Response-Able Parent Newsletter #66

July 31, 2007

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Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.

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In This Issue

1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. Article: Twelve Tips for Making Your Trip to an 
Amusement Park the Best Ever
5. Sneak Preview

1. Quote

"You are told a lot about education, but some beautiful, sacred memory, preserved since childhood, is perhaps the best education of all. If a man carries many such memories into life with him, he is saved for the rest of his days.

Fyodor Dostoyevsky

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

What if perfection is never found in the outside object or event? What if it can only exist in the mind and the attitude of the person who looks?

3. Bumper Sticker

Spotted on a blue Chevy Beretta in Madison, WI:

Moms Rock

4. Article: Twelve Tips for Making Your Trip to an Amusement Park the Best Ever

By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman

Millions of people will visit an amusement park this summer. Some will do it as part of an extended vacation. Others will make it a one-day trip or a weekend event. Regardless of the length of stay, the theme of the park, or the part of the country you visit, the following tips can make your trip to an amusement park the best ever.

1. Establish a mutual plan. Allow every member of the family to have input and contribute suggestions for what they would like to experience at the park. Brainstorm all the possible rides and activities to visit. Build a list of things you want to make sure you don't miss. Make sure each family member's top priority is included on the list. By letting everyone have a say, you build commitment and lower resistance toward the planned activities.

2. Stick to the children's regular daily schedule and routine. The younger the child, the more important it is to stick to your regular schedule. While on vacation, children under the age of ten need to go to bed, get up, and eat at the same time they normally do. Young children's bodies are not able to adjust quickly to time changes and schedule adjustments. If this means arriving the night before and getting a full night's sleep, do it.

3. Don't attempt to do it all. Most amusement parks have more to offer than can be accomplished in one day. Slow down. The more you and your family members attempt to "fit it all in," the greater the chance that irritability and frustration will occur. Do not push to do everything on your list. Remember, a trip to the amusement park is about enjoying and savoring the time away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. It is more important that you be fully present for the activities you do than it is to do everything.

4. Take breaks. Stop every hour or so and regroup. Sit down and discuss where to go next. Relax for a moment. To continue to push may extend small legs or tired feet beyond their limits and can create unhappy children who resist the push to move on and finish.

5. Don't attempt to do everything together. It's okay to split up as long as an adult accompanies each child. You don't have to do everything together as a complete family. Different people have different interests. Allow opportunities for each person to experience activities without insisting that others participate. Look for chances to have one-on-one time with each of your children. The experiences of each individual will add life and energy to the family as they are shared and talked about later.

6. Share the maps. Amusement parks have small maps they distribute at information centers. Large maps are posted along the route with arrows that show directions. Let your children be the guide for part of the day. Give them a map and follow their lead. Go in the wrong direction if necessary. This can be a useful learning experience for your children as long as you don't make them wrong for their decisions or say, "I told you so."

7. Do not force children to experience anything they feel is not right for them. Some children are afraid of heights. Others don't like to be scared or prefer quiet activities. Still others dislike rides that make them dizzy. Respect the wishes of each family member and insist that everyone respect the choices of each individual person. Name-calling using words such as sissy, scaredy-cat, chicken, and wimp should not be allowed.

8. Teach your children to trust their intuition. Children know what rides they can handle. If they are unsure tell them, "Give it the tummy test and see what you think. How does it feel when you think about getting on that ride?" Refrain from comments like "You can handle it," or "Be a big girl for once and try something new."

9. Allow children to change their minds. Sometimes a ride looks a lot different close up than it did on the map. So what if you walked fifteen minutes to get to it? Make it OK for the child to make a new choice.

10. Get your needs met, too. Do some things you like. Refuse to go on rides you detest. Tell your children, "This doesn't feel good to me. I don't enjoy getting frightened that much." Refuse to cave in to peer pressure, and model for your children knowing what is right for you and sticking to it.

11. It's OK to repeat. Sometimes children like an activity so much they want to do it again. As adults, we want our children to experience everything once, so we are tempted to move them on. But they may prefer to repeat the same ride five times. Let them. This day is about children and their enjoyment. Relax and allow them to have their fun.

12. Have a plan for what to do if someone gets separated from the group. Teach your children what to do if they get lost. Encourage them to look for the helpers. Point out security guards and park employees and teach your children how to recognize these individuals. Teach them what to say to the helper: "I'm lost and need to find my mom." Have them practice saying that to you and pointing out who they would go to if they got separated from the rest of the family.

Once your trip to the amusement park is complete, come together as a family and discuss it. Look at pictures together and reflect on what each person remembers about that moment. Talk about everyone's most and least favorite activities. Consider adjustments that would make the next family adventure smoother and more enjoyable. Record suggestions so you have them for next time.

Preserve the history of your family outing by putting the photos and captions in a photo album. Place it in the nostalgia corner of your home where you keep the family memories. Look through the album on occasion to build connectedness and remembrances of your best trip ever to the amusement park.

Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free monthly e-zine for parents. To sign up for it or to obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today:

The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose


5. Sneak Preview: The Only Three

It's at the printer's.

Look for a September release date.

