Response-Able Parent Newsletter #75

July 9, 2008

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Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.


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In This Issue

1.  Quote

2.  Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3.  Bumper Sticker
4.  Article: Lessons from a Lemonade Stand
5.  Parent Talk: Key to Literacy

6.  We Get E-mail

1. Quote

"Family life! The United Nations is child's play compared to the tugs and splits and need to understand and forgive in any family."


May Sarton

2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

What if looking at the present parenting problem is not the way to get beyond it? Today, why not look beyond the problem in your desire to resolve it?

3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed on a green Sunlight pop-up camper:




4. Article: Lessons from a Lemonade Stand

By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller


Richard got bored during the summer and wanted to make a lemonade stand. His mother said, "Not today. It's too much trouble right now. You can do that someday later in the summer." She took him to get an ice cream cone instead.


Wendy also got bored during the summer and she, too, wanted to make a lemonade stand. Her mother said, "Tell me more. I want to hear the what, why, where, when, and who that you have been thinking about." After a long discussion, she took her daughter shopping for lemonade supplies.


Both children learned important lessons from the results of their lemonade idea.


Richard learned…


  1. An eight-year-old doesn't have much power. 
  2. It's hard to get your ideas taken seriously or even listened to. 
  3. You can earn an ice cream if you'll forget your latest idea and not bring it up again. 
  4. Someday means never.

Wendy learned…


  1. Parents will listen to you and invest the time necessary to hear your thoughts and ideas even though they may not always agree with them. 
  2. It takes investment capital to begin a business. "Where are you going to get the money to begin this business?" her mother asked. "From you," the eight-year-old responded. "Not likely," her mother told her, "unless you want to pay me interest." 
  3. If you don’t have money, other people will be happy to loan it to you if you are willing to pay them for that service. After hearing that she would be charged ten cents for every dollar she needed to get started, Wendy told her mother, "Maybe I have enough in my savings." 
  4. It helps to do some planning before you begin a business. "How much will I need?" Wendy asked. "Not sure," said her mom. "How many days are you going to do this and for how long? How much are you going to charge and where will you do it? Do you have a goal?" 
  5. Location is important. The first day of the weekend lemonade sale, Wendy set up her operation in front of her own house. She had five customers in an entire afternoon. The next day she placed her table in the front lawn at her grandmother's garage sale. She sold out in two hours and had to restock. 
  6. In business you can help people and make money. Visitors to the garage sale were hot and thirsty. They appreciated the service that Wendy provided, and some tipped generously. She helped her customers stay cool and quench their thirst. They helped her earn forty-five dollars. It was clearly a win/win situation. 
  7. Always give people more than their money's worth. It addition to a cold lemonade drink, Wendy provided napkins, a smile, and free refills. Most customers paid again when they got the free refill. 
  8. Credit isn't necessary. Wendy paid for the start-up supplies out of her savings. She paid in cash, sold for cash, and banked cash when she was done. Plastic was not needed for any transaction. 
  9. It's important to give some back. Wendy placed ten percent of her profits in the family charity jar after the completion of her lemonade adventure. She simply modeled what she had seen her parents do many times on Sunday evenings. 
  10. Cleanup is necessary. Just as Wendy was about to leave, her grandmother gave her a garbage bag to collect the paper cups and napkins that had been left in her yard. Wendy was tired and wanted to go home, but she realized cleanup was her responsibility.

Wendy and Richard had interesting summers. One child learned several economic lessons about starting a business. The other did not. One learned about responsibility, effort, persistence, and planning. The other did not. One learned that you can set a goal and achieve it. The other did not. One had a parent who realized that a lemonade stand offers incredible opportunities to learn life's success principles. The other did not.


Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free monthly e-zine for parents. To sign up for it or obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today:

The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose


5. Parent Talk: Key to Literacy

Is school important? Yes. But the key to literacy is not located in the school house. It is found at home.

Most parents know that it's important to read aloud to their children. School personnel have been recommending that for years. And now comes another and equally important and powerful message from educators: Talk to your children!

Language-rich homes have been linked with success in reading and school achievement. And much of this happens before kids even register for kindergarten. So if you want your children to have a literacy edge when they enter school, do the following.

1.      Beginning at birth, increase both the quantity and quality of conversations between you and your children.

2.      Use rich language. (Yes, big words for small children.) The language you use is what children have to select from when they become writers and readers.

3.      Retell family stories.

4.      Talk about the world.

5.      Talk about the future.

6.      Ask questions that seek opinions.

7.      It's OK to use words children do not understand. Children learn words from usage. Use them often.

Everyone can talk to their children. And it can make a huge difference to their literacy development. Talk, talk, talk, and listen.

6. We Get E-mail

Hi Thomas and Chick,


I was just reviewing some old e-mails and read your 9/26/05 newsletter. In there, a woman wrote to you about her six-year-old daughter, who bit her nails. Her question to you was why. Your answer was that it was due to the child's self-esteem and confidence level. That answer may work for a six-year-old, but I highly doubt that is the reason my three-year-old son has been biting his nails for a year now.  Any other suggestions on nail-biters?




San Francisco Mother




Hello, San Francisco Mother,


Sometimes nail-biting in young children starts out as anxiety about something and then as the anxiety goes away the nail-biting remains as a habit. If that is the case, the nail-biting is no longer about anxiety or self-esteem. The issue then becomes how to deal with the habit.


