Melissa (LINCNT Instructor name changed): "Tell me a situation where there was a heart of war. It could be with one of you or someone else."
Student, yelling out: "I know who has a heart of war - ROBERT!" (name changed)
Melissa had encouraged them not to share specific names.
S, very upset: "Everyone knows about it. Every time he grabs my face mask and pushes me. He keeps going even after he is supposed to stop."
The student is moving around and obviously very angry.
M: "I guess this is an obvious heart of war."
S: "Well, if he doesn't stop, I'm going to really give it back to him next time."
M: "So, you both have a heat of war?"
S, trying to interrupt: "NO!"
M: "If you try and look at this a little differently, you might be able to have a heart of peace."
S, interrupting again: "That's impossible!"
M: "I know you are a good player."
S: "You don't know that!"
M: "I heard you are a great player from someone else on your team. Their dad even told me that you have a ton of potential. Since you are such a good player, do you think that this other guy is trying to go after you because you are one of the best on the team?"
The student has started to calm down.
S: "...but if he does it again, I'm gonna..."
M, writing on the board the word JEALOUS: "Do you think that his heart of war is coming from jealousy?"
The whole classroom started agreeing out loud.
S: "Okay, I hear you."
M: "Maybe he is trying to prove something."
S: "Go on..."
M: "Maybe, just maybe the problem really doesn't have anything to do with you. Maybe it has to do with his jealousy about how good you are. So now, instead of looking at him with anger, do you think you can look/ at him with compassion, understanding that if you were not a good player you might feel bad too"
S, nodding his head: "OK."
M: "That is having a heart of peace. Putting yourself in his shoes, understanding how he might feel. You might even feel bad for him. Your teammate having a go at you might actually be a compliment."
S: "I get it."
The student got a smile on his face, crossed his arms, and leaned back.
S: "Miss, you gave me something to think about."
Two weeks later this same young man told the instructor that he wasn't upset with his teammate even though he hasn't stopped charging at him. LINC NT is transforming lives and training students and their families how to have peaceful relationships. LINC NT is leading about 1,500 students through these life changing lessons. Your prayers and financial gifts help LINC NT reach more. You can be a part of this transformation too! Click the link below.