Educator Newsletter #138
May 5, 2017
Welcome! This is a free educator newsletter offered to you by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller.
Mission Statement
Our mission is to inspire, encourage, and uplift the spirits of educators so they can in turn inspire, encourage, and uplift the spirits of their students.
In This Issue
  1. Quote
  2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
  3. Bumper Sticker
  4. Article: 14 Questions Never to Ask Students
  5. Shout Out to Nickolas Joseph
  6. Time for a Vacation?
1. Quote
"When a boy wants you to get him something, support his wanting the something, but not your getting it for him. Support his doing the research and investigation. Support his problem solving. Support his earning the money. Celebrate his accomplishing his goal or deciding to let it go. He is building his young manhood and you are helping him along his way."
∼ Ted Braude, How Boys Become Men: Transforming Dragon Spirit into Courageous Heart.
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
What if the adage "I'll believe it when I see it" is actually backwards? What if the reverse is true: "I'll see it when I believe it"? If that were so, what would you choose to believe about this student?
3. Bumper Sticker
Spotted on a red Chevy Cruze in Clinton Township, MI:
4. Article: 14 Questions Never to Ask Students
 By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
1.  "Do you know where your seat is?"
Of course they know where their seat is. Do you really want them to say, "It's the third row back, two over, the one where no one is sitting?"
2.  "Didn't I just tell you this?"
You already know you just told them that. This question is an attempt to belittle and mock.
3.  "Do I have to tell you this again?"
This question invites the response, "Yes, you do and maybe a couple of more times as well." The adult now interprets the student’s response as being disrespectful when in reality the adult started the disrespect and invited it to continue.
4.  "Are you out of your seat again?"
You wouldn't be asking this question if they were in their seat. This question does not seek an answer. It is an explosion of uncontrolled adult frustration. Take four deep breaths and tell the student privately that you would like them in their seat now.
5.  "Do you always have to do that?"
Always? Really? Of course they don't always do that. Ditch the exaggeration and deal with this incident only.
6.  "Aren't you ever going to learn this?"
This question is actually a statement. It tells the student "You are a slow learner and do not grasp concepts quickly." Is that the message you really want to send?
7.  "How many times do I have to tell you?"
This is an example of verbal mental-scorekeeping. It doesn't matter if it's the fourth or tenth time. It is this time, and this time is the only one you can deal with in this moment. Stop counting.
8.  "So this is what I can expect from you today?"
You might just as well say, "I expect this from you today." Don't be surprised if you attract more of it.
9.  "Who are you going to bother next?"
Again, this communicates your expectation that the student is going to continue to bother others.
10.  "Do you want to find out?"
A student who loves power struggles will rise to the bait on this one. Watch for their energy to increase.
11.  "What did you just say?"
Not a good idea to ask this question if the student just told you this class sucks and you suck. Do you really want to hear them repeat that in front of the entire class?
12. "Don't you ever stop talking?"
Look for those times when they stop talking. You know those times are there. Focus on them.
13.  "Who do you think you are?"
This sends messages that the student is bad, wrong, not enough, and unworthy. It crosses the line into malpractice.
14.  "What's wrong with you?"
This is a signal that it is time to retire. Make the announcement. Rent the hall, and ride off into the sunset. It's time for you to relax and chill out.
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the coauthors of The Teacher Talk Advantage: Five Voices of Effective Teaching. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free monthly e-zine for educators and another for parents. To sign up for their newsletters or learn more about the seminars they offer teachers and parents, visit their websites today: and  
5.  Shout Out to Nickolas Joseph
Nickolas Joseph decorated his classroom door with his favorite book for March Reading Month. Naturally we salute the idea and his book choice. Thanks, Nick.
If you enjoyed this idea and would like to see many more, go to
6.  Time for a Vacation? 
You move your dinner partner's glass away from the edge of the table.
You ask if anyone needs to go to the bathroom as you enter a theater with a group of friends.
You fold your spouse's fingers over the coins as you hand over money for the toll booth.
You ask a quiet person at the party if he or she has something to share with the group.
You inform your spouse that scissors need to be carried with the point down.
You give the ticket back to the police officer because it didn't have his or her name on it.
You use a red pen to circle the typos in the evening newspaper.
