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Parent Newsletter #134
July 31, 2015
Welcome! This is a free parent newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.
Mission Statement
Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.
In This Issue
  1.  Quote
  2.  Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
  3.  Bumper Sticker
  4.  Article – 20 More Parenting Questions
  5.  Parent Talk Tips
  6.  Poster Perspective
1. Quote
"Honor! Our people love to honor people. We are a race of people who believe in honor. We know honor stimulates people. The man honored his wife and the wife honored her husband. And they lived in such beauty. They had a devotion which individually and collectively we all need if we’re going to make this a better world. To live in."
 
Phil Lane Sr
Ihanktowan Dakota Elder
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
What is your grandest vision of yourself as a parent? Why not act as if you already are what you would really like to be as a parent?
3. Bumper Sticker
Spotted on a red Mazda in Petoskey, MI:  
 
They call us STEPDADS
Because we step up When you step out.
4. 20 More Parenting Questions
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
 
Do you believe that parenting is the single most important thing you will ever do? If so, do you regularly question your parenting style, responses, beliefs and attitudes? If not, why? Wouldn’t examining your parenting strategies and skills be a worthwhile endeavor from time to time? If you think so, here are 20 more questions you can use to check your current parenting consciousness level.
 
21.  Do you see mistakes as learning experiences and opportunities for teaching, or do you judge mistakes as bad and see them as behavior to be avoided?
 
22.  Do you create structure to meet the needs of children and expect adults to adapt their schedules accordingly, or do you create structure to meet the needs of adults and expect children to adapt their schedules accordingly? 
 
23.  Do you see yourself as empowered and at choice about your children and your family, or do you see yourself as a victim who is unable to choose effective parenting strategies?
 
24.  Is your response to holding children accountable for their actions, to talk less and act more, or to talk more and act less?
 
25.  Are you present when you are with children, focusing your attention on the activity at hand, or do you multitask when you are with children, focusing your attention on several things at the same time?
 
26.  Do you invest your time searching for solutions, or do you invest your children's time in your doing blame and punishment?
 
27.  Have you figured out that being right doesn't work, or do you still believe that you are right and force compliance?
 
28.  Do you teach children to speak for themselves, or do you speak for your children, often telling other people what they think?
 
29.  Do you refuse to rescue children and do not protect them from experiencing the legitimate consequences of their actions, or do you rescue children frequently, denying them opportunities to experience the legitimate consequences of their actions?
 
30.  Have you learned a style of praise that allows the child to make the evaluation so their self-esteem becomes internal, or do you still use a style of praise that is predominately evaluative so the child's self-esteem becomes external and they chase after praise?
 
31.  Do you communicate anger, irritation, and annoyance in ways that preserve the child's dignity, or do you communicate anger, irritation, and annoyance in ways that attack character and personality and wound the child’s spirit?
 
32.  Are you offering children choices to help them become empowered and learn to make their own decisions, or do you offer children no choices, telling them what and how they will do things?
 
33.  Do you treat parenting as the most important role you will ever have, or do you treat parenting as an inconvenience and intrusion on the adult's time, schedule, and needs?
 
34.  Do you steadfastly refrain from using verbal or physical violence at all times, or do you spank and yell at children and defend your actions as appropriate?
 
35.  Are you working to make yourself dispensable to your children, or do your actions serve to make yourself indispensable to your children?
 
36.  Do you treat every incident as if it were a first-time occurrence, or are you a proponent of mental score keeping, unknowingly dragging the past into the present and projecting it into the future?
 
37.  Have you come to the realization that shame, blame, and guilt have long-lasting effects on children and create negative core beliefs, or do you use shame, blame, and guilt on children, manipulating them into a quick-fix compliance to your wishes?
 
38.  Can you emotionally accept that "what is" is, even as you work to alter the "what is" on a physical level, or do you emotionally resist "what is" with judging, labeling, and shoulding?
 
39.  Have you learned to accept emotionally and then act, or do you take action from a state of nonacceptance?
 
40.  Have you learned to be the silent watcher without judging, analyzing, or intervening, or do you judge, think, emote, and act without observing silently?
 
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish free parent and educator newsletters. To subscribe to the newsletters or obtain information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their websites today: www.thomashaller.com or www.chickmoorman.com
5.  Parent Talk Tips
Parent Talk Tip #64:
Mess happens. If you are a parent, get used to it. It's just the way it is. Your choice lies in how you view it. You can see it as terrible, disgusting, awful, wonderful, educational or exciting. It's your choice.
 
