Response-Able Parent Newsletter #73

April 22, 2008

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In This Issue

1.  Quote

2.  Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3.  Bumper Sticker
4.  Article: Paradise Interrupted
5.  Humor

6.  Did You Know?

1. Quote

"If you think you are so enlightened, go and spend a week with your parents."


Ram Dass

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

How can I see this differently? How can I be different with this? How can I think about this differently? How can I react to this differently? Ask yourself these questions often today. See if you attract different energy and create different results.

3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed on a blue Chevy Impala in St. Cloud, MN:


Real Men

Change Diapers

4. Article: Paradise Interrupted

By Chick Moorman


Cancun, Mexico. Mile after mile of fine white sand, stretching as far as I can see in two directions. Some of it is lodged firmly between my toes as I look out at the indescribable turquoise water of the Caribbean Sea of Mexico. Only occasional puffs of white clouds dot the sky and temporarily block the sun that is heating my lotion-covered body with 85-degree intensity. Waves approach the shore with rhythmic regularity, depositing shells and providing opportunities for children of every age to test their bravery and determination to remain on their feet as the waves crash into them.


Paradise, it would seem, is all around me. But not quite. While my body is enjoying the present vacation moment, my mind has a different idea. It has noticed discarded cigarette butts lying in the sand, creating a stark contrast between the incredible natural beauty and the way it is treated by some other vacationers.


As I notice more discarded butts on the beach, my mind begins making judgments. "Disgusting," is my first thought. "Pigs! Uncaring slobs with no consideration for the environment and for those of us who choose not to litter," follows closely behind.


Trapped in incessant thinking, my mind is on a roll. Subsequent thoughts include:


  • What is the matter with these people?
  • Don't they know that the filters don't decompose?
  • This is disgusting.
  • Why can't they keep their filthy habits to themselves?
  • Why do the rest of us have to be penalized for their stupidity?  

My mind is creating so much noise that stillness, the sound of the waves, and the feel of the sun and wind are lost. I am not enjoying the beauty that is present because I am obsessing on the negative that I see. Strong emotion emerges in the form of annoyance and anger. The anger builds in intensity and energizes my mind, which, in turn, produces more judgmental thought.


  • They should be fined.
  • They shouldn't be able to get away with this.
  • What a bunch of jerks.
  • Unconscious beings.

The thoughts and emotions feed each other, their mutual support demonstrating proof of their correctness. The vibrational frequency of my body is now caught in a negative spiral and, amazingly enough, I create suffering for myself in the midst of this incredible beauty that surrounds me.


Not able to stop thinking, and overflowing with judgment, I am only slightly aware of the inner pollution I am creating in response to the outer pollution I observe. "How do I turn this off?" I wonder. "Where is the switch that will get me back to paradise?"


"Get present," a small voice from within responds. "You are resisting the what is of the present moment."


I have heard that voice before and have learned to trust it. I decide to do as it suggests and immediately begin to pay attention to what is happening around me at this moment. I notice a small child carrying a small paper bag. He is collecting seashells, I assume. But he doesn’t appear to be in the prime shell-collecting area. He is away from the water, searching in sand that would yield few shells. Yet he seems to delight in finding treasure after treasure at his chosen hunting ground.


When he gets close to me, I can see that his bag contains litter, including paper, cans—and cigarette butts.


"What are you doing?" I ask him.


"Picking up stuff," he says matter-of-factly.


"Why?" I continue.




"What do you mean?"


"We come here once a year as a family and we're grateful."


It is then that I spot the letters on the paper bag: G-R-A-T-I-T-U-D-E. The young boy's father appears at this point and gives me a more detailed explanation of the situation. "What you're seeing is my family filling gratitude bags," he explains. "We're so grateful for this beauty that we give back to the universe by helping keep it natural. Each time we come to the beach, which is several times during our week-long stay, we each fill a bag with ten pieces of trash and dump it in the barrel before we go up to the pool area. It's a great way to help my children learn the importance of expressing gratitude for all the blessings in their lives, especially for this incredible place where sand, water, and sun come together in such splendor. Plus, it helps keep the beach clean."


I thank him aloud for the explanation and silently for jolting me out of the negative snarl my mind had created. Later that day I recycle grocery bags for my family to use in the same manner. For the rest of that week we continue the tradition of using gratitude bags to express our appreciation for the beauty that we are privileged to experience.


Today, I am grateful to the family from New Jersey who helped me turn my mind from disgust to appreciation and my paradise interrupted into paradise reclaimed.


Thank you, New Jersey family.


Chick Moorman is the co-author of Teaching the Attraction Principle™ to Children and is the author of Talk Sense to Yourself: The Language of Personal Power. He is one of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. He, along with Thomas Haller, publish a free monthly e-zine for educators and another for parents. To sign up for one, to order a book, or to obtain more information about how he can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit his website today:

Teaching the Attraction Principleā„¢ to Children

CLICK HERE TO VIEW Teaching the Attraction Principleā„¢ to Children

5. Humor

A woman was trying hard to get the ketchup to come out of the jar. During the struggle the phone rang so she asked her four-year-old daughter to answer it. "It's the minister, Mommy," the child said to her mother. Then she picked up the phone and added, "Mommy can't come to the phone to talk to you right now. She’s hitting the bottle."

