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Parent Newsletter #129
December 5, 2014
Welcome! This is a free parent newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.
Mission Statement
Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.
In This Issue
1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. Article: Six Language Traps to Avoid This Holiday Season
5. Parent Talk Tips
6. Parent Talk System Training of Trainers One-on-One via Skype
1. Quote
"The most important thing a child can inherit are fond memories."
                                            
Frank Sonnenberg
 
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
Will you concentrate on getting or giving today?
3. Bumper Sticker
Noticed on a black Ford Fusion in Battle Creek, MI:
 
PROUD PARENT TO A
PUBLIC SCHOOL TEACHER
4. Six Language Traps to Avoid This Holiday Season
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
 
Do you want to create a happy, stress-free holiday season? If so, watch your language. You could be creating stress, disappointment, annoyance, frustration, and irritation this holiday season by the way you choose to speak. Following are six verbalizations you could eliminate to create less stress for you and your family this year.
 
1.)  Stop shoulding on yourself.
 
"I should invite my brother-in-law for dinner."
"I should buy a different roast."
"I ought to have a bigger tree."
 
"Should" is used to dispense guilt. It's a way of shaming and getting after yourself so you will feel inadequate. It creates anxiety and stress.
 
Want to reduce your stress? Change "should" to "could." Your words then become, "I could invite my brother-in-law for dinner." Make a decision with no shame attached and take action. Once a decision is made, fear and anxiety diminish greatly.
 
2.)  Rid your language patterns of "what if" illusions.
 
"What if the recipe doesn't turn out right?"
"What if I get stuck with all the cleanup?"
"What if they show up late?"
 
"What if" keeps you from enjoying your present moments. It plants negative pictures in your mind that focus your energy and attention on an imagined future, one that may never occur.
 
When you catch yourself saying "what if" to yourself or aloud, be advised that you could well be living an illusion. Use it as a cue to return to present-moment living. Lessen its influence by quickly stating its opposite. Change "What if the recipe doesn't turn out right?" to "What if the recipe turns out perfectly?" Since neither has happened yet, let them go. Either way, you can handle it.
 
3.)  Refuse to make negative predictions.
 
"It's going to be a long, boring trip."
"She'll ruin it if she brings her boyfriend."
"We'll be sorry we went."
 
Why would you want to believe it's going to be a long, boring trip? If you talk that way, you think that way. If you think that way, you believe that way. If you believe that way, you will notice everything that proves your belief to yourself. Result? Sure enough, it turned out that way.
 
You can change your mind and your forecast by changing your words. "Maybe we’ll be happy we went" leaves you free from limiting words. It leaves you with more positive expectations.
 
4.)   Being right doesn't work.
 
"I warned her and she didn't listen."
"I told you you'd get sick eating all that chocolate."
"See. We ran out of money just like I said we would."
 
Having to be right breeds comparison, evaluation, and alienation. It also produces mental and physical distancing. Being right will not help you enjoy this holiday season. It will not improve your relationship with your spouse or children. It will not help you relax. It will not serve you by building peace and harmony. It will allow you to produce dis-ease as your thoughts continue to churn out proof of your rightness.
 
5.)   Refuse to play the blame game.
 
"It's the post office's fault it didn't get there."
"It's your fault we ran out of wrapping paper."
"I blame Maggie for teasing him. She started it."
 
When you blame, you give away your personal power. It prevents you from examining any role you played in a given situation. It keeps responsibility on the backs of others and frees you to judge and activate separating emotions of anger, annoyance, and disgust. That doesn't exactly create holiday harmony in your family.
 
What are you stewing about right now? Who are you blaming? Do you have a relative you think is at fault? Own it by examining how you helped create the situation. Take responsibility for the role you played in leading up to it. No blame, no fault, and no guilt. Just take some of the responsibility and watch the stress float away.
 
6.)   Eliminate the Holiday/Christmas feud.
 