The goal in dealing with the habit is bringing it to awareness without increasing anxiety. It could be the child is not even conscious that the nail-biting is a habit. So helping him stay conscious is what is needed.


Slow and gentle is the key here in raising awareness of the habit. You need to find some fun, easy, gentle ways to remind the child that his fingers are in his mouth.


"Looks like your fingers found your mouth again" can be said with a playful tone.


"Oops, your teeth are trying to eat your fingers."


Sometimes a quiet reminder sign, like holding up one finger, is good if other people are around and you don't want to say anything aloud to create embarrassment. The sign needs to be agreed upon by both you and the child beforehand.


Make an effort to remind without making the child wrong, without making him bad, and without coming across as stressed or anxious yourself.


Hope all this helps.




Thomas and Chick 

Summer Reading Fun for Kids

Parker Haller (age eight) and Reese Haller (age eleven) are publishing a FREE NEWSPAPER called the Haller Gazette, by kids for kids. To sign up simply email your child's name and postal address to the Hallers at U.S. residents only please.


Copyright 2008 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.

Featured Video Clip Opportunity

See Thomas Haller live in a three-minute video clip, Empowering Children. How and why should parents empower their children? What is a helpful way to use the Parent Talk phrase, "Please make a different choice"? Watch as Thomas gives the main tip for empowering children.


As the chief parenting correspondent for NBC 25, Thomas regularly records parenting tips, helpful reminders, and insightful perceptions. This is your opportunity to see Thomas Haller in action and invest three minutes in learning how to raise responsible, caring, conscious children.


To view this valuable video clip, click here: Empowering children.

Special Event

What makes life worthwhile?


Having passion, mission, and purpose in your life and being able to make a difference in the lives of others—that's what makes life worthwhile. And getting paid while you do it? That’s the frosting on the cake.


Are you passionate about raising children? Do you take your parenting role so seriously that you constantly look for ways to improve?


If you are passionate about the importance of parenting (your own children—as well as other people's) AND you would like to earn money helping others raise responsible, caring, confident children, you will want to read further.


This is a sincere invitation to check out an opportunity to become a certified trainer in the highly acclaimed Parent Talk System.


Make a difference in the lives of parents and children in your community, church, or school.

·         Do you feel called in your soul to help parents consider the possibility that there might be a better way, an enlightened way, to parent?

·         Are you interested in helping parents move from a fear- and shame-based parenting style to one that is love based?

·         Would you consider helping the parents in your community make a shift in perception that would allow them to become the change that will change our world for the better?

·         Are you ready to make a giant leap forward to actualizing your potential as a healer of the planet?

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, the dynamic, upcoming three-day training seminar in the Parent Talk System is definitely for you!

Program Specifics:

The Parent Talk System Facilitator Training

Facilitated by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller

Limited to 35 participants

A Rewarding Experience Awaits You.

By attending this training and becoming a Parent Talk Facilitator you will join the growing cadre of over 200 facilitators now practicing throughout the world. This select group is working diligently to improve family life in their communities.

You might be thinking, "But I don’t have any experience presenting to people."

I promise you that if you take this training you will leave at the end of three days with the skills, tools and confidence to present this life-changing material to others.

You will learn:

1. The Parent Talk System, including the six two-hour modules that teach parents the verbal skills necessary to raise responsible, caring, confident children.

2. Strategies that allow you to teach the verbal skills with expertise and confidence.

3. Promotional and publicity skills/tools to attract interested participants.

You will receive:

·         A facilitator's manual

·         15 parent workbooks (starter kit)

·         1 supplemental DVD

·         Parent Talk book (hardcover)

·         Graduation certificate

·         Access to the Parent Talk facilitators' section of my web site

·         Special monthly trainers' newsletter

·         Ongoing technical assistance

Featured Product


Special Reports by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller consist of practical, usable advice that you can put to use immediately with your family. Each report deals with a specific parenting concern such as ending morning madness, eliminating whining, getting your child to do homework, etc. Each report offers step-by-step advice to help you handle a typical parenting problem.

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Order 3 Special Reports and get a 4th one FREE. A coupon to be used for your FREE report will automatically be sent to you when you order 3.  Order 6 Special Reports and you will receive 2 coupons that you can use to order FREE reports.

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July 29 - LaPlace, LA

8:30 am - 3:30 pm, Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, LaPlace High School, LaPlace, LA.


July 31 – Aug. 2 – Dearborn, MI

8:30 am - 4:00 pm, The Parent Talk System Training of Trainers presented by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller, Spring Arbor University, Dearborn, MI. For information contact Chick Moorman at 1-877-360-1477 (toll-free) or email him at


Aug. 4 – New Iberia, LA

8:00 am - 2:00 pm, Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, New Iberia High School, New Iberia, LA. For information email


Aug. 5 – McFarland, WI

8:30 am - 4:00 pm, Teaching Respect and Responsibility presented by Chick Moorman, International School of Graduate Studies, McFarland High School, McFarland, WI. For information email Deb Engen at


Aug. 7 – Cedar City, UT

8:00 am - 3:00 pm, Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, Cedar City Public Schools, Cedar City High School, Cedar City, UT. For information contact Scott Doubek at 435-477-3366.

Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 877-360-1477 (toll-free) or e-mail him at


Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at




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