disagreement began, gradually escalated its way into bickering, and then bloomed into a full-blown argument, complete with angry tones and loud voices.
 
When loud turned to louder, Mom stepped in. "Sounds like you two are in need of the magic carpet," she observed. That got the children’s attention. "What do mean, magic carpet?" they asked in unison.
 
Their mother had heard about the magic carpet at a parenting seminar and had purchased a small oval rug to serve that purpose. She had not used it yet. The algebra equation situation seemed like the right time to see if the carpet could do its thing. "I have a magic carpet here," she explained. Her belief in the carpet’s magic evident on her face, she instructed, "Come on over. Each of you sit on one end of this rug, facing each other." The siblings did. "When people in our family sit face to face on the magic carpet and talk about their conflict, magic solutions appear," she told them.
 
The children were doubtful. The mother's face continued to express her belief.
 
"Sometimes the solutions come quickly," she went on. "At other times it takes a while for a solution to surface, but I have never seen it fail. This carpet is magic, and it will help you create a magic solution to the algebra problem dilemma. Just sit here facing each other and keep talking until you find a solution to which both of you can agree." Disgusted looks appeared on her children’s faces as she proceeded.
 
"Let me know when you find an elegant solution," she remarked. "I want to hear how this carpet works its magic in this case." Amid their grumbling, she returned to her computer and began to work.
 
While working on her computer, she simultaneously listened in as their conversation began. It didn't take long before she realized she was the only one listening. Both children were talking at the same time, interrupting each other and getting louder. Frustration mounted and anger increased as emotions grew more intense.
 
At this point, Mom reentered the scene. "I don't hear any magic yet," she observed. "He won't listen to me," said one. "She won't listen to me," said the other. It was clearly time to give the magic carpet some assistance.
 
Rummaging through the kitchen, this aware mother found a large wooden spoon. "This is a talking stick," she explained. The spoon was the closest thing she could find to a stick at the moment. "Native Americans used talking sticks during council meetings," she continued. "The rules are simple. You can only talk if you are holding the stick (spoon). When you're finished talking, pass the stick to the other person and don't talk until it is handed back to you. Understand?"
 
"Yep," they answered.
 
She handed the stick to the oldest child and sat back to listen to the conversation. Although they followed the talking stick rules, it was a good ten minutes before any real listening took place. Both children were intent are telling their side of the story and proving how right they were. Eventually, they both realized that in order to get off the rug they were going to have to find a solution that both could live with.
 
One solution was offered. It was rejected, and another was proposed in its place. From their spots on the rug, reasons, rationale, and counter proposals were suggested by one child or the other. Clearly, the oval carpet was working its magic.
 
Twenty minutes into the magic carpet session a solution was offered and accepted. The eighth-grader would listen to the fifth-grader explain how he did the equation. He would then listen to his sister explain her understanding of the math problem the way her teacher taught it in eighth grade. She agreed to play a board game with him later in the evening. Conflict was resolved and consensus reached. Siblings were now at peace, implementing the agreed-upon solution.
 
It's not easy being a parent. It sure helps to have a magic carpet.
 
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The Only 3 Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free Uncommon Parenting blog. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today: www.uncommon-parenting.com.
5.  Parent Talk Tips
Parent Talk Tip #84: You resist reality when you think your child should be further along with walking, reading, speaking, etc. They are where they are. It's healthier to think they are exactly where they are meant to be and heading in an appropriate direction.
 
Parent Talk Tip #48: Evening reflection: Did I give my child attention today? Did I communicate appreciation? Was I affectionate with word and deed? Adjust where necessary.
 
Parent Talk Tip #349: You can choose to focus on your child's mistakes or on their growth and learning. You are the one who controls your focus. Focus on that today.
 
The Parent Talk Tip Collection: 730 Practical Verbal Skills to Help You Raise Responsible, Caring, Conscious Children by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller

This e-book is available today. You can upload it now and begin putting it to use with your family immediately.
6.  Family Matters
 
  • Many parents tell their child who is being bothered by another, "Just ignore them and they will leave you alone." This is actually not true! It is an invitation to the bothersome one to find a more effective mode of disruption. 
  • "I don't change my mind for people who whine" provides kids with information and the result of their behavior. When you say, "Stop whining," you’re giving an order that does not require a further exploration of one’s behavior and choices. 
  • When troubling times occur, help kids feel secure with the family's ability to cope by saying, "We can handle this. We have a strong family," rather than “Don’t worry. Everything will be all right.”
Would you like a steady flow of Family Matters gems delivered on a regular basis? Then friend Thomas B. Haller on Facebook. That's where you will find them.
 
