Response-Able Parent Newsletter #62

March 19, 2007

Welcome! This is a free newsletter on becoming a Response-Able parent raising Response-Able children.

Mission Statement

Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.

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In This Issue

1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. International Parenting Commitment Day
5. We Get E-mail
6. Schedule of Events

1. Quote

"If you want things to be different, perhaps the answer is to become different yourself."

Norman Vincent Peale

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

What if when a disturbance occurs in your family, tension arises, or conflict appears, you ask yourself, Is there another way of seeing this? Could you bring a variety of perceptions to the situation? Would one be more useful than another would?

3. Bumper Sticker

Spotted on a blue Chevrolet Express van in Las Vegas, NV:

Kids in the back seat cause accidents.

Accidents in the back seat cause kids.

4. March 20, International Parenting Commitment Day

The mission of International Parenting Commitment Day is to assist parents throughout the world to commit or recommit to the sacred and important role of parenting so they can uplift, encourage, and inspire children to become responsible, caring, confident people.


To celebrate International Parenting Commitment Day with your family, consider implementing one of the following celebrations/rituals. Use this special day to reconnect with your children, celebrate your mutual caring, and highlight the positive regard in which you hold the sacred role of parenting.

Pledge Night

Convene a family meeting. Propose that the family design a pledge that reflects your belief that feelings of oneness and a sense of belonging are important in your family. Include language that acknowledges the value you place on putting family first, honoring each other's uniqueness, and providing a secure family structure.

Allow all family members to have input by inviting suggestions and reaching a mutual consensus on the pledge. Display your pledge prominently in your home.

Principles of Work

Create a poster to display at your worksite. Include beliefs you have about how you want to BE during your work time. Include items such as: Treat others with respect; Listen to others' ideas; Encourage others; Keep confidences private. Put at least 10 items on your Principles of Work poster. At the top add, SUCCEED AT HOME FIRST. Share your work principles with your family.

Goal-Setting Evening

After your children are in bed for the evening, set some family goals with your spouse. For each goal you choose, list activities you can do that will help you move in the direction of accomplishing that goal.


Goal: Use self-responsible language with our children.


1.) Eliminate the words "makes me" from our language patterns. Change "You make me mad" to "I'm feeling angry about this."

2.) Use the words "choose/decide/pick" over and over with our children. Say such things as, "I see you chose to help your brother" and "If you choose to throw the toy you will be choosing to give it a rest on the shelf for a while."

3.) Stop "shoulding" on our children. We intend to replace our "shoulds" with "coulds."

Balloon Release

Buy two helium-filled balloons. Write several parenting concerns that have troubled you recently on file cards. Also fill file cards with parenting stressors situations that you create stress around with your children (loud radios, poor table manners, etc.). Attach the cards to the balloon strings. Take the balloon outside and say a prayer asking God to take your stress and concerns and handle them in a way that achieves the greatest good for all concerned. Communicate your desire to be free of stress. Take a few deep breaths. Release the balloon, your concerns, and your stress into the air. Watch as the balloons carry your problems away. Feel lighter after having let go of all that stress.

Warm-Fuzzy Clothesline

A "warm-fuzzy" is a compliment (written or verbal) that is given to another person. Why not begin a warm-fuzzy clothesline in your home? Have each family member decorate clothespins in their own image and write their names on them. Hang them on a clothesline that you place in a prominent spot in your home (kitchen or den wall). Use the clothespins as mini-mailboxes to share notes of encouragement, affirmation, and praise with one another. Model this technique by sending at least one a day yourself.

Your Own Creation

Design a ritual of your own, one that meets the specific needs of your family. Use it to celebrate this important day with your family. Share it with us at

Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman

The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose


5. We Get E-mail


I have been enjoying your parenting newsletters. Thanks for sending them to me free of charge. I don't have a lot of money for books so I appreciate it.

I have a son, 12 years old, and I am the custodial parent. My son's father has remarried and his new wife has no children.

How do I stop his step-mom from trying to be my son's mother? And there is another piece of this situation. My son is adopted from Korea so his step-mom thinks she can have him as her son, too. From what I glean from my son I think they are talking about me in front of him. And that talk is not positive either.

I am at my wits end with this. I would appreciate any input you can give. If anything, it really helped me to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.

Real Mom

Dear Real Mom,

There is no way you can stop your son's step-mom from trying to be his mom. She is going to do what she is going to do no matter what you think or say.

It is important that you refrain from putting her down in front of your child, as he will need to have a positive relationship with her. And indeed you want him to have a positive relationship with her.

We suggest you talk with the father and tell him you have been hearing negative things and ask him to be more private with his remarks about you. If you can all agree to say nothing negative in front of the child and this goes for all three people involved it will help him immensely.

You may get his cooperation and you may not. We suggest that you all make an effort to do what is in the best interest of this child.

Best wishes,

Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller

6. Schedule

March 20 - Kitchener, Ontario
1:05 pm (Eastern), Radio Interview with Chick Moorman, The 10 Commitments, The Gary Doyle Show, GKGL - 570 NEWS (Listen Live at,
Kitchener, Ontario.

March 21 - Pinckney, MI
Catching the Writing Bug Literacy Day presented by Thomas Haller, Farley Elementary School, Pinckney, MI.

March 22 - Ypsilanti, MI
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm, Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, Victory Academy, Ypsilanti, MI. For information contact Kevin Whelan at 734-485-9100.

March 23 - Dearborn, MI
1:00 pm - 3:30 pm, Creating Response-Able Learners presented by Chick Moorman, Riverside Academy East, Dearborn, MI. For information contact Eman Radah at 313-586-0200.

March 30 - Flint, MI
2007 Catching the Writing Bug Literacy Day presented by Thomas Haller, Dowdall Elementary School, Flint, MI.

Back Issues

For back issues of this newsletter as well as back issues of our sister publication, The Response-Able Educator Newsletter, please go to

Copyright 2007 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.

Special Events

Transformational Parenting One-Day Intensive

Saturday, April 28, 2007
9:00 am - 4:00 pm
First United Methodist Church
120 S. State Street
Ann Arbor, MI

Visit Chick's website under Special Event for more information.

You don't want to miss this incredible experience. Seating is limited.

This is a rare opportunity to see Chick and Thomas together. The combination of an educator (Chick) and a therapist (Thomas) is synergistic. Sign up now.



Coaching for Committed Parents

Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman now offer personal parent coaching for committed parents on how to raise responsible, caring, confident children in enlightened and loving ways.

It is now possible to bring one of us, an experienced parenting coach, into your family life on a regular basis. This convenient telephone-based coaching can help you handle daily parenting frustrations and turn those real-world concerns into satisfying conclusions that bring joy and peace into your family.


Chick Moorman on the Air

Hear Chick Moorman live on March 20 talking about the 10 Commitments. He will be a guest on the Gary Doyle show at 1:05 pm EST. You may access this conversation at:

Special note: It's also Chick's birthday.

Training of Trainers

The Parent Talk System Facilitator Training

Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are combining their talents to train interested and committed participants in the Parent Talk System, a dynamic verbal skills training that helps parents
successfully handle their most challenging situations.

You will leave this training with enough materials, confidence, and skills to train parents in your community, church, school, or organization!

August 2-4, 2007
Spring Arbor University
Dearborn, MI
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller

Space is limited. To register or find out about the August 2-4 program specifics, CLICK HERE.

Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 1-877-360-1477 (toll-free) or e-mail him at


Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at




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