Personal Power Press - December 2017
In This Issue
1. Parent Talk Tip of the Month
2. Take the Elf off the Shelf – Video Clip
3. How to Stop Kids Begging During Holiday Shopping – Video Clip
4. Teaching Kids the True Meaning of the Holiday – Video Clip
5. Getting Kids to Show Appreciation – Video Clip
6. Give Presence not Presents – Article
7. New Book Coming Soon!
8. Thomas Haller's Schedule
9. Contact Thomas Haller
10. Contact Katrina Jackson
11. Contact Alisa Divine
1.  Parent Talk Tip of the Month
You can never NOT model. Your children are listening and learning. They are learning by hearing what comes out of your mouth. Your children are also watching and learning. They are learning by seeing what you put in your mouth?
2. Take the Elf off the Shelf - Video Clip
In this Family Matters segment Thomas discusses the unintended message children are learning from the Elf on the Shelf and what parents can do about this new family tradition so there children do not experience the detrimental effects.

3. How to Stop Kids Begging During Holiday Shopping - Video Clip
Take your kids shopping this holiday season with no concerns about hearing, "Buy me something," or "I want a toy." Thomas provides tips on how to reduce whining and begging during shopping time in the Family Matters segment.
4. Teaching Kids the True Meaning of the Holiday Season - Video Clip
Don't let your children get caught up in all the holiday hype. Keep the true meaning alive in your family. Watch as Thomas discusses how to teach your kids the reason for the season regardless of your religious background in another Family Matters segment recorded live at the TV5 studio.

5. Getting Kids to Show Appreciation - Video clip
In the Family Matters segment Thomas shares tips on how to get kids to show appreciation and learn the charity habit not just during the holiday season but year round.

6. Give Presence not Presents
By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman
The giving of gifts is an honored tradition in most homes during the holiday season. Many parents are wondering what they will give this year as they attempt to find the perfect present to put under the Christmas tree or share during the family’s Hanukkah celebrations.
Perhaps the solution lies in the giving of a different gift. Give children what they really want from their parents, presence not presents. All children spell love T-I-M-E. What we can give to them is our attention, our availability, our mindfulness, our closeness, our time.
Are you being fully present with your children? Can you let go of your worry about finding the perfect gift? Can you suspend your agenda to focus on theirs? Can you learn to be there for and with your children?
Consider the following suggestions as a way to give the most important present, your presence this holiday season.
1. Be there regardless of what you are doing. The holiday season requires an added measure of balancing kid's schedules, work responsibilities, visiting family, cooking elaborate meals as well as regular requirements of keeping up with the laundry, etc. When feeling pulled in several directions many parents turn to multi-tasking. We’re suggesting that you avoid the urge to multi-task and strive to stay focused on the moment at hand. When you sit with your children, whether it's to play a game or read a book, give them your undivided attention.
2. Make a "Be" choice. How you choose to "be" affects whatever you choose to do. When you are with your children choose to be interested in what they are interested in. Choose to be happy that you have the time to focus on their needs and wants. Choose to be excited about the time you have with them. Even when misbehavior occurs in your children, choose to be glad that you have the opportunity to help them learn a new behavior or a new way to communicate a desire or express a feeling.
3. Focus on listening rather than telling. Children spend a great portion of their day following directions such as, pick up your clothes, make your bed, sit down, be quiet, go play, chew with your mouth closed, stop picking on your brother, hang up your coat, brush your teeth. The list of commands seem unending. Remember, children have valuable things to say too. Many times parents get so focused on telling that they forget to listen. Value your children's opinion. Allow opportunities to vent. Embrace their point of view. Invite suggestions. Listen to their voice.
4. Connect physically. Touch is a powerful way to communicate "I love you." Get close and touch your children's heart with a warm embrace or a gentle squeeze of the shoulder. Snuggle under a blanket and read together. Go for a walk and lock hands. Wrestle on the living room floor. Distribute hugs, smiles, winks and an occasional high five.
5. Connect emotionally. Feelings are always more important than things. Create an environment where it is safe to be emotional. Encourage the expression of feelings. Allow your feelings to extend to your children as you share traditions, reflect on holidays past and gather as a family. Have empathy, compassion and understanding.
6. Unplug from the electronic world. The television, computer, video games, and iPod have the potential to create a disconnect from personal interaction. Unplug, turn it off, and walk away. While riding in the car unplug the headphones, turn off the DVD player and tell your children a story about the day they were born or about a favorite holiday memory. Shut down the computer, turn off the Xbox and play a game of chess, checkers or Catan together. Stand up, walk away from the TV and go shoot baskets, skip rope, or ride bikes with your child.
7. Play by the kid's rules. Play with your children at their level. Build mud pies, jump in rain puddles, roll down a hill, spray shaving cream on the kitchen table and join in the creation of artistic designs. Cover the driveway in sidewalk chalk. Let your children take the lead and change the rules of a game if they want. Know that play, no matter how childish or silly it may appear, is an investment in connecting with your children. Play regularly and remember the reason for play is to play, not to win.
Make a commitment this holiday season to give the best gift you can give by being present in your child's life. Be active and interactive on a daily basis with your children. Be the parent you were called to be. Give your presence.
7. New Book Coming Soon!
New Book by Thomas Haller
DISSOLVING TOXIC MASCULINITY The 9 Lessons for Raising Boys to Become Empathetic, Compassionate Men
Pre-Publication offer coming in January!
To schedule Thomas to speak on the Dissolving Toxic Masculinity lessons in your community contact him today. He has limited dates available.
Text or call: 989-239-8628
8. Thomas Haller's Schedule
Thomas on Television Answering Viewer Questions:
Family Matters Segment – Every Wednesday at 12:15 pm on WNEM TV5 News at Noon

Family Matters Segment – Every Sunday at 7:45 am on WNEM TV5 Weekend Wake-up

Family Matters Segment – Every Monday at 9:15 am on WNEM TV5 News @ 9:00 am

Hot Topics Segment – Every Monday at 9:45 am on WNEM TV5 News @ 9:00 am

Past segments can be viewed on-line at
9. Contact Thomas Haller

10. Contact Katrina Jackson
11. Contact Alisa Divine
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