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"We all carry the potential to realize, in real time, that the vibrant energy we experience
when we feel truly loved, seen and met, is who we actually are." Dawn Cartwright
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The Big Four: Anxiety, Trauma, Shame, and Fatigue
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75% of us experience anxiety - racing thoughts, shallow breathing, a feeling of vigilance and tension.
70% of us have experienced at least one traumatic event that overwhelmed our capacity to cope - our nervous system froze, we dissociated, we panicked.
85% of us have felt shame - the belief that something is wrong with us, the feeling that who we are is flawed.
And 76% of us feel exhausted most of the time - we are depleted, running on empty.
All of these are normal responses to stress, peril and intensity. And all of them impact our capacity for intimacy.
Anxiety, trauma, shame and fatigue are vital in alerting us to danger and imbalance. Designed to be temporary, these signals can become our default, lasting far beyond the stressful or dangerous event, creating tension and reaction in the body that separates us from people and experiences we wish to be close to.
We live in a world filled with incomplete expression. Space is rarely given for full experience - especially for anxiety, trauma, shame and fatigue. And so we live in a state of perpetual unease, aching, without even realizing, for resolution.
There's good news. Our bodies know how to regulate. When given the space to complete what has gone incomplete for so long - we discover our body's tremendous capacity for resilience and the true intimacy this resilience reveals.
I look forward to traveling this road of completion with you this week through these episodes.
Dawn
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"The time will come when, with elation, you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror, and each will smile at the other's welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat. You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart. Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes, peel your own image from the mirror. Sit.
Feast on your life."
Derek Walcott
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 | Episode 277 . Working With What Is
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In our practice episode we'll take first steps toward allowing what is incomplete in us to find expression. Gently. Slowly. With stability and self-reference.
We'll ground the frayed threads of anxiety through regulation breathing and progressive release, shifting from vigilance to safety.
We'll meet trauma with resourcing, pendulation and completion, infusing our practice with reverence and compassion.
We'll name the feelings we feel that are connected to shame, rebuilding empathy and self-acceptance. Falling back in love with the world and our place in it.
We'll explore a rest-assessment and boundary setting practice to create rest where there is fatigue. Bring our natural desire to be engaged with life - alive again.
Four practices to work with what is. Bringing closer to our natural selves and each other.
Working With What Is - The Practice
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 | Episode 278 . Diane Shares What She Hasn't Told Anyone
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Tonight, Diana shares with the group something she's never told anyone outside of therapy.
"Three years ago, I was assaulted by someone I was dating."
The room goes quiet.
"I said I wanted to slow down. He didn't stop. And I froze. Couldn't move. Couldn't speak. I just... left my body."
This is Diana's story.
A story of some of the ways trauma lives in the body. How the freeze response can continue years later. How she's been unable to be present during intimacy since.
"My body doesn't know the difference between then and now."
Diana was seen—in her trauma and her courage.
And she wasn't rejected.
This is what attunement can look like.
Not trying to fix. Just being present. Bearing witness.
Trauma healing often doesn't happen in a single conversation. It happens in layers. Over time.
Each time we tell the truth. Each time we let ourselves be witnessed in a safe space. Each time we practice vulnerability with those we trust.
Diane Shares What She Hasn't Told Anyone
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 | What's Your Orgasm Range?
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The Be Fully Alive Podcast . 8-Week Series
WEEK 1: THE ORGASM QUESTION
Episode 261 (Mon): What Is Orgasm?
Eighty brain regions. A dissolving sense of self. What science reveals about our most misunderstood experience—and why it matters more than we'd expect.
Episode 262 (Wed): Finding Orgasm - The Practice
Do we feel what's actually happening inside us? A practice in noticing the aspects of orgasm that are always present. Our pilot light.
Episode 263 (Fri): Wallace & Claire's Story Begins
An attorney and a film editor. A marriage and a love affair. Two Friday dinners where the conversation turns to a very honest conversation about sex - and orgasm.