The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need

Essential Tools for Busy Parents

An excerpt from the soon-to-be-released book by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller follows.

The three strategies we present in this book can be taken with you everywhere you go. They make for light travel. You don�t have to learn thirty-five parenting techniques, become skilled at each, and lug them with you on vacation as you visit relatives or the amusement park. You only need three.

  • Are you stressed? Running out of time? You only need three discipline strategies.

  • Are you dealing with young children, teens, or adolescents? It doesn't matter. You only need three.

  • Do you live on a farm in Iowa, downtown in New York City, or in a resort hotel in Cancun, Mexico? You only need three.

  • Are you a single parent, see your kids on the weekends, or have a spouse who supports and encourages your parenting style? No matter. You only need three. Are you getting the picture? These discipline strategies are universal.

Having only three strategies to learn makes your parenting life easier. You don't have to become skilled at twenty different techniques. It is easier to master three than to work at developing a skill set of fifteen. You only have three to remember, three to practice, and three to use with tots or teens.

Watch for the special offer coming to your e-mail box soon!

Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 877-360-1477 (toll-free) or email him at


Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at

Featured Product: Couple Talk: How to Talk Your Way to a Great Relationship

by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller

Hardback book, 288 pages ($24.95)

This helpful book contains a variety of verbal skills and language patterns that will strengthen your primary relationship by improving communication between you and your partner. It will help you become a response-able communicator�able to respond appropriately and effectively to the everyday situations that all couples encounter. You will learn how and why to build a relationship based on mutual respect and caring.

The best thing you can do for your children is make sure your relationship remains strong.


Featured Workshop: The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need

This seminar contains two hours of essential skill-based training for busy parents. In it you will learn:

* The One-Minute Behavior Modifier for eliminating whining, teasing, hitting, cussing, backtalk, pouting, and other inappropriate behaviors.

* The Dynamic Discipline Equation to help you hold your children accountable for their actions and behaviors with love and consistency.

* The Positive Anger Explosion, a technique that will allow you to communicate annoyance, irritation, and frustration in a way that lets your child know that you are clearly angry, yet refrains from attacking character or wounding the spirit.


* Bring this important and impactful session to your school, church or community this fall. Thomas Haller and/or Chick Moorman stand ready to schedule a date for your group now.

* If you are one of the first ten organizations to schedule a seminar on this helpful topic, Thomas and Chick will bring 15 free books to be given away to the first 15 families who arrive (one per family).

* Call today to make sure your date gets locked into our calendar. Some September and October dates are still available. Call 877-360-1477 or e-mail Thomas at or Chick at

Coaching for Committed Parents

We now offer personal parent coaching for committed parents on how to raise responsible, caring, confident children in enlightened and loving ways.

It is now possible to bring one of us, an experienced parenting coach, into your family life on a regular basis. This convenient telephone-based coaching can help you handle daily parenting frustrations and turn those real-world concerns into satisfying conclusions that bring joy and peace into your family.



Aug. 2, 3 & 4 - Dearborn, MI
8:00 am - 4:00 pm, Parent Talk System: Training of Trainers presented by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller, Spring Arbor University, Dearborn, MI. For information contact Chick Moorman at 1-877-360-1477 (toll-free) or email

Aug. 7 - McFaland, WI
8:00 am - 4:00 pm, Teaching Respect and Responsibility presented by Chick Moorman, International Graduate School, McFaland High School, McFaland, WI. For more information email Deb Engen at

Aug. 9
Professional Ethics for Social Workers and Stress Management presented by Thomas Haller, location to be announces, CE's provided for Social Workers contact

Aug. 11 - Bay City, MI
Equinox/Healing Acres Equine Ranch Fundraiser presented by Thomas Haller, 5225 Three Mile Rd, Bay City, MI For more information email

Aug. 17 - Houston, TX
8:00 am - 3:30 pm, Celebrate the Spirit Whisperers presented by Chick Moorman, Houston ISD, Houston, TX. For information call Lara Hulin at 713-778-3490 or email her at

Aug. 22 - Ludington, MI
8:30 am - 10:30 am, Celebrate the Spirit Whisperers presented by Chick Moorman, K-5, Mason - Lake ISD, Ludington, MI. For information contact Jen Orton at 231-757-4934 Ext. 155 or email

Aug. 22 - Ludington, MI
12:00 pm - 2:00 pm, Celebrate the Spirit Whisperers presented by Chick Moorman, 6-12, Mason - Lake ISD, Ludington, MI. For information contact Jen Orton at 231-757-4934 Ext. 155 or email

Aug. 28 - Monroe, MI
8:30 am - 3:00 pm, Teacher Talk presented by Chick Moorman, Meadow Montessori School, Monroe, MI. For information email Cathy Calder at

Aug. 28 - Monroe, MI
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm, Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound presented by Chick Moorman, Meadow Montessori School, Meyer Theater, Monroe County Community College, Monroe, MI. For information email Cathy Calder at

Aug. 30 - Bothell, WA
8:00 am - 12:00 pm, Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, Northshore School District, Kenmore Jr. High, Bothell, WA. For information contact Tim Gordon at 425-402-5300 or email



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