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Summer Trainings
12 Reasons to Attend Our Summer Trainings 
1.  You could help more adults learn to speak in words that nurture, uplift, and inspire.
2.  You could be the one that helps them learn to hold children/students accountable for their actions without attacking their spirit or personality.
3.  You would be blessing yourself with the opportunity to become one of a growing cadre of people who are committed to making a difference in the lives of parents and/or teachers.
4. You would learn how to teach others to set appropriate limits and make controlled choice work for them.
5. You would be gifting yourself with an important chance to network with a powerful group of people who are thirsty for learning new ways to affect the lives of people in their communities/schools.
6. You would be the person responsible for helping adults learn to praise in ways that help children develop a strong internal sense of self-esteem.
7. You could be a part of an electric energy. There is something that happens during these three days that is not easy to explain. It happens every time. It will happen again this summer in Bay City, MI. We call it "the creation of spiritual space." Somehow, the sum total of what participants bring to the workshop, share with others, and take in creates an atmosphere of connectedness. A sense of family develops. We touch spirits, bump souls, and connect with something larger than our collective selves.
8. You could deliver skills that help adults learn to use language that promotes independence while reducing learned helplessness.
9. You would still qualify for the early-bird discount.
10. Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller rarely get to present together, so this is one time during the year that they treat themselves to each other's presence in the front of the training room. It will be synergistic as they play off each other, combining the unique perspectives of an educator (Chick Moorman) and a psychologist (Thomas Haller) focused on the same goal: helping participants learn the verbal skills necessary to make a difference in the lives of others.
11. This is a "long after we are gone" moment. The people that are being trained this July will pass these important verbal skills on to others long after we have left this planet. We like knowing that they will take the skills they learn, infuse them with big parts of themselves, and share them with others for generations. The summer trainings are getting closer and we are getting pumped just thinking about it.
12. You have your own personal reason to be a part of one of our summer trainings. You know what it is. That reason alone is enough to make a summer training in Bay City, MI, worthwhile.
There is still time to beat the deadline for the early-bird special and save $100 on the normal registration fee. 
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The Parent Talk System Facilitator Training
July 24 - 26, 2017
Christian Montessori School of Ann Arbor, 5225 Jackson Road, 
Ann Arbor, MI 48103

Early-Bird Special - $595.00 (register by July 1, 2017)

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The Teacher Talk Advantage Facilitator Training
July 31 - Aug. 2, 2017
Christian Montessori School of Ann Arbor
5225 Jackson Road 
Ann Arbor, MI 48103
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May 9 - Livonia, MI 
Dimensions of Discipline presented by Chick Moorman, 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm, Montessori Center of Our Lady. For more information contact
June 27 - Saginaw, MI 
The Six Best Parenting Strategies Ever presented by Thomas Haller. DHHS Foster Parenting Spring Conference. For more information email Virginia Irwin at
July 24 – 26 - Ann Arbor, MI 
Parent Talk System Facilitator Training presented by Chick Moorman, Thomas Haller and Katrina Jackson, 8:00 am - 4:30 pm, Christian Montessori School of Ann Arbor. For more information contact
July 31 - Aug. 2 - Ann Arbor, MI 
Teacher Talk Advantage Facilitator Training by Chick Moorman, Thomas Haller and Katrina Jackson, 8:00 am - 4:30 pm, Christian Montessori School of Ann Arbor. For more information contact
Aug. 15 - Columbia, SC 
Restorative Discipline: Help Your Students Improve Their Behavior and Strengthen Their Learning presented by Chick Moorman, 8:30 am - 3:30 pm. Bridge Creek Elementary School. For information contact Elizabeth Robitzsch at 803-462-3900 ext. 32428 or email
Aug. 16 - Chicago, IL 
Restorative Discipline presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am - 3:00 pm. Providence Englewood Charter School. For more information contact Janelle Miller at 773-434-0202 ext. 316 or email
Aug. 21 - San Francisco, CA 
Practical Strategies for Teaching and Learning the Skills Needed for Academic Success: Self-Discipline, Perseverance, Confidence and Resilience presented by Chick Moorman, K-12, 8:00 am - 4:00 pm. Bureau of Education & Research (BER). For more information contact BER at 1-800-735-3503 or
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How to get the most out of parent-teacher conferences
Nosey child? Take a look at yourself, then talk to your child
When your family is caught in a coercive trap
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