"Got another card that said 'Happy Holidays.' That makes four."
"What's wrong with these people who can't say Christmas? Enough of this Happy Holidays stuff."
 
People who say "Happy Holidays" aren't talking exclusively about Christmas. They mean the holidays of Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Year's. They are wishing you a happy holiday season from the end of November to the first of January. They are not denigrating your Christian beliefs. They may even share them.
 
Stop choosing to be annoyed by how someone else describes the holiday season. Refrain from taking it personally. They do not intend it that way. You are the one who is creating your own annoyance by how you choose to interpret their description. Invest some time managing your own reactions rather than the language others use to wish you well.
 
Our wish for you this holiday season is that you use the material above to create Happy Holidays and a Merry Christmas.
 
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free Uncommon Parenting blog. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their websites today: www.thomashaller.com or www.chickmoorman.com. 
5.  Parent Talk Tips
Parent Talk Tip: Are you a parenting fixer? Be aware that the more you fix, the more things will show up to fix. Why not fix your need to fix and see what happens?
 
Parent Talk Tip: Being willing to improve as a parent does not improve your parenting. To change, it is necessary to do something different. Identify the one thing you can do to improve your parenting. Most important, do it.
 
Parent Talk Tip: So you had a negative thought about one of your children. Big deal. Stop feeding it and it will go away.  
 
The Parent Talk Tip Collection: 730 Practical Verbal Skills to Help You Raise Responsible, Caring, Conscious Children by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller

This e-book is available today. You can upload it now and begin putting it to use with your family immediately.
 
6. Parent Talk System Training of Trainers One-on-One via Skype
"Thank you so much for all that you are, to me and my work. I am finding the training so valuable in ALL aspects of my life. See you Friday!"
 
Those are the final three sentences of a communication I receive from a client in Australia at the completion of one of our Skype sessions. We are about halfway through the Parent Talk System Training of Trainers and her questions are stretching me to expand my knowledge and application of the important verbal skills I teach others. Win/win.
 
In addition to polishing the verbal skills I so strongly believe in, I am learning about the advantages of one-on-one training sessions. They include: 
  1. The client gets all their questions answered NOW.
  2. They get full-time access to the originator of the material.
  3. Neither of us has to travel.
  4. We both sit in comfortable chairs in our offices.
  5. There is a week in between each session, providing ample time to implement the skills.
  6. Regular e-mails answer questions and concerns, and adjustments can be made immediately.
  7. Personalizing the material is at its peak.
  8. One-on-one allows for greater personal connection than one-with-twenty. 
You could be one of the one-on-one clients I work with next year. Four people (it's already down to three) are all I will do this with in the coming year. Interested? E-mail Chick Moorman at ipp57@aol.com and he will send you the FULL details about this exciting opportunity.
Chick Moorman
 
Contact Chick at:
 
1-877-360-1477 (toll-free)
 
 
Thomas Haller
 
Contact Thomas at:
 
989-686-5356
 
 
Copyright
Copyright 2014 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.
 
The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them
Do your kids frustrate you?
Is there something that is bugging you right now?
Are you annoyed with a coworker's behavior?
 
If so, you are creating dis-ease in yourself. And there is a cure.
  • Do you think your neighbor should have known better?
  • Does your girlfriend make you jealous when she talks to other men?
  • Do you think you are too old to create financial security?
If so, you are creating dis-ease in yourself. And there is a cure.
  • Do you think you can’t quit smoking or lose weight?
  • Do you tell your kids to be careful climbing the tree or they might fall?
  • Did somebody piss you off recently?
If so, you are creating dis-ease in yourself. And there is a cure.
 
Those cures are contained in the new book from Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller: The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them.
 
The Abracadabra Effect not only identifies the major dis-eases affecting people today, it also offers prescriptions for wellness, ways to ditch the 13 dreaded dis-eases, and suggestions for creating a lifetime of health and happiness.
 
Have you seen the new website for "The Abracadabra Effect"?
 
