www.personalpowerpress.com January 25, 2007
The Response-Able Parent Newsletter #60

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1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. Article: How to Talk to Your Kids about Staying Safe in Today's World
5. Back Issues
6. A Rewarding Experience Awaits You
7. Fred the Mouse and Reese Haller
8. We Get E-mail
9. Schedule of Events

1. Quote

"If we are too busy, if we are carried away every day by our projects, our uncertainty, our craving, how can we have time to stop and look deeply into the solution---our own situation, the situation of our beloved one, the situation of our family and our community, and our situation of our nation and the other nations?"

Thich Nhat Hanh

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

What if you spent as much time today opening your eyes to your child's point of view as you do attempting to open his eyes to yours? Maybe both points of view would expand.

3. Bumper Sticker

Spotted on a blue Cadillac Escalade in Chicago, IL:

National Spelling Bee Runer Up

4. Article: How to Talk to Your Kids about Staying Safe in Today's World

By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman

Fear is in the air again. It happens every time a new report of a child abduction reaches our eyes or ears. Parents in all corners of the world are wondering--what can I do to keep my children safe at a time in history where child abduction seems like a regular occurrence?

What do I say to my child? How can I make him recognize danger? What words will get through to her? What exactly do I say when I sit him down for this important conversation?

Yes, what you say to your children about this important issue is critical. What you talk to your children about and how you talk to them are essential steps in preparing them to stay firmly on the path of safety. Below you will find valuable suggestions for how and when to communicate with your children to ensure you meet your most important parenting responsibility keeping your children safe.

1. Do not view the role of helping your child learn about the dangers of being lost, taken, or abused as a one-time occurrence. A thorough initial discussion is just that an initial discussion. This topic will need to be revisited by you and your children many times. Look for opportunities to examine this topic from different perspectives.

2. Make sure your children know that if they are lost or taken you will look for them forever and search until they are found. Reassure them frequently of your love and of your desire to have them in your life. Let them know that you love them no matter what they say or do and that you will always be there for them and work to keep them safe and healthy.

3. Remind your children that the world is a place where most people love children and helpers are everywhere. When you are at the mall or grocery store, point out the people who are likely to help: a woman at the door, a grandmother, a person at the information center. Statistics indicate that women are more likely to take a child who needs help to the appropriate person. A man will often point the child in the right direction but let them navigate the route on their own.

4. Do not use the never talk to strangers? slogan. If your child is lost at an amusement park or mall, everyone around them could be a stranger. If they can't talk to strangers, who do they turn to? Instead, teach your children how to recognize the people who are most likely to help. That person just might be a stranger.

5. When you see a situation that is potentially unsafe, point it out to your children. Talk about what is unsafe about it and what could be done to make it safe. Tell them why you parked under the light in the parking lot as night approached. Explain why you moved away from the curb as you walked along the sidewalk on a busy or icy street. Talk about why it is not safe to help someone find their lost dog or cat.

6. Do not teach your child that please is the magic word. Say the magic word and I'll give you more ice cream some parents tell their children. Guess what? Child abductors use the magic word, too. They can be extremely polite until they achieve their prime objective.

7. Teach your child the danger signal of people bearing gifts. Ice cream, candy and video games are good bribes. Help your child see them as warning signs.

8. Let your children know that there is a time to be polite to an adult and a time not to be polite. Talk about how to fight back by kicking, scratching and biting. Teach them to make themselves big by holding onto something else if someone tries to take them. Tell them that it is okay to scream, "This is not my daddy! Help!" when an adult grabs them. Practice this strategy by role-playing it with your children.

9. Teach your children to give it the "tummy test." If it feels unsafe or scary in their tummy, teach them to run. Logic is not important here. Intuition and inner knowing is. Help your children develop that wise part within. Teach them to trust it.

10. Teach your child to be assertive. If an adult is invading their space or saying something that is bringing up uncomfortable feelings, teach your children to speak up. Give them the words to use. "Leave me alone" or "Stay away from me" work well in these situations.

11. Create a code word to be used anytime you have asked someone other than immediate family to pick up or transport your children. There may be times when you cannot get to school, baseball practice, or the church function. If the person who tells your child he or she is there to pick them up doesn't know the code word, teach your child to immediately tell another adult whom they trust.

12. Use your words to paint a picture of hope rather than fear. We want our children to see that safety exists all around them. When children see the world as safe instead of scary, they are better able to sense an unsafe situation when one arises. If everything is seen as scary, rotten, or hurtful, then the next scary incident that comes along is just like all the others and seems normal.

Your number-one job as a parent is to keep your children safe and healthy. That involves teaching them to protect themselves from the potential dangers that exist in our world. Use the suggestions above to arm your children with strategies that can help them take care of themselves.

Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free monthly e-zine for parents. To sign up for it or to obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today: www.personalpowerpress.com.

