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Parent Newsletter #139
March 13, 2016
Welcome! This is a free parent newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.
Mission Statement
Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.
In This Issue
1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. 7 More Lies to Stop Telling Your Kids
5. International Parenting Commitment Day: Special Sales Offer
 
1. Quote
"It's time to build a bridge and get over it." 
 
~ Anonymous
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
What if the anger your child is showing today has to arise before it can be released? Would not expressing that anger be a good thing?
 
3. Bumper Sticker
Spotted on a black Dodge Charger in White Plains, NY:
 
Dance Dad 
 
4. 7 More Lies to Stop Telling Your Kids
 
 
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
 
1.  "It tastes fantastic."
 
No, it doesn't taste fantastic and she's going to find that out momentarily. Trust will diminish. Suspicion will increase. And you will be exposed as a person who does not always tell the truth. An alternative is to say, "Some people like the way it tastes. Some don't. The only way to find out if you like it is to give it a try. See what you think."
 
If it is medicine and is necessary, give your child that information. Also give her a choice. "Would you like it in a banana or mixed with ice cream?"
 
2.  "The battery on my phone is dead."
 
This is an effective lie if all you want is for your child to stop asking, "Can I play with your phone?" This is a quick and easy way to end their begging.
 
"The battery on my phone is dead" is also an effective lie if your goal is to teach your children how to lie. On some level, they know you were playing with your phone five minutes ago. They also know you will go right back to playing with it as soon as they are distracted.
 
Consider telling the truth. "Sometimes I let you play with my phone. Sometimes I don't. This is one of those times when I don't. I want to text Uncle Bill right now." Another option is to create clear boundaries before the question surfaces. Create a phone-free zone or a phone-free time. Or set reasonable limits on screen time.
 
3.  "It won't hurt."
 
Yes, it will. Again, your child will find out soon enough that you are not being truthful. "It's only going to hurt a little bit," is NOT a helpful thing to say either. We suggest you don't mention the word "hurt" at all. That word plants the possibility of pain in a child's mind. They then picture hurt, think about hurt, imagine hurt, and create anxiety well in advance of any necessary procedure. Don't even mention the words hurt, sting, needle, drill, pain, or sharp.
 
Instead, simply describe the procedure to let the child know what is happening and how it will help him. "We have a special cream that keeps the germs away." "The dentist has a way to make one tooth go to sleep while the rest stay awake." "We have special medicine to rub on your itch to make it go away."
 
4.  "Keep talking. I can listen while I do this."
 
No, you can't. You can only half listen, at best. And you cannot give the child your full attention. Do you want your children to learn to keep playing their video game while you give them important instructions? No. You want their full attention. Model that for them.
 
If what you are doing is really important, tell them, "I'm really busy right now with this important task. You are important to me, too. I want to listen to you and this is not a time when I can give you the full attention you deserve. Unless this is an emergency, let's find a better time."
 
5.  "The ice cream shop is closed."
 
Someday your child will be able to tell time. Someday your child will realize the grocery store sells ice cream. Someday, immediately following your comment, you will, without thinking, drive by a different Tasty Freeze. Someday your child will know you are lying. Someday your child will lie to you. She will withhold the truth because she has learned from you it is easier or more time efficient to do so.
 
6.  "The toy (concert/movie/waterpark) is too expensive."
 
So how is it there is money for beer or wine, a new iPhone, a steak dinner, new shoes, a 40-inch television, and so on? The truth is we are choosing to spend our money on other priorities. "Too expensive" is a phrase we use to convince our children that the toy or concert is not a possibility. It's a way we have of hiding the choice we've made from our children and from ourselves. And this untruth adds to their as well as our belief in lack and limitation.
 
Instead, give your child the real reason you don't want him to go to the concert or help him explore how he could get the funds necessary to fulfill his desire.
 
7.  "We were . . . ummm . . . sort of . . . pretend wrestling. That's it. Your mom and I were pretend wrestling."
 
Nice try. Now what are you going to say when your child asks, "Can I wrestle, too?"
 
If you get walked in on, first say nothing. Watch closely to see how the child reacts. She may not say much or do much about it. If that's the case, don't say much or do much either. If your child asks questions, answer them according to her age level and understanding. She may simply ask, "What are you guys doing?" Respond, "We were being close and snuggling, as we like to do sometimes."
 
Either way, don't make a big deal out of it. The incident will not scar her for life. The more casual your response, the less likely she is to remember.
 