7.  Offer for Arizona Parents
Chick Moorman will be in Arizona from February 12 to 23, 2015. Mostly he will be attending the Arabian Horse Show in Scottsdale during that time. He has offered to do two evening parenting programs while he is in Arizona.
 
This is a limited opportunity to get Chick and his expertise in front of your parents for a greatly reduced fee. Plus, there are no travel expenses since he will already be in the area. If your group is within two hours driving distance from Scottsdale and you are quick to jump on this special offer, you could be one of only two organizations receiving this special deal.
 
Act now and contact Chick at:
 
Phone - 989-643-5059
E-mail - ipp57@aol.com
Chick Moorman
 
Contact Chick at:
 
1-877-360-1477 (toll-free)
 
 
Thomas Haller
 
Contact Thomas at:
 
989-686-5356
 
 
Copyright
Copyright 2014 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.
 
The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them
The Abracadabra Effect pre-order sale will end in one week. Order now and your book will be mailed on November 1, 2014, at a significant savings. Details and ordering instructions follow.
 
The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them 
  • Do your kids frustrate you?
  • Are you annoyed with a coworker's behavior?
  • Is there something that is bugging you right now? 
If so, you are creating dis-ease in yourself. And there is a cure. 
  • Do you think your neighbor should have known better?
  • Does your girlfriend make you jealous when she talks to other men?
  • Do you think you are too old to create financial security? 
If so, you are creating dis-ease in yourself. And there is a cure. 
  • Do you think you can’t quit smoking or lose weight?
  • Do you tell your kids to be careful climbing the tree or they might fall?
  • Did somebody piss you off recently? 
If so, you are creating dis-ease in yourself. And there is a cure.
 
And those cures are contained in the new book from Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller: The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them.
 
The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them not only identifies the major dis-eases affecting people today, it also offers prescriptions for wellness, ways to ditch the 13 dreaded dis-eases, and suggestions for creating a lifetime of health and happiness.
 
The Abracadabra Effect is currently being printed. Upon completion it will sell for $19.95 plus postage. The release date is November 1, 2014. That gives you one week to pre-order this book at significant savings.
 
Order your personal copy before November 1, 2014, and get this world-changing book for only $10.00 plus postage.
 
Order 2-24 copies for friends, relatives, and complete strangers for the special price of $8.00 per book plus postage.
 
Order 25 or more copies to help change the world in destinations we aren't even aware of for the incredibly low price of $7.00 per book plus postage.
 
Facebook/Twitter
Facebook
 
Both Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman have joined Facebook. We would both welcome an opportunity to be added to your friends list. Please send us a friend request that tells us you are a Parent Newsletter subscriber so we can recognize how we know you.
 

New on Facebook -- Spirit Whisperer Oasis.
 
An oasis for educators and parents who desire more support, encouragement and affirmation for what they do to teach to a child's spirit. Check it out on Facebook and be sure to hover over the LIKE section so you can click SEND NOTIFICATIONS to insure you get all the new postings.
 
 
Twitter
Yes, we both Twitter.
 

Thomas B. Haller is now twitting. Instead of following what I am doing throughout the day, I invite you to follow what I am thinking. To join me as I tweet my thoughts, go to www.twitter.com/tomhaller.
 

Chick Moorman is now on Twitter. To sign up for Parent Talk Tips, timely questions, short but raging rants, bursts of inspiration, and random thoughts on parenting and teaching, follow the link. Why not be the first on your block to initiate regular contact? http://twitter.com/ChickMoorman 
Seminar Schedule
Dec. 8 - Cherry Hill, NJ.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 9 - Long Island, NY.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 10 - St. Louis, MO.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 11 - Pasadena, CA.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 12 - Anaheim, CA.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
Media Schedule
 
Thomas on television answering viewer questions:
 
Relationship Matters – Every Monday at 9:15 am on WNEM TV5 Better Mid-Michigan
 
Family Matters with Thomas Haller Fridays at noon, Saturdays at 8:45 am, Sundays at   7:45 am and 8:45 am on WNEM TV5. Also streaming live at: www.wnem.com.
 
To view Dr. Tom's previous Family Matters segments, CLICK HERE.
 
Thomas on the radio answering questions and discussing hot topics:
 
Every Thursday morning at 7:30 am on CARZ 108FM – Streaming live online www.wcrz.com.
 
Listen to Thomas on The Thomas and Valerie Show on www.prx.org or on www.thethomasandvalerieshow.com.
Links
Personal Power Press • P.O. Box 547 • Merrill • MI • 48637
http://www.personalpowerpress.com
Subscribe | Unsubscribe | Preferences | Send to a Friend | Report Spam