Response-Able Parent Newsletter #71

February 4, 2008

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In This Issue

1. Quote
2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3. Bumper Sticker
4. Article: Beyond Flowers
5. Humor
6. We Get E-mail

1. Quote

"Therefore, when I say 'I love,' it is not I who love, but in reality love who acts through me. Love is not so much something I do as something that I am. Love is not a doing, but a state of being -- a relatedness, a connectedness to another mortal, an identification with her or him that simply flows within me and through me, independent of my intentions or my efforts."

Robert A. Johnson

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

Are you in touch with your passion today? Will you find ways to communicate it to your children? To your spouse? To yourself?

3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed on a blue Ford van in a school parking lot in Shelby Township, MI:

Every Child Is a Wanted Child.

4. Article: 4. Article: Beyond Flowers

By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman


How do you plan on saying "I love you" this Valentine's Day? 

Many advertisers would have us believe that the best way to express love is with a large box of chocolates, a pair of expensive diamond earrings, or a beautiful bouquet of flowers. Others would recommend a candlelight dinner and a quiet evening together. At the very least, some suggest the perfect card with eloquent words written by a greeting card professional to express your loving feelings.

But what if you were to look beyond flowers, chocolates, and candlelight dinners this Valentine's Day? What if the single best gift you could give your spouse is one that enables your children to see more than a commercial-style Valentine's love? What if the gift you commit to this Valentine's Day helps your children realize that you truly love their mother or father every day of the year? 

Below are a few ideas to communicate, "I love you," on February 14 and on every day following. They are designed to touch the heart and the soul of your partner as well as those of your children.

This year . . .

1.  Be a listener more than a talker. Put down the newspaper, turn off the television, put the cell phone on vibrate, and focus on your spouse. Seek first to understand her wants, needs and feelings about a particular situation or the past day's events. There will be another time for you to share your personal wants and feelings. Be there for your spouse and let your children see that.

2.  Share your appreciation for your spouse publicly. Let your partner know that you appreciate him and all that he is doing for the family. Do not do this with words that evaluate and rate performance, such as "good," "fantastic," "wonderful." Instead, be specific about what you appreciate and describe the effect his effort has had on you and your family life. Let your children overhear some of this specific appreciation.

3.  Refuse to speak negatively about your spouse (or ex-spouse) in front of your children. Keep your feelings and comments to yourself or share them privately with the person in question, regardless of the circumstances. When you need to vent, do it with a friend, a family member, or a therapist. Negative comments about your child's other parent are never to be uttered in their presence. This is especially important in divorce situations. Remember, no matter how you feel toward your ex-spouse, he or she is still your children's parent. It does not hurt the ex when you make negative comments in front of your children. It hurts your children.

4.  Demonstrate support for your spouse by encouraging her aspirations and interests. Remember, you are parenting as a team. Rearrange your schedule if needed so that your partner can enjoy yoga, volleyball, or reading quietly. When only one person's interests are being met in a relationship, imbalance occurs and the entire family feels the effects of the load being placed on the other parent. Create balance by supporting your spouse's interests so that your family can run more smoothly.

5.  Keep your commitments. Do what you said you would do. When you say that you are going to pick the kids up at a specific time, do it. If you say that you will watch the children while your spouse takes a parenting break, then step up and handle the situations that arise. 

6. Establish a date night every couple of weeks and actually spend time together as adults. Get a babysitter, pass the kids to the grandparents, or take turns watching another couple's children. Make the time to nurture your relationship on a regular basis. The kids will be comforted in knowing that Mom and Dad take care of themselves, too. 

7.  Succeed at home first. Yes, your professional lives are important. Yes, it is important that your careers flourish and that you find meaningful work that is satisfying and rewarding. And what is the value of being successful away from home if you are unsuccessful in creating a loving, connected family? Make one of your Valentine gifts to your family a commitment to place family first.

The traditional chocolates or flowers, accompanied by a meaningful card, is one way to say, "I love you." This year, let that be only the first step in communicating love for your spouse and children. Why not take the next step? Go beyond flowers and chocolates this year and use Valentine's Day to make a new commitment to those you love the most. Say, "I love you," every day by using the above suggestions to help your children see real affection in action throughout the entire year.

Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman are the authors of Teaching the Attraction PrincipleTM to Children and The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need: Essential Tools for Busy Parents. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free monthly e-zine for parents. To sign up for it or to obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today:

The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need: Essential Tools for Busy Parents


5. Humor

First parent: Only seven days until pitchers and catchers report.

Second parent: You're addicted to baseball.

First parent: Whoa, that criticism came out of left field!

6. We Get E-mail

Hey You Guys,

I was a little disappointed in your last newsletter where you highlighted the celebrity parenting blunders of 2007. I think your point could have easily been made without naming names and pointing fingers at a few outlandish situations. It almost makes it too easy for folks to dismiss their own shortcomings in the parenting department because they can't begin to compare their personal blunders to these ridiculous scenarios.

How can we stop the "ongoing media frenzy" with celebs, when even the two of you are talking about them? I suggest we try to ignore these stories and learn from our own blunders, which are usually less publicized.

As a rule, I find your letters helpful and amusing. 

Faithful Reader


Dear Faithful Reader.

We definitely appreciate you reading faithfully and finding the newsletters to be of interest.

OK, we promise not to highlight any more celebrity blunders . . . for a while . . . and will focus on the positive as well. We were aware that we were focusing on the negative and following the poor example set by much of the media by highlighting what is wrong rather than what is right in the world.

This is why in our March issue we will feature positive contributions made by parents throughout the world.  We are calling on all faithful readers to please help us by sending articles, stories, or short examples of parents demonstrating a commitment to family. Help us showcase some of the many parents who raise responsible children in enlightened and loving ways.


Chick and Thomas

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Featured Workshop

The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need

This seminar contains two hours of essential skill-based training for busy parents. In it you will learn:

* The One-Minute Behavior Modifier for eliminating whining, teasing, hitting, cussing, back talk, pouting, and other inappropriate behaviors

* The Dynamic Discipline Equation to help you hold your children accountable for their actions and behaviors with love and consistency

* The Positive Anger Explosion, a technique that will allow you to communicate annoyance, irritation, and frustration in a way that lets your child know that you are clearly angry, yet refrains from attacking character or wounding the spirit

Bring this important and impactful session to your school, church or community this fall. Thomas Haller and/or Chick Moorman stand ready to schedule a date for your group now.

If you are one of the first ten organizations to schedule a seminar on this helpful topic, Thomas and Chick will bring 15 free books to be given away to the first 15 families who arrive (one per family).

Call today to make sure your date gets locked into our calendar. Some spring dates are still available. Call 877-360-1477 or e-mail Thomas at or Chick at

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Feb. 7 -  Bruce Township, MI
Grace Lutheran Fellowship Church, 10 am, The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need presented by Thomas Haller and 7:00 pm evening presentation Couple Talk presented by Thomas Haller. 7525 32 Mile Road, Bruce Township, MI Call 586-752-9800 for more information.

Feb. 15 - St. Louis, MO
9:15 am - 10:30 am, Keynote presented by Chick Moorman, Andrews Academy, St. Louis, MO. For information email Joe Patterson at

Feb. 15 - St. Louis, MO
11:00 am - 11:50 am, Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, Andrews Academy, St. Louis, MO. For information email Joe Patterson at

Feb. 15 - St. Louis, MO
1:30 pm - 2:20 pm, The Language of Respect presented by Chick Moorman, Andrews Academy, St. Louis, MO. For information email Joe Patterson at

Feb. 29 - Grand Blanc
Catching the Writing Bug Literacy Day presented by Reese and Thomas Haller, Grand Blanc Schools, Grand Blanc, MI.

Feb. 29 - Philadelphia, PA
8:00 pm - 9:30 pm, Keynote presented by Chick Moorman, Montessori Speaker Event, Chestnut Hill College, Montessori Teacher Education Program, Philadelphia, PA. For information contact Michelle Carr, Montessori Director CHC at 215-248-7123 or email

Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 877-360-1477 (toll-free) or e-mail him at


Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at




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