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Parent Newsletter #130
January 15, 2015
Welcome! This is a free parent newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.
Mission Statement
Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.
In This Issue
1.  Quote
2.  Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3.  Bumper Sticker
4.  Article - Being Fair Doesn't Work: 10 Reasons Why
5.  Parent Talk Tips
6.  Poster Perspective
7.  Valentine's Day Special Offer
1. Quote
"Childhood is a short season."
 
Helen Hayes
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
Is it possible to expand your vision to see more in your child than he or she is presently showing? How could you communicate that vision to your child and to the rest of your family?
3. Bumper Sticker
Spotted on a minivan in Puerto Morelos, Mexico: 
 
If You Think I'm Cute
You Should See My Grandson
4. Being Fair Doesn't Work: 10 Reasons Why
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
 
Do you make sure both pieces of cake are exactly the same size?
 
Did you count the holiday gifts so each child got the same amount?
 
Do you let your teen attend events that her friends attend?
 
If so, you're attempting to be fair. It won't work. Here is why.
 
1.  You can cut the cake as evenly as possible, measure how full the glasses are, and count out the exact number of Easter goodies placed in each basket. Someone is likely to see it as unequal anyway.
 
2.  It requires a lot of energy to even things out. Measuring, counting and comparing are a waste of time, effort, and energy.
 
3.  By making sure that everything is fair, you set yourself up for regular complaints and verbal hassles.
 
4.  Attempts to be fair contribute to sibling rivalry. "He got more than I did." This pits child against child.
 
5.  are setting yourself up for manipulation. Children can use your desire to be fair to invite guilt and shame.
 
6.  Treating each child equally does not meet the needs of the specific person. If one requires eyeglasses and another needs a special diet, do you give both children glasses and put each one on the same diet? Hardly. Different kids have different needs. Think equity, not equality.
 
7.  Attempting to make things fair for your children helps them develop a dysfunctional life myth that everything in life should be fair. While we don't advocate telling children, "Life isn't fair. Suck it up," we don't advocate teaching them through your behaviors that life ought to be fair either.
 
8.  To allow children to expect that everything should be fair sets them up for recurring frustration and disappointment.
 
9.  Striving to be fair encourages feelings of entitlement in children. It contributes to their learning to expect to get what they want when they want it.
 
10.  When the teen says, "It's not fair. Everyone else gets to go. Why not me?", the adult is required to do the thinking. You end up doing the thinking and the convincing. Say, "Convince me," to require the child to do the thinking.
 
Next time you hear, "That's not fair," explain to your children that you're not attempting to treat them equally. Tell them, "Different people have different needs." Say, "I address needs. I don't try to be fair or make things even. Tell me what you need, and we'll talk about seeing if we can make it happen for you."
 
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free Uncommon Parenting blog. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their websites today: www.thomashaller.com or www.chickmoorman.com. 
5.  Parent Talk Tips
Parent Talk Tip: Treat the "what is" of a parenting problem as if "what is" is being offered to you as a gift.
 
Parent Talk Tip: "You can owe it to me." Saying this to your children is your first step to becoming their credit card. You are teaching them they can get things NOW and pay LATER.
 
Parent Talk Tip: If you dismiss or ignore your child's passion, you are dismissing or ignoring them. Their passion is part of who they really are.
 
Parent Talk Tip: Want to be a truly powerful parent? Think "power with" rather than "power over."
 
This e-book is available today. You can upload it now and begin putting it to use with your family immediately.
 
6. Poster Perspective
 
7.  Valentine's Day Special
COUPLE TALK: How to Talk Your Way to a Great Relationship - by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
 
 
This book is a treasury of practical ideas for building a caring and respectful intimate relationship. It is filled with language skills that create honest and open communication patterns between you and your partner.
 
Learn powerful skills to help you:
* Resolve conflict.
* Increase trust and caring.
* Demonstrate listening and understanding.
* Communicate feelings without wounding the spirit.
* Encourage both autonomy and connectedness.
* Rekindle warmth and passion.
* Revitalize your relationship.
 
SPECIAL 50% ($12.50 plus postage) VALENTINE'S SPECIAL DISCOUNT IS NOW ON UNTIL FEBRUARY 14.
Chick Moorman
 
Contact Chick at:
 
1-877-360-1477 (toll-free)
 
 
Thomas Haller
 
Contact Thomas at:
 
989-686-5356
 
 
Copyright
Copyright 2015 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.
 
The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them

Do your kids frustrate you?
Is there something that is bugging you right now? 
Are you annoyed with a coworker's behavior?
 
If so, you are creating dis-ease in yourself. And there is a cure. 
  • Do you think your neighbor should have known better?
  • Does your girlfriend make you jealous when she talks to other men?
  • Do you think you are too old to create financial security?
If so, you are creating dis-ease in yourself. And there is a cure. 
  • Do you think you can’t quit smoking or lose weight?
  • Do you tell your kids to be careful climbing the tree or they might fall?
  • Did somebody piss you off recently?
If so, you are creating dis-ease in yourself. And there is a cure.
 
Those cures are contained in the new book from Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller: The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them.
 