WEEK 2: DIVERSITY
Episode 264 (Mon): Not All Orgasms Are Created Equal
Physical diversity (clitoral, vaginal, cervical, prostate, brain-only). Emotional diversity (why the same body can feel completely different). Bad orgasms are real—and 55% of people have had them.
Episode 265 (Wed): Practice: Mapping Your Range
Solo exploration of your orgasmic spectrum. What responds? What feels different? What have you been missing?
Episode 266 (Fri): Story: The Conversation Gets Complicated
Wallace discovers profound performance anxiety. Beatriz realizes she's been faking. Claire reveals her coregasms. The shame starts to crack.
WEEK 3: CONDITIONS
Episode 267 (Mon): Creating The Optimal Conditions
The science of what actually works: the scent that increases blood flow 40%, lighting that regulates the nervous system, morning testosterone peaks at 8am. The orgasm sweet spot for you.
Episode 268 (Wed): Practice: The Conditions Experiment
Try three different setups: morning vs. evening, candlelight vs. natural light, shower vs. bed. Discover what YOUR system needs.
Episode 269 (Fri): Story: You Were Right About Timing
Claire texts the group at 6:47am. Wallace tries ritual and it makes everything worse. Beatriz finally understands what "not rushed" means. The dinner conversation gets vulnerable.
WEEK 4: COMMUNICATION
Episode 270 (Mon): The Language Problem
Why we don't have words for what we want. How to translate sensation into speech. What research shows about couples who actually talk about orgasm.
Episode 271 (Wed): Practice: Speaking in Specifics
Guided practice in asking for what you need. Scripts, frameworks, and how to say the unsayable.
Episode 272 (Fri): Story: Wallace and Beatriz, Saturday Morning
No rushing. No performing. Just two people trying to be present. It doesn't go how they expected. It goes better.
WEEK 5: PARTNERED
Episode 273 (Mon): The Attunement Paradox
You can't will synchronization. But you can create conditions for it. What "being present together" actually means neurologically.
Episode 274 (Wed): Practice: Synchronized Breathing
A partnered practice. No sex, no orgasm—just learning to sense each other's rhythms.
Episode 275 (Fri): Story: Claire and Luke Try Morning
It's awkward. Then it's funny. Then it's the most honest sex they've had in years. Also: Marcus finally tells someone why he's researching this.
WEEK 6: OBSTACLES
Episode 276 (Mon): The Big Four: Anxiety, Trauma, Shame, and Fatigue
When optimal conditions aren't enough. Medical factors, psychological barriers, and when to get help.
Episode 277 (Wed): Practice: Working With What Is
Gentle approaches for when your system is activated. How to be with difficulty without making it worse.
Episode 278 (Fri): Story: Diane Shares What She Hasn't Told Anyone
Ten years post-trauma. Finally able to orgasm again. The long road back to her body. The group holds space.
WEEK 7: INTEGRATION
Episode 279 (Mon): Building Sustainable Practice
How to maintain discoveries when life gets chaotic. Creating rituals that don't become obligations. The long game.
Episode 280 (Wed): Practice: Your Personal Orgasm Practice
Designing your unique approach. What you've learned, what you'll keep, what you'll share.
Episode 281 (Fri): Story: The Six-Week Check-In
What's changed. What hasn't. Why Wallace can finally feel his body. Why Beatriz stopped faking. Why Claire and Luke are having morning sex three times a week.
WEEK 8: BEYOND
Episode 282 (Mon): The Larger Territory
Orgasm as portal. What opens when we can actually be present in our bodies. The mystical dimension revisited.
Episode 283 (Wed): Practice: The Full Integration
Bringing everything together. A complete 45-minute practice incorporating all eight weeks.
Episode 284 (Fri): Story: The Last Dinner (For Now)
Seven people who are no longer strangers. What they know now that they didn't know before. Where they go from here. The ending that's actually a beginning.
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Thank you for being part of this evolution with me. I can't wait to share what's coming next.
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