6. Did you know?

A.) A recent study of popular videos such as Baby Einstein and Brainy Baby shows that these products may be doing more harm than good. University of Washington experts report that for every hour infants watch the videos they understand an average of seven fewer words than babies who do not use the products. Perhaps parents should take the advice of the American Academy of Pediatrics, which recommends that infants under two not watch anything on a screen. They suggest these youngsters interact with their parents instead.

B.) Every day in America 2,316 babies are born to mothers who are not high school graduates.

C.) This summer you can get trained in the Parent Talk System. This three-day skill-based training will help you learn to teach parents how to raise responsible children. It includes techniques to assist parents in learning communication strategies to build love and trust within their families. Participants learn training strategies that allow them to teach The Parent Talk System with expertise and confidence. Ongoing technical assistance is provided to all graduates.

The facilitator training is designed to prepare local trainers to skillfully present the Parent Talk System to parents in their communities. Promotional and publicity guidance will be provided to encourage increased attendance. Materials included with training are: a facilitator’s manual, transparencies, parent workbooks, DVDs, forms, logos, advertisements, sample letters, and the hardcover Parent Talk book.

The Parent Talk System
Training of Trainers

July 31 - Aug. 2
Spring Arbor University
19855 West Outer Drive
Suite 300 E
Dearborn, MI 48124

D.) Thomas Haller now has the number-one-rated morning show in the mid-Michigan area. His radio show on Thursday mornings from 7:00 – 8:00 am (EST), WIOG 102.5FM, offers free three-minute therapy for those who call in or listen to his parenting and relationship help.

If you want to listen anywhere in the world, catch the 102.5 WIOG ONLINE STREAMING. That's right. You can now listen to Thomas offering practical advice for parents and couples from anywhere in the world.

Click this link and follow the instructions: Soon you will be listening to Thomas answering parenting and relationship questions live.


Copyright 2008 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.

Featured Video Clip Opportunity

See Thomas Haller live in a three-minute video clip.

As the chief parenting correspondent for NBC 25, Thomas regularly records parenting tips, helpful reminders, and insightful perceptions. This month we offer you an opportunity to hear Thomas talk about the issue of Keeping Score at Sporting Events. At what age should keeping score begin? Why do many children drop out of organized sports by age twelve? How do you talk to your child about winning versus skill development and enjoyment of the activity? These answers and more are delivered in this three-minute video clip.


To hear Thomas Haller talk about Keeping Score at Sporting Events, go to Click on the Parenting Tip of the Week on his home page.

Featured Product

Talk Sense to Yourself: The Language of Personal Power

by Chick Moorman

Paperback book, 201 pages ($15.00)

Contained within this practical, skill-based book is a series of words, phrases and ways of speaking that will increase your sense of personal power. Talk Sense will help you structure your language patterns to put more choice and possibility in your life. You will become more self-confident, improve your self-esteem, and learn how to talk sense to yourself.

Within these pages are the keys to using Self-Responsible Language so you can in turn teach this empowering style of speaking to your children. The words your children use create their thoughts. Their repetitious thoughts become their beliefs. And their beliefs influence their actions. If you want children who demonstrate self-responsible behaviors, begin by learning and teaching them self-responsible language.


Special Event

Michigan and California Workshop


See Thomas and Chick together in one of their rare performances as a duo.  Enjoy and learn from the synergistic combination of a therapist and educator sharing their expertise with you and with each other. Attend this exciting event and you will hear them give practical ideas for teaching THE ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE™ to your children or students.

Michigan Workshop (Ann Arbor Area)

Saturday, May 17, 2008
9:00 am - 12:00 pm
First United Methodist Church of Ann Arbor
120 S. State Street
Ann Arbor, MI

Registration Fees
$40 per person prior to 5/1/08
$50 per person after 5/1/08
50% discount for 2nd member of family

California Workshop (Los Angeles Area)

Monday, June 2, 2008
6:00 pm - 9:00 pm
18555 Ventura Blvd.
Tarzana, CA

Registration Fees: $50 per person or $75 per couple


April 26 – Prescott, AZ

Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, BER, Prescott Schools, Prescott, AZ.


May 2 – Midland, MI

Teaching the Attraction Principle to Children presented by Thomas Haller, Michigan PTSA 90th Annual Convention, Valley Plaza Resort Hotel, Midland, MI. For more information visit


May 7 – Merrillville, IN

Increase Student Motivation, Achievement and Self-Responsibility Using Effective Teacher Talk, presented by Chick Moorman, Otter Creek Institute, Merrillville, IN. For information call 1-800-413-1452.


May 8 – Appleton, Wi

Increase Student Motivation, Achievement and Self-Responsibility Using Effective Teacher Talk presented by Chick Moorman, Otter Creek Institute, Appleton, WI. For information call 1-800-413-1452.


May 9 – Milwaukee, Wi

Increase Student Motivation, Achievement and Self-Responsibility Using Effective Teacher Talk presented by Chick Moorman, Otter Creek Institute, Milwaukee, WI. For information call 1-800-413-1452.


May 15 – Clinton Township, MI

7:00 pm - 9:00 pm, The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need presented by Chick Moorman, Montessori Children Academy, Clinton Township, MI. For information email Daniella DeMichele at


May 17 – Ann Arbor, MI

9:00 am - 12:00 pm, Teaching the Attraction Principle to Children, presented by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller, First United Methodist Church, 120 South State Street, Ann Arbor, MI. For information email  You can register at

Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 877-360-1477 (toll-free) or e-mail him at


Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at




Personal Power Press
P.O. Box 547
Merrill, MI 48637

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