www.personalpowerpress.com December 19, 2006
The Response-Able Parent Newsletter #59

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1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. Article: Rekindling Your Holiday Spirit
5. Parent Talk Tip: "Convince me."
6. Healing Acres
7. A Rewarding Experience Awaits You
8. Schedule of Events

1. Quote

"Observe more, do less."

Magda Gerber

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

What if mess is more? Have you allowed your children to make a mess recently? Can you set up your home so they can make a mess today? Will you help them learn the importance of cleanup? Will you allow the lessons that come from making a mess to come forth?

3. Bumper Sticker

Spotted on a white Chevy Blazer in Windsor, Ontario, Canada:

Actions Speak Louder Than Bumper Stickers.

4. Article: Rekindling Your Holiday Spirit

By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman

The holiday season is upon us. And for many it is accompanied by a hectic pace, bah humbug attitudes, and the holiday blues. Spouses cringe at the thought of spending a portion of the holiday season arguing with the family or long hours traveling to have dinner with relatives. Visions of children being out of school for three weeks, with the weather turning too cold for them to be outside, have some parents shuddering in anticipation of long days and short fuses. For many people the holidays have lost their appeal and the reason for the season has become wrapped more in frustration, greed, and disappointment than in joy and generosity.

Is it time to rekindle your holiday spirit? Are you in need of bringing some life, meaning, and enthusiasm to you and your family's holiday season this year? If so, it's not too late to implement a few of the inspirational ideas suggested below.

1. Slow down and enjoy the moment.

Repeat the following phrase 20 times a day to yourself beginning now and continuing through the New Year. "I relax into the flow of life and I let life provide all that I need easily and comfortably." Do this faithfully every day and you will be amazed at the results.

2. Donate some time and energy to a charity.

Giving brings out a special part in all of us. Ring the bell for the Salvation Army, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or help deliver food baskets. Your giving will be rewarded with inner feelings of peace and comfort.

3. Make your own holiday cards to mail to friends and family.

Involve your entire family in designing and coloring a holiday picture for your card. Agree on a saying or text message you want to add. Take it to a Kinko's or Office Max and have it made into your personalized holiday greeting that includes envelopes to match.

4. Take a unique and creative holiday picture of you or your family.

The popularity of the serious family photo used on a greeting card seems to be increasing. As a fun change of pace, why not surprise your family and friends with a unique or silly photo of you and your children? How about a group picture of the family's bare feet or a close-up picture of each family member's belly button with a contest to see who can match the belly button to the right person? The idea here is to be creative and have fun.

5. Bake cookies or bread and make a personal delivery to a few friends.

Bake as a family. Wrap as a family. And deliver as a family. The personal delivery adds a connecting link between your family and the recipient. It is an effective way to remember that being with someone is as important as doing for someone.

6. Record five holiday songs sung by the family or kids and send it to Grandma.

Grandma, Grandpa, or Aunt Julie will enjoy singing along with your family's rendition of some of the holiday classics. You never know, your family could be the next Partridge family.

7. Give a turkey or ham to five needy families.

Find a need and fill it. Your heart will be filled along the way and your children will learn a valuable lesson in charity.

8. Read a variety of holiday stories.

Change your family bookshelf around so that the holiday stories are visible and available for easy access. Read a different children's holiday classic each night. The oral reading will benefit your children and, as an added bonus, you just might be whisked back to your own childhood, recalling the same stories being read to you.

9. Clean out the front hall closet and give last year's winter wear to Coats for Kids.

Do this activity with your children. It will help them develop the charity habit by seeing what they have and how they can give some of their time, energy, and possessions to help others. A related lesson will occur later. You can help your children see how giving creates space for new things to come to them as well.

10. Attend a holiday concert or festival of music.

Holiday music fills the heart and soul with memories of childhood, friends, family rituals, and special events. Allow your heart to open to the music of the holidays. Let it soothe your soul and let yourself be moved by its presence within you.

11. Invite another family over to watch a holiday classic on T.V.

This is a fun and inexpensive way to gather for an evening. Pop some corn and take time to have each person share when and where they saw the show for the first time.

