Educator Newsletter #132
November 30, 2015
Welcome! This is a free educator newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.
Mission Statement
Our mission is to inspire, encourage, and uplift the spirits of educators so they can in turn inspire, encourage, and uplift the spirits of their students.
In This Issue
1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. Article: Response to Misbehavior: Redirecting or Escalating?
5. The Spirit Whisperer Sanctuary 
1. Quote
"Education is the most powerful weapon we can use to change the world.”
 
∼ Nelson Mandela
 
Editors' Note: We do not question the intent inherent in Nelson Mandela's comment. We salute it as well as his incredible journey bringing peace and acceptance to a troubled world. Yet, we would have preferred it if he had stated, "Education is the most powerful tool we can use to change the world." Yes, we changed the word weapon to tool. Our belief is that it is healthier and more effective to work to build the world we desire with tools rather than to fight the world we prefer to change with weapons. 
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
Maybe the student who acts out has forgotten who she really is. Perhaps our job is to awaken her rather than punish her.
 
Get a full year of SW Contemplations free when you order the Spirit Whisperers book.
 
3. Bumper Sticker
Spotted on a red Kia Forte in Pasadena, CA:
 
Making Childhood a Journey
Rather than a Race.
4. Article: Response to Misbehavior: Redirecting or Escalating?
 
 
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
 
One of your students sits there doing nothing and five minutes has passed. What do you say?
 
Later, another student starts a side conversation during quiet reading time. What verbalization would be helpful here?
 
How are you going to respond when one of your students takes out his cell phone? Do you have an effective verbal skill ready?
 
The situations above and many others like them happen to teachers every day. More than once. The action you take, the words you use, the attitude you bring to each situation can serve to ignite or extinguish problematic behaviors. The goal here is to handle each incident by redirecting the student behavior with the least amount of action and number of words necessary. Becoming confrontational and using too much power, too strongly, too early is tantamount to pouring gasoline on the fire. Here, less is better.
 
Following are several strategies available to educators as they attempt to redirect behavior. They are arranged from low-level interventions to strategies that require more words and increased action.
 
1.  Do nothing. Don't feed the behavior and maybe it will go away. Ignore it and see if it ends quickly by itself. Sometimes it does. If not, move on down the list.
 
2.  Make eye contact. Yes, we are suggesting that you simply look at the student. When you engage their eyes with a serious look on your face they know that you see they are not in their seat, haven't got their book out, or don't have a pencil. Sometimes words aren't necessary. Why waste them?
 
3.  Add a nonverbal gesture to your look. A tiny finger wave or a point in the direction of their seat is often enough to get the student to choose a more helpful behavior. Gesture as if you are opening a book, or place your forefinger across your lips to simulate a shhh sound. Make a circular movement with your forefinger to suggest "Time to get going."
 
4.  Move forward. Take a step toward them. Often students will end the behavior if they think you are on the move in their direction.
 
5.  A closer proximity may be necessary. Get close enough to them so they can hear a private message. Add words to your physical presence. "Please make a different choice" often works. So does the "Feel free to . . ." or "Save it for . . ." technique.
 
"Edmundo and Robert, that's probably an interesting conversation. Please save it until after class. Right now I need you to be working on your project. Thank you."
 
"Arwa, feel free to sleep when you get home. Now is the time to practice translating on page 45. Thank you."
 
Notice that the words “thank you” follow these verbalizations. Thanking them in advance sends a clear message to students that you expect they will comply.
 
6.  Beware of questions to which you already know the answer. They smack of sarcasm and add fuel to the student's fire.
 
"Do you know where your seat is?"
"Didn’t I just tell you this?"
"Do I have to tell you this again?"
"Are you on the wrong page?"
"Do you know who you’re talking to?"
"Are you out of your seat again?"
 
7.  Refrain from asking questions that belittle. You'll get an answer that sounds like disrespect. Actually, you were the one who started it.
 