Parent Talk Tip #86:
No one does perfect parenting. No one gets perfect parenting. What all children deserve most is a parent who works at improving his or her attitude and actions in regard to the sacred responsibility of being a parent.
 
Parent Talk Tip #366:
What are you complaining about today? Know that you are teaching your child to complain about it tomorrow.
 
Want more?
 
The Parent Talk Tip Collection: 730 Practical Verbal Skills to Help You Raise Responsible, Caring, Conscious Children By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
eBook - $7.95
 
6. Poster Perspective

Chick Moorman
 
Contact Chick at:
 
1-877-360-1477 (toll-free)
e-mail ipp57@aol.com
www.chickmoorman.com
www.twitter.com/chickmoorman
www.facebook.com/chick.moorman
 
CLICK HERE TO VISIT CHICK'S WEBSITE.
 
Thomas Haller
 
Contact Thomas at:
 
989-686-5356
e-mail thomas@thomashaller.com
www.thomashaller.com
www.twitter.com/tomhaller
www.facebook.com/thomas.b.haller
 
CLICK HERE TO VISIT THOMAS' WEBSITE.
 
Copyright
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The Summer Sale on Educator Books
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The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need
Good Praise/Bad Praise
Grace-full Parenting
Winning the Whining Wars
 
Contact Thomas at:
989-686-5356
e-mail thomas@thomashaller.com
 
Contact Chick at:
1-877-360-1477 (toll-free)
e-mail ipp57@aol.com
 
The Parent Talk System Facilitator Training Via SKYPE
For those of you who live in distant places or find you are unable to travel to Michigan for our once-a-year training, check out the one-on-one SKYPE training with Chick Moorman.
 
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Seminar Schedule
Aug. 21 - Cary, IL
Teacher Talk Advantage presented by Chick Moorman, 9:00 am - 12:00 pm. For information contact Carolyn Strong at cstrong@ssppcary.org.
 
Oct. 9 - Crestwood, IL
Motivating the Unmotivated, 8:00 am - 3:30 pm. For information contact Carol Costello at ccostello@eisencoop.org.
 
Nov. 4 - Burlington, VT
Helping Students Move from "I Can't" and "I Won't" to "I Can" and "I Will", 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 5 - Manchester, NH
Helping Students Move from "I Can't" and "I Won't" to "I Can" and "I Will", 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 6 - Portland, ME
Helping Students Move from "I Can't" and "I Won't" to "I Can" and "I Will", 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 12 - Anaheim, CA
Helping Students Move from "I Can't" and "I Won't" to "I Can" and "I Will", 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 13 - Pasadena, CA
Helping Students Move from "I Can't" and "I Won't" to "I Can" and "I Will", 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Nov. 30 - Syracuse, NY
Motivating the Unmotivated, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 1  - Chicago South, IL
Motivating the Unmotivated, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 2  - Chicago North, IL
Motivating the Unmotivated, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 3  - St. Louis, MO
Motivating the Unmotivated, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 4  - Denver, CO
Motivating the Unmotivated, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
Media Schedule
 
Thomas on television answering viewer questions:
 
Relationship Matters – Every Monday at 9:15 am on WNEM TV5 Better Mid-Michigan
 
Family Matters with Thomas Haller Fridays at noon, Saturdays at 8:45 am, Sundays at   7:45 am and 8:45 am on WNEM TV5. Also streaming live at: www.wnem.com.
 
To view Dr. Tom's previous Family Matters segments, CLICK HERE.
 
Thomas on the radio answering questions and discussing hot topics:
 
Every Thursday morning at 7:30 am on CARZ 108FM – Streaming live online www.wcrz.com.
 
Listen to Thomas on The Thomas and Valerie Show on www.prx.org or on www.thethomasandvalerieshow.com.
Links
CHICK MOORMAN
THOMAS HALLER
PERSONAL POWER PRESS
TEACHER TALK ADVANTAGE
SPIRIT WHISPERER SANCTUARY
THE ABRACADABRA EFFECT
REESE HALLER
PARKER HALLER
DENTAL TALK
THE THOMAS AND VALERIE SHOW
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