10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose


5. Back Issues

For back issues of this newsletter as well as back issues of our sister publication, The Response-Able Educator Newsletter, please go to:


6. A Rewarding Experience Awaits You

The Parent Talk System Facilitator Training

February 8-10, 2007
Spring Arbor University
Grand Rapids, MI
Chick Moorman and Sarah Knapp

Space is limited. To register or find out about the February 8-10 program specifics, VISIT www.chickmoorman.com UNDER SPECIAL EVENT.


7. Fred The MouseTM and Reese Haller

Ready for a 2-minute puppet show? Grab the kids and watch Reese's You Tube video.

Hear Reese read from his first book, Fred the Mouse: The Adventures Begin. Just click on the link below:


While you're there be sure to rate his video and make a quick comment.

Then pass it on to a friend.


8. We Get E-mail

Dear Gentlemen,

I read with interest your last communication that told about the Parent Coaching you are now offering. I would love to have either of you as my own personal Parent Coach, but find that that is out of my budget right now. I sure hope you aren't going to stop sending the free email newsletters. I get so many useful ideas and encouragement there.

Thank you for helping me be a better parent.

Evan's Mom


Hello, Evan's Mom,

No, we are not going to stop sending our free material to interested parents. We feel a deep responsibility to help all parents become the parents they always wanted to be.

Our Parent Coaching is a new service we are offering, one that is in addition to what we already do. Apparently it has struck a responsive chord with readers, because we have already had many inquiries, and several people have signed up for the coaching experience.

We decided to create the coaching opportunity because we simply could not keep up with the increasing number of e-mail questions we get from our readers. We now have over 15,000 subscribers from all over the world, and the questions pour in daily. We sent answers to almost everyone for several years, but we can no longer keep up with the requests. Our intention is to pick one or two questions we feel would have the most universal appeal to our readers and respond to them in the newsletter.

For people like you who have a tight budget, we will continue to send the newsletter. In addition, we have many fairly-priced books, special reports, CD's and DVD's that we offer through Personal Power Press. Two of our favorites are "Parent Talk" and "The 10 Commitments." Check them out at www.personalpowerpress.com.

Thank you for continuing to be a regular reader.


Chick and Thomas


8. Schedule

Jan. 30 - Southfield, MI
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm, Parent Talk: Words the Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, Hebrew Day School, Southfield, MI. for information contact Terri Giannetti at 248-386-1625 or email tgtskitkat@comcast.net.

Feb. 1 - Clawson, MI
6:30 pm - 9:30 pm, Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, School House Montessori, Knights of Columbus, Clawson, MI. For information contact Sherri Roberts at 248-649-6149 or e-mail sroberts@schoolhousemontessori.com.

Feb. 3 - Sturgis, MI
Kiwanis Parenting Fair presented by Chick Moorman, workshop site to be determined, Sturgis, MI. For information contact Jane Dickey at syafo@yahoo.com.

Feb. 3 - Grand Island, NE
Early Childhood Education Conference, The Marks of an Enlightened Childcare Provider, keynote presented by Thomas Haller, College Park, Grand Island, NE. For more information contact suejensen@hhss.ne.gov.

Feb. 3 - Grand Island, NE
Early Childhood Education Conference Presentation, Terrific Toddlers: The Trail to the Treasure presented by Thomas Haller, College Park, Grand Island, NE. For more information contact suejensen@hhss.ne.gov.

Feb. 8-10 - Grand Rapids, MI
8:00 am - 4:00 pm, Parent Talk System: Training of Trainers presented by Chick Moorman, Spring Arbor University, Grand Rapids, MI. For information contact Chick Moorman at 1-877-360-1477 (toll free) or e-mail ipp57@aol.com.

Feb 9 - Davison, MI
9:00 am - 3:00 pm, Literacy Day presented by Thomas Haller and Reese Haller, Gates Elementary, Davison, MI.

Feb. 12 - Davison, MI
9:00 am -3:00 pm, Literacy Day presented by Thomas Haller and Reese Haller, Siple Elementary, Davison, MI.

Feb. 16 - Ypsilanti, MI
12:30 pm - 3:00 pm, Dealing with Discipline presented by Chick Moorman, Victory Academy, Ypsilanti, MI. For information contact Kevin Whelan at 734-485-9100.

Feb. 22 - Grand Ledge, MI
9:00 am - 3:00 pm, Literacy Day presented by Thomas Haller and Reese Haller, Willow Ridge Elementary, Grand Ledge, MI.

Feb. 27 - Canton, MI
6:30 pm - 8:30 pm, Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, School House Montessori, Canton, MI. For information contact Sherri Roberts at 248-649-6149 or email sroberts@schoolhousemontessori.com.

Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 1-877-360-1477 (toll free) or e-mail him at ipp57@aol.com.


Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-667-5654 or e-mail him at thomas@thomashaller.com.


Copyright 2006 Chick Moorman Semin