 
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of Parent Talk Essentials: How to Talk to Kids about Divorce, Sex, Money, School and Being Responsible in Today’s World. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish free parent and educator newsletters. To subscribe to the newsletters or obtain information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their websites today: www.thomashaller.com and www.chickmoorman.com
5. International Parenting Commitment Day Special Sales Offer
Help us celebrate International Parenting Commitment Day.
 
Spectacular savings ONE DAY ONLY.
 
March 20, 2016
 
ALL PARENTING BOOKS 50% OFF!!!
 
Sale begins 12:01 am (EST) on March 20th and ends 12:01 am (EST) on March 21st.
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Become the parent you always wanted to be! These books will inspire and challenge you to raise responsible, caring, confident children. They will help you reduce stress in your parenting life and bring increased harmony to your family.
 
We're rolling back the prices on the following parenting books.
 
Parent Talk
 
Softcover book, 291 pages - Regularly $16.00 - SALE PRICE $8.00 (plus postage)
 
 
 
Parent Talk Essentials
 
Softcover book, 350 pages - Regularly $15.00 - SALE PRICE $7.50 (plus postage)
 
 
The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need
 
Softcover book, 120 pages - Regularly $14.95 - SALE PRICE $7.48 (plus postage)
 
 
Teaching the Attraction Principle to Children
 
Hardcover book, 200 pages - Regularly $24.95 - SALE PRICE $12.48 (plus postage)
 
  
The 10 Commitments
 
eBook, 114 pages - Regularly $11.95 - SALE PRICE $5.98
 
 
The Parent Talk Tip Collection
 
eBook, 730 Tips - Regularly $7.95 - SALE PRICE $3.98
 
 
These practical and inspirational products will provide you with:
 
Verbal skills to deal effectively with the everyday challenges and stresses of being a parent.
 
Tips on how to teach the attitudes and behaviors you really want your children to learn.
 
Suggestions for how to create a culture of accountability in your family and implement consequences without wounding a child's spirit.
 
Advice on the importance of parenting with intentionality, vision, and a sense of mission.
 
Isn't parenting your child too important to leave to chance?
 
Give your children a jump start to an enriched life by implementing the proven parenting strategies contained within these helpful books.
 
There has never been a better time to find the answers to your parenting concerns!
 
Remember, this sale is offered one day only, International Parenting Commitment Day, March 20, 2016. Mark your calendar now to take advantage of this incredible offer.
Chick Moorman
 
Contact Chick at:
 
1-877-360-1477 (toll-free)
e-mail ipp57@aol.com
www.chickmoorman.com
www.twitter.com/chickmoorman
www.facebook.com/chick.moorman
 
CLICK HERE TO VISIT CHICK'S WEBSITE.
 
Thomas Haller
 
Contact Thomas at:
 
989-686-5356
e-mail thomas@thomashaller.com
www.thomashaller.com
www.twitter.com/tomhaller
www.facebook.com/thomas.b.haller
 
CLICK HERE TO VISIT THOMAS' WEBSITE.
 
Copyright
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Parent Talk System: Training of Trainers - 2016
Mark your calendar now. Plan your summer vacation around this exciting trainer opportunity.
 
Isn't it time you offered these important verbal skills to parents in your community, church, or school? We will teach you how to do just that.
 
July 14 - 16, 2016
 
Bay Valley Resort & Conference Center
2470 Old Bridge Road
Bay City, MI  48706
 
 
 
Practical, Comprehensive Websites
1.  The Abracadabra Effect
 
For adding personal empowerment skills to your life and the lives of significant others.
 
 
2.  The Spirit Whisperers Sanctuary
 
A new website for teachers and parents.
 
 
Facebook
Spirit Whisperer Oasis
 
An oasis for educators and parents who desire more support, encouragement and affirmation for what they do to teach to a child's spirit. Check it out on Facebook and be sure to hover over the LIKE section so you can click SEND NOTIFICATIONS to insure you get all the new postings.
 
www.facebook.com/Spiritwhispereroasis
 
 
The Abracadabra Effect
 
The Abracadabra Effect: The 13 Verbally Transmitted Diseases and How to Cure Them contains the information and prescriptions necessary to eliminate dis-ease from your life. Begin today to increase your personal power and self-responsibility. Model healthy speaking, thinking, believing, and living to your family and coworkers.
 
www.facebook.com/pages/The-Abracadabra-Effect/1481907655386315
Seminar Schedule
March 14 - Alsip, IL
Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound, presented by Chick Moorman, 6:30 pm - 8:30 pm. Atwood Heights School District 125. Alsip-Merrionette Park Public Library, 11960 S. Pulaski. For more information contact Lisa West, Principal, Hamlin Upper Grade Center at 708-597-1550 or email LWest@ahsd125.org.
 
