Response-Able Parent Newsletter #80

January 9, 2009

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In This Issue

1.  Quote

2.  Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3.  Bumper Sticker
4.  Article: Parenting Change in 2009
5.  Parent Talk Tip


1. Quote

"The change we are looking for is always a change within ourselves."

 

Marianne Williamson


2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

What if it is only your weakness that allows you to perceive their weakness? What is seeing their weakness trying to say to you about your weakness?  


3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed on a green Chevy Cavalier in Atlanta, GA:

 

Who cares if it is half-full

Or half-empty?

Just fill it up!


4. Article: Parenting Change in 2009

By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller

 

 

Many of our thoughts about parenting are outdated. Used by our parents and others who have come before us, they have been passed on as worn-out hand-me-downs that no longer fit the time, the place, or us as uncommon parents.

 

We recently met a man on an airplane who proudly informed us, "Spanking worked for my grandparents, was used on me by my parents, and I am upholding the family tradition. What worked for them will work for me."

 

What this young parent doesn't grasp is that spanking did not work for any of the generations he mentioned. It failed miserably to show children a model other than "might makes right." It failed to produce grownups who felt no need to hit their own children. It failed to create adults who were skilled enough at parenting not to have to resort to physical punishment. In each generation spanking failed to help children grow into the type of parent this world so desperately needs, one who models a respect for human dignity even in the midst of holding children accountable for their actions. It failed to break the chain of  unskilled parenting.

 

Do you want to create something new for yourself as a parent and for your children in 2009? If so, it is important to pay attention to your thoughts. Perhaps 2009 is the time to discard some of those old, dysfunctional thoughts and turn them in for new, more helpful ones. Consider the following suggestions.

 

  1. If you have been thinking your job is to insist that children follow an outside authority and learn to obey, consider changing your thoughts to thinking your job is to help children develop their own inner authority.
     
  2. Do you think the most important part of what just happened with your children is what you do about what just happened with your children? If so, why not alter that thought? Think instead that the most important part of what just happened with your children is how you choose to be in response to what just happened.
     
  3. Do you think judgmental thoughts about mistakes your children make, seeing mistakes as bad and as behavior to be avoided? If so, 2009 could become the year to think of mistakes as learning experiences and opportunities for teaching.
     
  4. If your thoughts reveal a demand that your children think, feel, and act the way you do, rethink that traditional parenting position. Take an uncommon parenting approach by thinking thoughts that recognize that your children are different from you, and encourage them to become their own person.
     
  5. A thought system that continually looks for your children to improve can be altered to one that helps you look inward to examine your own beliefs, skills, and attitudes about parenting. By altering your thinking, you can come to believe that in order to raise children who grow up to be like no one else, you have to first raise yourself by working to raise your consciousness so you can parent like no one else. 
     
  6. Do you think it is your job as a parent to fill your children up with goodness? Think instead, in 2009, that your real job is to find the goodness in your children that already exists and allow it to emerge. 

The important change you are looking for in 2009 may well be a change emanating from deep within yourself. Remember, you can think whatever thoughts you want about the sacred role of parenting. And you can believe whatever you want to believe. Choose carefully, because what you think and believe you will create as true for yourself.

 

Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of Teaching the Attraction Principle to Children. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free monthly e-zine for parents. To sign up for it or to obtain more information on how to bring their expertise to your family or group, visit their website today: www.personalpowerpress.com. Visit their new blog at www.uncommon-parenting.com.


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5. Parent Talk Tip

When correcting inappropriate behavior, lead with a demonstration of understanding. "I can see you want to use the green crayon." "I hear clearly that you want to go to Jenny's house." This shows the child that you indeed understand, and is an important Parent Talk step in effective behavior guidance.

Follow your demonstration of understanding with "and," and state a reason which makes it clear why the child's desire cannot happen right now.

"I see you want to use the green crayon, and Willy is using it right now."

"I hear that you want to go to Jenny's, and no transportation is currently available."

Finally, offer a solution. "You can use the green crayon as soon as Willy is finished with the tree he is making." "You can go to Jenny's when your dad brings the car back."

Showing understanding, stating a reason, and offering a solution will help calm many of the minor problems you have as a parent and keep them from escalating.

CLICK HERE TO ORDER THE PARENT TALK BOOK.

Copyright

Copyright 2008 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.

Featured Video Clip Opportunity

Listen to Your Tone

 

See Thomas Haller live in a three-minute video clip explaining that 70 percent of the message you deliver to your children is NOT communicated with words.

 

Tone is not something we always think about or pay attention to. Yet, according to Thomas Haller, changing our tone may have a dramatic effect on our children. In this three-minute clip, learn how to speak in a way that is serious, yet eliminates the bite.

 

As the chief parenting correspondent for NBC 25, Thomas regularly records parenting tips, helpful reminders, and insightful perceptions. View more essential parenting tips at www.thomashaller.com.

 

To view this significant video clip, click here: Listen to Your Tone.



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Training of Trainers

The Parent Talk System Facilitator Training

This is a three-day skill-based training that helps local facilitators teach parents how to raise responsible children. It includes techniques to assist parents in learning communication strategies that build love and trust within their families. Participants learn invaluable training strategies that allow them to teach the Parent Talk System with expertise and confidence. Ongoing technical assistance is provided to all graduates.

The facilitator training is designed to prepare local trainers to skillfully present the Parent Talk System to parents in their communities. Promotional and publicity guidance will be provided to encourage increased attendance. Materials included with the training are: a facilitator’s manual, transparencies, parent workbooks, DVDs, forms, logos, advertisements, sample letters, and the hardcover Parent Talk book.

Do something extraordinary for the children and parents in your community! Take a giant step toward helping others parent like no one else so their children can grow up to be like no one else. Join us at one of the following two trainings for an experience of a lifetime.

Two dates and locations to choose from….


1.) Augusta, KS -- June 4 - 6

2.) Dearborn, MI -- July 30-August 1       



Schedule

Jan. 12 - Portland, OR
Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.

Jan. 13 - Salt Lake City, UT

Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.

 

Jan. 14 – Phoenix, AZ 

Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.

 

Jan. 15 - El Paso, TX

Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.

 

Jan. 16 - Denver, CO

Motivating the Unmotivated presented by Chick Moorman, 8:00 am – 4:00 pm. Contact Bureau of Education & Research (BER) at 1-800-735-3503 or www.ber.org.


Jan. 16 - Saginaw, MI
Catching the Writing Bug Literacy Day presented by Thomas and Reese Haller, Weiss Elementary School, Saginaw, MI.



Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 877-360-1477 (toll-free) or e-mail him at ipp57@aol.com.


CLICK HERE TO VISIT CHICK'S WEBSITE.

Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at thomas@thomashaller.com.


CLICK HERE TO VISIT THOMAS' WEBSITE.

Links

Contact

Personal Power Press
P.O. Box 547
Merrill, MI 48637
1-877-360-1477

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