"Aren't you ever going to learn this?"
"Why do you always have to do that?"
"How many times do I have to tell you?"
"So is this what I can count on you doing today?"
"Who are you going to pick on next?"
"Just how long can I expect you to misbehave?"
"Do you think I'm stupid?"
 
8.  Issuing a challenge invites a power struggle.
 
"Just try it and see what happens."
"Go on. Push my buttons one more time."
"Do you want to find out what happens next?"
"Just keep doing it."
"I'm not going to put up with much more."
 
 9.  Ask questions that move the student toward redirection.
 
"What should you be doing?"
"Is this helping or hurting you?"
"What Responsible Action Statement (class norm) could you be using right now?"
"Is that going to get you ahead or behind?"
"What's the procedure if you don't have a pencil?"
 
10.  Ask closed-ended questions that allow for limited choice.
 
"Is this against our norms, yes or no?"
"Would making a different choice be helpful or unhelpful?"
"Is that going to help you reach your goal, yes or no?"
"This is what I heard. Is it going to continue, yes or no?"
"Just because I like you, do you think I'm going to let you continue it, yes or no?"
 
11.  Use "I" statements.
 
"I need you in your seat" garners less resistance than "You need to get in your seat."
"You need to quiet down" is not received as positively as "I need to have it less noisy in here so all of you can concentrate."
"I would like it if you'd raise your hand and wait to be called on" is less confrontational than "You need to raise your hand if you want to be called on."
 
The eleven nonverbal and verbal skill suggestions listed above could help you eliminate many of the misbehaviors students create during a normal day. They will allow you and the student to return more quickly to the important business of education. Use them to your advantage to keep misbehaviors from escalating into major power struggles.
 
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the coauthors of The Teacher Talk Advantage: Five Voices of Effective Teaching. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free monthly e-zine for educators and another for parents. To sign up for their newsletters or learn more about the seminars they offer teachers and parents, visit their websites today: www.chickmoorman.com and www.thomashaller.com.
The Teacher Talk Advantage
  
 
5. The Spirit Whisperer Sanctuary
 
From Cheri Najor-Young
 
"Yes, Mr. Principal, I want my detention," said my son to his principal this morning.
 
So it seems my son made some "gestures" in class that were deemed inappropriate. Yes, "those" tweeny, experimental gestures.
 
Today, however, this same young man marched into the principal's office and said, "I just don't see how serving a detention will TEACH me anything. So can I clean the bathrooms or rake leaves or do something positive for the school? I mean, just sitting there doesn't make sense."
 
If you haven't seen the contribution above, you haven't been visiting
 
 
You Will Find Hope Here!

 
If you are one of those Spirit Whisperers that is losing hope, know that you are not alone. Come to www.spiritwhisperersanctuary.com.
 
You will find hope here along with connectedness, encouragement, and useful ideas. This spot is for YOU!
 
Spirit Whisperers are "hope givers." They give us hope that we can create an educational system and a style of parenting that doesn't perceive failure, that grants dignity without it needing to be earned, and that holds the child in a state of grace, even as appropriate consequences are implemented. Thank you for giving us all hope.
 
Enjoy www.spiritwhisperersanctuary.com. Tell your colleagues. 
Chick Moorman



Contact Chick at:
 
1-877-360-1477 (toll-free)
e-mail ipp57@aol.com
www.chickmoorman.com 
www.twitter.com/chickmoorman
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Thomas Haller
Contact Thomas at:
 
989-686-5356
e-mail thomas@thomashaller.com
www.thomashaller.com
www.twitter.com/tomhaller
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CLICK HERE TO VISIT THOMAS' WEBSITE.
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The Teacher Talk Advantage
Facilitator Training
 
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2470 Old Bridge Road
Bay City, MI 48706

 
 
 
 
Parent Programs: Bring one of these to your school this winter.
Most Popular Programs
 
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound
 
The Only 3 Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need
 
The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose
 
Transforming Aggression in Children: The Critical Strategies for Managing Aggressive Behavior
 
The 6 Best Parenting Strategies You’ll Ever Need: Effective and Practical Parenting Strategies
 
Help parents of students in your school get on the same page as the teachers. All workshops offer effective Verbal Empowerment Skills for raising responsible, caring, conscious children. Call Thomas Haller or Chick Moorman today.