March 15 - Alsip, IL
Motivating the Unmotivated, presented by Chick Moorman, 8:30 am - 2:30 pm. Atwood Heights School District 125. For more information contact Lisa West, Principal, Hamlin Upper Grade Center at 708-597-1550 or email LWest@ahsd125.org.
 
March 18 - Phoenix, NY
The Only 3 Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need, presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 9:45 am, 10:00 am - 11:45 am and 1:15 pm - 3:00 pm. Phoenix Central Schools. For more information contact Christopher Byrne at 315-695-1641 or email cbyrne@phoeixcsd.org.
 
March 23 - Manchester, NH
Motivating the Unmotivated, presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Bureau of Education & Research (BER). For more information contact BER at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
March 24 - Burlington, VT
Motivating the Unmotivated, presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Bureau of Education & Research (BER). For more information contact BER at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
March 31 - Lansing, MI
The New Face of CBT: Verbal Empower Therapy, presented by Thomas Haller, 1:30 pm - 3:00 pm, NASW-Michigan 2016 Annual Conference, Lansing Center. For more information visit: http://www.nasw-michigan.org/?Conference
 
March 31 - Lansing, MI
The Elements of Praise, presented by Thomas Haller, 3:30 pm - 5:00 pm, NASW-Michigan 2016 Annual Conference, Lansing Center. For more information visit: http://www.nasw-michigan.org/?Conference
 
April 16  - Fulton, NY
Keynote: The 5 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose and Concurrent Sessions: Good Praise/Bad Praise and Eliminating Negative Behaviors, presented by Chick Moorman. Parent University Conference. For more information contact Betsy Conners at 315-593-5480 or email econners@fulton.cnyric.org.
 
April 18  - Salt Lake City, UT
Restorative Discipline: Help Your Students Improve Their Behavior and Strengthen Their Learning, presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Bureau of Education & Research (BER). For more information contact BER at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
April 19  - Ontario, CA
Restorative Discipline: Help Your Students Improve Their Behavior and Strengthen Their Learning, presented by Chick Moorman , 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Bureau of Education & Research (BER). For more information contact BER at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
April 20  - Anaheim, CA
Restorative Discipline: Help Your Students Improve Their Behavior and Strengthen Their Learning, presented by Chick Moorman , 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Bureau of Education & Research (BER). For more information contact BER at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
April 23  - Dearborn, MI
Dimensions of Discipline, presented by Chick Moorman, half-day. Michigan Montessori Society. For more information contact Heidi Gauger at hwgmontessori@gmail.com.
 
April 25 – 28 - Chicago South, IL
Reducing Disruptive Behaviors to Increase Learning: Strategies That Work (6th - 12th) Training of Trainers, presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Bureau of Education & Research (BER). For more information contact BER at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.
 
May 1 - Auburn Hills, MI
Keynote presented by Chick Moorman, 6:00 pm - 7:00 pm, Beverly Hills Academy Annual Fundraising Banquet, Marriott CenterPoint. For more information contact Felicia Calabrese at feliciac@beverlyhillsacademy.org.
 
May 5 - Bowling Green, OH
Transformational Parenting presented by Chick Moorman, 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm, Montessori School of Bowling Green. For more information contact Jessica Hoover at 419-352-4203 or email jessica@montessorischoolbg.org.
 
May 9 - Chicago South, IL
Restorative Discipline: Help Your Students Improve Their Behavior and Strengthen Their Learning presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Bureau of Education & Research (BER). For more information contact BER at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org
 
May 10 - Chicago North, IL
Restorative Discipline: Help Your Students Improve Their Behavior and Strengthen Their Learning presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Bureau of Education & Research (BER). For more information contact BER at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.  
Media Schedule
 
Thomas on television answering viewer questions:
 
WNEM - Family Matters - Three new questions addressed every week.
 
Wednesdays at 12:15 pm on WNEM TV5, Family Matters segments, Dr. Thomas Haller answers viewers’ questions regarding parenting and relationships. Streaming live on www.wnem.com.
 
Saturdays at 8:45 am on WNEM TV5, Family Matters segments, Dr. Thomas Haller answers viewers’ questions regarding parenting and relationships. Streaming live on www.wnem.com.
 
Sundays at 7:45 am on WNEM TV5, Family Matters segments, Dr. Thomas Haller answers viewers’ questions regarding parenting and relationships. Streaming live on www.wnem.com.
Links
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