Facebook/Twitter
Facebook
 
Both Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman have joined Facebook. We would both welcome an opportunity to be added to your friends list. Please send us a friend request that tells us you are a Parent Newsletter subscriber so we can recognize how we know you.
 

New on Facebook -- Spirit Whisperer Oasis.
 
An oasis for educators and parents who desire more support, encouragement and affirmation for what they do to teach to a child's spirit. Check it out on Facebook and be sure to hover over the LIKE section so you can click SEND NOTIFICATIONS to insure you get all the new postings. 
 
 
Newer on Facebook ---The Abracadabra Effect
 
The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and
How to Cure Them contains the information and prescriptions
necessary to eliminate dis-ease from your life. Begin today to
increase your personal power and self-responsibility. Model
healthy speaking, thinking, believing, and living to your family
and coworkers.
 
 
Twitter
 
Yes, we both Twitter.
 

Thomas B. Haller is now twitting. Instead of following what I am doing throughout the day, I invite you to follow what I am thinking. To join me as I tweet my thoughts, go to www.twitter.com/tomhaller.
 

Chick Moorman is now on Twitter. To sign up for Parent Talk Tips, timely questions, short but raging rants, bursts of inspiration, and random thoughts on parenting and teaching, follow the link. Why not be the first on your block to initiate regular contact? http://twitter.com/ChickMoorman 
Offer for Arizona Parents
Chick Moorman will be in Arizona from February 12 to 23, 2015. Mostly he will be attending the Arabian Horse Show in Scottsdale during that time. He has offered to do two evening parenting programs while he is in Arizona.
 
This is a limited opportunity to get Chick and his expertise in front of your parents for a greatly reduced fee. Plus, there are no travel expenses since he will already be in the area. If your group is within two hours’ driving distance from Scottsdale and you are quick to jump on this special offer, you could be one of only two organizations receiving this special deal.
 
Act now and contact Chick at:
 
Phone - 989-643-5059
E-mail - ipp57@aol.com
Seminar Schedule
Dec. 8 - Cherry Hill, NJ.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 9 - Long Island, NY.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 10 - St. Louis, MO.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 11 - Pasadena, CA.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 12 - Anaheim, CA.
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Feb. 4 - Madison Heights, MI
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm. Four Corners Montessori Academy. For more information contact Chris Schoenherr Miller at 248-542-7001 or email chrisschoenherr@choiceschools.com.
 
Feb. 5 - Battle Creek, MI
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm. Battle Creek Montessori Academy. For more information contact Ann Pilzner at 269-339-3308 or email annpilzner@michoicebcma.com.
 
Feb. 7 - Greenwood, SC
Teacher Talk Advantage presented by Chick Moorman, 9:00 am - 4:00 pm. Spring Montessori Conference 2015 - Lander University. For more information contact Martine Fezler at 864-388-8628 or email mfezler@lander.edu.
 
Feb. 25 - Livonia, MI
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, 6:30 pm - 8:30 pm. The Felician Sisters Child Care Centers, Montessori Center of our Lady. For more information contact Maria Sicillano Mueller at 734-793-3851 or email m.mueller@feliciansisters.org.
Media Schedule
 
Thomas on television answering viewer questions:
 
Relationship Matters – Every Monday at 9:15 am on WNEM TV5 Better Mid-Michigan
 
Family Matters with Thomas Haller Fridays at noon, Saturdays at 8:45 am, Sundays at   7:45 am and 8:45 am on WNEM TV5. Also streaming live at: www.wnem.com.
 
To view Dr. Tom's previous Family Matters segments, CLICK HERE.
 
Thomas on the radio answering questions and discussing hot topics:
 
Every Thursday morning at 7:30 am on CARZ 108FM – Streaming live online www.wcrz.com.
 
Listen to Thomas on The Thomas and Valerie Show on www.prx.org or on www.thethomasandvalerieshow.com.
Links
Personal Power Press • P.O. Box 547 • Merrill • MI • 48637
http://www.personalpowerpress.com
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