- How should we respond when children disagree with what's dearest to our heart? -
Love and Logic - Insider's Club
Parents Educators Facilitators Classes and Conferences About Us
photo of frustrated parent
 
Click to play

At least once in just about every parent’s life they will hear a sassy, “You guys are so into _________. I hate it.” Or “I don’t know why you are so uptight about_________” or “I don’t know why you don’t like_________” or “I don’t believe in _________ like you do.”
 
As their neurons develop, why is it that many children find what’s dearest to our hearts and with spit and vinegar inform us that they disagree? More importantly, how might we respond in ways that maintain our relationship while increasing the odds that they will make healthy life choices?
 
While there are many possible reasons why a given child might toss one of these bombs, most do so because they are trying to see whether they’re being led by strong and capable people. If we lose our cool, they’ll need to test more. If we can handle such barbs without freaking out or launching into lectures, they will likely test less.
 
Let’s consider how Mom might reply to her momentarily sassy son, Jake.
 
Jake: “I don’t know why you guys believe_________.”
 
Mom (with calmness and sincerity): “I’m really interested in what you think, Jake. Tell me about it.”
 
Jake (describing something completely extreme): “Well… I think that_________.”
 
Mom (smiling and resting her hand on his shoulder): “I’m so glad you shared that with me. That’s a really interesting viewpoint. It doesn’t work for me, but who needs to decide what you think? Is that you or me?”
 
Jake: “Me!”
 
Mom: “You’re right. I love you.”
 
There’s good news! As long as we don’t lose it over these moments… and as long as we remain loving authority figures, it’s extremely likely they’ll wake up at age thirty and realize that they are just like us. Modeling really is powerful!
 
Charles Fay, Ph.D. - BiographyThanks for reading! Our goal is to help as many families as possible. If this is a benefit, forward it to a friend.
 
Dr. Charles Fay
 
Share this article on Facebook
Exclusive Member Discount!
Keeping it Sane!
 
Stepparenting-Keeping it Sane - book
25% off book: $17.95

 This week $13.46
Coupon Code 020117

15% off e-Book: $12.50
This week $10.63
Coupon Code 020117e  
 

 
See Jim Fay in
Houston, TX
2/09/17
 See Jim and Charles in
Lenexa, KS
2/25/17
 
 
If we're not in your city, watch a Love and Logic
On-Demand Webinar
or
find a local trainer teaching classes in your area.
 
 

 
Plan this summer's family vacation around the
Love and Logic
Educator & Parent Retreat

Vail, CO - Educator and Parent Retreat - June 19-21
June 2017 join us at the newly renovated
Vail Cascade Resort
 
 
View the info book
for more details about this exciting event
or call
800-338-4065
 
 
Graduate-level credit available
Facebook Twitter YouTube Pintrest Google+
For helpful tips, special promotions, and event announcements, join Love and Logic® on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Pinterest, Google+.
Funny Parenting Stories and Funny Stories from the Classroom: amusing audios available for your listening pleasure, compliments of Love and Logic. Visit this page to download and enjoy.
 
© 2017 Love and Logic Institute, Inc. All copyright infringement laws apply. Permission granted for forwarding and/or for a single photocopy or electronic reproduction of one email tip only. Please do not alter or modify. For more information, call the Love and Logic Institute, Inc. at 800-338-4065.
 
View as Web Page

Love and Logic Institute, Inc.  •  2207 Jackson St  •  Golden, CO 80401

https://www.loveandlogic.com

Subscribe  •  Preferences  •  Send to a Friend  •  Unsubscribe  •  Report Spam
Powered by MyNewsletterBuilder