 
Contact Thomas at:
989-686-5356
e-mail thomas@thomashaller.com
 
Contact Chick at:
1-877-360-1477 (toll-free)
e-mail ipp57@aol.com
 
Thomas Haller in Action
This power-packed 16-minute video will show you what Thomas Haller can do for your Student Council, National Honor Society, or other student leader organization.
 
Watch the customized talk he gives to welcome new Ecclesia members into this important organization at Bay City Central High School.
 
Know he can do this for your student organization and leave members feeling valued, affirmed and important.
 
Interested? E-mail Thomas Haller at thomas@thomashaller.com or call him at 989-686-5356 to find out more about this dynamic presentation.

 
CLICK HERE TO WATCH TOM IN ACTION.
Parent Talk System Training of Trainers One-on-One via Skype
"Thank you so much for all that you are, to me and to my work. I am finding the training so valuable in ALL aspects of my life. See you Friday!"

Those are the final three sentences of a communication Chick received from a client in Australia at the completion of one of our Skype sessions. He has just about finished the Parent Talk System Training of Trainers, and her questions are stretching him to expand his knowledge and application of the important verbal skills he teaches others. Win/win.

In addition to polishing the verbal skills Chick so strongly believes in, he is learning about the advantages of one-on-one training sessions. They include:

The client gets all their questions answered NOW.

They get full-time access to the originator of the material.

Neither of us has to travel.

We both sit in comfortable chairs in our offices.

There is a week in between each session, providing ample time to implement the skills.

Regular e-mails answer questions and concerns, and adjustments can be made immediately.

Personalizing the material is at its peak.

One-on-one allows for greater personal connection than one-with-twenty.

You could be one of the one-on-one clients to work with Chick Moorman this new year. Four people (it's already down to one opening) are all he will do this with in the coming year. Interested? E-mail Chick Moorman at
ipp57@aol.com and he will send you the FULL details about this exciting opportunity.
Workshops 
Nov. 30 - Syracuse, NY
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 1 - Chicago South, IL

Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 2 - Chicago North, IL

Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 3 - St. Louis, MO

Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Dec. 4 - Denver, CO 

Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Feb. 2 - Plainwell, MI
Parent-Child Relationship: Parent Café presented by Chick Moorman, 6:30 pm - 7:30 pm. Plainwell Community Schools. For more information contact Cathy Moorman at cmoorman@plainwellschools.org.
 
Feb. 8 - Cherry Hill, NJ
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Feb. 9 New Brunswick, NJ
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Feb. 10 - White Plains, NY
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Feb. 11 - Boston, MA
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
Feb. 28 - East Lansing, MI
The Only 3 Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need presented by Chick Moorman, 6:30 pm - 8:30 pm. Stepping Stones Montessori School, Edgewood Church (Social Hall). For more information contact Colleen Carlson at 517-336-0422 or email ccarlson@elsteppingstones.org.
Media Schedule
 
Thomas on television answering viewer questions:
 
Family Matters Segment – Every Wednesday at 12:15pm on WNEM TV5 News at Noon
 
Family Matters Segment – Every Saturday at 8:45am on WNEM TV5 Weekend Wake-up
 
Family Matters Segment – Every Sunday at 7:45 & 8:45am on WNEM TV5 Weekend Wake-up
 
Relationship Matters Segment – Every Monday at 9:00am on WNEM TV5 Better Mid-Michigan
 
Past segments can be viewed on-line at www.wnem.com 
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