The Abracadabra Effect not only identifies the major dis-eases affecting people today, it also offers prescriptions for wellness, ways to ditch the 13 dreaded dis-eases, and suggestions for creating a lifetime of health and happiness.
 
Have you seen the new website for "The Abracadabra Effect"?
 
Facebook/Twitter
Facebook
 
Both Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman have joined Facebook. We would both welcome an opportunity to be added to your friends list. Please send us a friend request that tells us you are a Parent Newsletter subscriber so we can recognize how we know you.
 

New on Facebook -- Spirit Whisperer Oasis.
 
An oasis for educators and parents who desire more support, encouragement and affirmation for what they do to teach to a child's spirit. Check it out on Facebook and be sure to hover over the LIKE section so you can click SEND NOTIFICATIONS to insure you get all the new postings. 
 
Newer on Facebook ---The Abracadabra Effect
 
The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and
How to Cure Them contains the information and prescriptions
necessary to eliminate dis-ease from your life. Begin today to
increase your personal power and self-responsibility. Model
healthy speaking, thinking, believing, and living to your family
and coworkers.
 
 
Twitter
 
Yes, we both Twitter.
 

Thomas B. Haller is now twitting. Instead of following what I am doing throughout the day, I invite you to follow what I am thinking. To join me as I tweet my thoughts, go to www.twitter.com/tomhaller.
 

Chick Moorman is now on Twitter. To sign up for Parent Talk Tips, timely questions, short but raging rants, bursts of inspiration, and random thoughts on parenting and teaching, follow the link. Why not be the first on your block to initiate regular contact? http://twitter.com/ChickMoorman 
Offer for Arizona Parents
Chick Moorman will be in Arizona from February 12 to 23, 2015. Mostly he will be attending the Arabian Horse Show in Scottsdale during that time. He has offered to do two evening parenting programs while he is in Arizona.
 
This is a limited opportunity to get Chick and his expertise in front of your parents for a greatly reduced fee. Plus, there are no travel expenses since he will already be in the area. If your group is within two hours’ driving distance from Scottsdale and you are quick to jump on this special offer, you could be one of only two organizations receiving this special deal.
 
Act now and contact Chick at:
 
Phone - 989-643-5059
E-mail - ipp57@aol.com
Seminar Schedule
Jan. 16 - Cancun, Mexico.
The Power Of Your Words to Create a Year of Brilliancy Presented by Chick Moorman. Ritz-Carlton, Cancun, Mexico. For more information email sylvia@ivonnealexander.com.
 
Jan. 20 - Cancun, Mexico.
Advanced Parent Talk Presented by Chick Moorman , 9:00 am - 1:00 pm. For more information contact Leticia Molina Diaz or Rebeca Montero Miranda at 001-52-998-275-0468.
 
Jan. 21 - Cancun, Mexico.
Advanced Parent Talk Presented by Chick Moorman , 9:00 am - 1:00 pm. For more information contact Leticia Molina Diaz or Rebeca Montero Miranda at 001-52-998-275-0468.
 
Jan. 22 - Cancun, Mexico.
Advanced Parent Talk Presented by Chick Moorman , 9:00 am - 1:00 pm. For more information contact Leticia Molina Diaz or Rebeca Montero Miranda at 001-52-998-275-0468.
 
Feb. 4 - Madison Heights, MI.
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound Presented by Chick Moorman, 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm. Four Corners Montessori Academy. For more information contact Chris Schoenherr Miller at 248-542-7001 or email chrisschoenherr@choice
schools.com.
 
Feb. 5 - Battle Creek, MI.
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound Presented by Chick Moorman, 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm. Battle Creek Montessori Academy. For more information contact Ann Pilzner at 269-339-3308 or email annpilzner@michoicebcma.com.
 
Feb. 7 - Greenwood, SC.
Teacher Talk Advantage Presented by Chick Moorman, 9:00 am - 4:00 pm. Spring Montessori Conference 2015 - Lander University. For more information contact Martine Fezler at 864-388-8628 or email mfezler@lander.edu.

Feb. 25 - Livonia, MI.
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound Presented by Chick Moorman, 6:30 pm - 8:30 pm. The Felician Sisters Child Care Centers, Montessori Center of our Lady. For more information contact Maria Sicillano Mueller at 734-793-3851 or email m.mueller@feliciansisters
Media Schedule
 
Thomas on television answering viewer questions:
 
Relationship Matters – Every Monday at 9:15 am on WNEM TV5 Better Mid-Michigan
 
Family Matters with Thomas Haller Fridays at noon, Saturdays at 8:45 am, Sundays at   7:45 am and 8:45 am on WNEM TV5. Also streaming live at: www.wnem.com.
 
To view Dr. Tom's previous Family Matters segments, CLICK HERE.
 
Thomas on the radio answering questions and discussing hot topics:
 
Every Thursday morning at 7:30 am on CARZ 108FM – Streaming live online www.wcrz.com.
 
Listen to Thomas on The Thomas and Valerie Show on www.prx.org or on www.thethomasandvalerieshow.com.
Links
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