12. Get out old holiday photos and make a picture time-line to display with other decorations.

See how far back in the family's history you can go with pictures of holidays gone by. The kids will love seeing all the "old" pictures of you, and your holiday guests will, too.

13. Make your own ornaments.

Decorate pine cones. Shape Play-Doh and let it dry. Make chains of green and red construction paper. Buy styrofoam balls and paint them with glitter, glue, and string. Decorate cookies. The ideas are limitless; flow with it.

14. Go on a "light seeing" tour.

Jump in the car with the family and go on a neighborhood "light seeing" tour. When you get home encourage each person to talk about which light display he or she liked best and have them tell why. Take a different "light seeing" tour each night.

15. Write thank-you notes to neighbors who have decorated their houses in inspiring ways.

Many people decorate so they can bring pleasure to those driving by. Share your appreciation. Let them know how their efforts lifted your spirit and brought joy to your holiday season.

16. Make your own wrapping paper.

Trace cookie-cutter shapes onto large sheets of white paper, and color and paint the shapes as desired. Or cut sponges into holiday shapes and sponge-paint designs. Use that paper to wrap your holiday gifts.

17. Tell stories of family traditions.

Children love stories, and storytelling is a powerful tool for helping children learn to read and write. It is an excellent way to preserve family traditions and increase the joy of the holiday season.

18. Decorate a tree outside for the animals.

During the winter months many animals find it difficult to locate nutritious foods to eat. By stringing orange rings, apple rings, and carrots and placing them on a tree outside you create a beautiful tree that helps the wildlife survive a difficult time of the year.

19. Create a countdown ceremony that can be followed each evening.

This ceremony can be as simple as following a countdown calendar and opening the next window, to lighting a candle and having a special reading that holds religious or spiritual significance to you or your family. The key is making the countdown an event that others will look forward to as the family moves closer to their main holiday celebration.

20. Give the kids disposable cameras and allow them to take one picture each day from December 1 to January 1.

Finding the right picture to take can be a learning process for each person, young and old. Encourage them to search for something that is meaningful about each day on a personal level. Follow up in January by printing the pictures. Each person can then create their own countdown calendar to use during next year's holiday season.

Remember, it is you who creates the reason for the season. It is up to you to take charge and make it the holiday season you desire. Happy Holidays!

Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. They also publish a FREE e-mail newsletter for parents and another for educators. Subscribe to them when you visit www.chickmoorman.com or www.thomashaller.com. Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. For more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their websites today.

5. Parent Talk Tip: "Convince me."

"I deserve a new pair of jeans."
"I don't know why you won't let me go over to Jimmy's."
"I'm old enough to handle that."

The statements above are among those delivered to parents in different parts of the country by their children. Each child wanted a concession on the part of the parent. To each request, the parent responded, "Convince me."

"Convince me" is Parent Talk that puts the burden back on the child. This phrase tells the child that it is not the parent who is responsible for coming up with reasons why the child is prevented from doing a certain thing. It is the child who must come up with reasons why the parent should reconsider. It is no longer the parent who has to do the convincing. That responsibility has been shifted to the child, where it belongs.

With "Convince me," the child is required to do the thinking. The parent is freed up from thinking for the child. "Convince me" helps children learn how to construct a reasonable argument. This is a valuable skill they can use throughout their lives with peers or other adults.

If you hear yourself about to say, "Because I said so, that's why," stop. Respond instead with "Convince me." Listen and learn as your child begins to think for herself.

Parent Talk: How to Talk to Your Children in Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility


6. Healing Acres

Healing Acres Equine Retirement Ranch, Inc., is currently funded by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller through contributions they make from the sale of their popular parent and education books. A portion of all sales from Personal Power Press goes to provide quality care for neglected and retired horses, to increase public awareness of the amount of horse abuse and neglect that currently exists, and to prevent the needless and inhumane slaughter and abuse of horses.

We are thrilled to announce that Healing Acres Equine Retirement Ranch, Inc., has just been granted not-for-profit status as an organization registered with the Internal Revenue Service as a 501 (c) (3) federal tax-exempt?organization, identification number 31309. This now makes it possible for Healing Acres to accept donations from animal lovers throughout the country.

Do you have a soft spot in your heart for horses? Does neglect and inhumane treatment bother you? Are you concerned about what happens to horses when they can no longer perform? Do you wonder what happens to horses when they are no longer wanted? If so, please help us to provide quality care for these deserving creatures. Help us help them by:

Sponsoring or adopting a horse.
Making a monetary contribution.
Donating equipment.
Sending us a few kind words of encouragement.
Reporting neglected or abused horses.

Check us out at www.healingacres.com.

Make your donation check payable to Healing Acres and mail to P.O. Box 547, Merrill, MI 48637 A tax-exempt receipt will be sent to you immediately. Thank you for your contribution to this important cause.

8. A Rewarding Experience Awaits You

Make a difference in the lives of parents and children in your community. Join the growing cadre of over 200 Parent Talk facilitators now practicing in 17 states, Australia, Canada, Mexico, and Spain. This select group is working diligently to improve family life in their communities. Why don't you join them?

Training of Trainers in the Parent Talk System

February 8-10, 2007
Spring Arbor University
Grand Rapids, MI
Chick Moorman and Sarah Knapp

Space is limited. Register now and qualify for the early-bird discount! To register or find out about the February 8-10 program specifics, VISIT www.chickmoorman.com UNDER SPECIAL EVENT.


8. Schedule

Jan. 8 - Bay City, MI
8:00 pm, Catching the Writing Bug teleseminar presented by Thomas and Reese Haller. For more information go to www.awakentheauthorwithin.com.

Jan. 13 - Hudsonville, MI
11:00 am - 1:00 pm, Teacher Talk presented by Chick Moorman, Evergreen Ministries, Hudsonville, MI. For information contact Sally Vaness at 616-669-7700 or e-mail vanessms@comcast.net.

Jan. 15 - Corunna, MI
8:30 am - 3:30 pm, Celebrate the Spirit Whisperers presented by Chick Moorman, Shiawassee Developmental Center, Shiawassee ISD, Corunna, MI. For information contact Shelley Brant at brant@sresd.k12.mi.us.

Jan. 25 - Bloomfield, MI
3:00 pm - 5:30 pm, Celebrate the Spirit Whisperers presented by Chick Moorman, Roosevelt Elementary, West Bloomfield, MI. For information contact Steve Palmer at 248-865-6620 or e-mail palmer@westbloomfield.k12.mi.us.

Feb. 1 - Clawson, MI
6:30 pm - 9:30 pm, Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, School House Montessori, Knights of Columbus, Clawson, MI. For information contact Sherri Roberts at 248-649-6149 or e-mail sroberts@schoolhousemontessori.com.

Feb. 3 - Sturgis, MI
Kiwanis Parenting Fair presented by Chick Moorman, workshop site to be determined, Sturgis, MI. For information contact Jane Dickey at syafo@yahoo.com.

Feb. 3 - Grand Island, NE
Early Childhood Education Conference, The Marks of an Enlightened Childcare Provider keynote presented by Thomas Haller, College Park, Grand Island, NE. For more information contact suejensen@hhss.ne.gov.

Feb. 3 - Grand Island, NE
Early Childhood Education Conference Presentation, Terrific Toddlers: The Trail to the Treasure presented by Thomas Haller, College Park, Grand Island, NE. For more information contact suejensen@hhss.ne.gov.

Feb. 8-10 - Grand Rapids, MI
8:00 am - 4:00 pm, Parent Talk System: Training of Trainers presented by Chick Moorman, Spring Arbor University, Grand Rapids, MI. For information contact Chick Moorman at 1-877-360-1477 (toll free) or e-mail ipp57@aol.com.

Feb 9 - Davison, MI
9:00 am - 3:00 pm, Literacy Day presented by Thomas Haller and Reese Haller, Gates Elementary, Davison, MI.

Feb. 12 - Davison, MI
9:00 am - 3:00 pm, Literacy Day presented by Thomas Haller and Reese Haller, Siple Elementary, Davison, MI.

Feb. 22 - Grand Ledge, MI
9:00 am - 3:00 pm, Literacy Day presented by Thomas Haller and Reese Haller, Willow Ridge Elementary, Grand Ledge, MI.

Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 1-877-360-1477 (toll free) or e-mail him at ipp57@aol.com.


Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-667-5654 or e-mail him at thomas@thomashaller.com.


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