Response-Able Parent Newsletter #83

May 25, 2009

Welcome! This is a free newsletter on becoming a Response-Able parent raising Response-Able children.


Mission Statement

Our mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including our own) by helping parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.


In This Issue

1.  Quote
2.  Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
3.  Bumper Sticker
4.  Article: Ten Ways to Tell If Your Ego Is Hurting Your Parenting
5.  Uncommon-Parenting Blog


1. Quote

"We live in a world that needs more soul, more meaning. We, as conscious beings, have, as our primary responsibility, at this time in human history, the task of bringing soul into the world, or releasing soul into the world. We do this, first of all, in ourselves and in our own personal world: then we do it in groups – including family; then we do it in our society through our work, relationships, and presence there."
 
Andrew Schneider


2. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation

What if you stopped trying to change things today and just let what is be?


3. Bumper Sticker

Noticed on a green Mercury Mariner in Spokane, WA:
 
Water Your Roots                                                  


4. Article: Ten Ways to Tell If Your Ego Is Hurting Your Parenting

By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman
 
 
1.  Who's in charge here? Do you see yourself as being in charge of your children? Are you in the habit of telling your children what to do and how to do it? Do you issue commands on a regular basis? If that's the case, your ego is dominating your relationship with your children.
 
2.  Are you invested in finding out who's wrong and who's right? Are you more focused on fixing blame and applying the right punishment to the one at fault than in searching for solutions? Then look to your ego; there you will find the real problem.
 
3.  Do you take the stance, "I know what is best for you"? Do you keep your children from expressing themselves in their own way or experiencing life because you know the better way? Watch out. Your ego is on the loose.
 
4.  Is your agenda more important than your children's agenda? Do you set the schedule for the day (or week) and expect your children to blindly follow it without question? Is the schedule set up for your convenience or for theirs? If your schedule is more important than theirs, your ego may be getting in the way of effective parenting.
 
5.  Are you taking things personally? Do defensiveness and aggression arise if your children do not do as expected? Do your emotions quickly break through the thin membrane that is holding them back? That is your ego at work defending its personal version of truth.
 
6.  Do you find yourself telling your kids to stop a behavior before exploring what they are trying to learn through that behavior? Does your need to control trump their desire to explore and learn from their own mistakes? If so, your ego is showing its face.
 
7.  Are you carrying a grievance about something your child did in the past? Are you finding it difficult to forgive or let it go? Is it more fun to go on complaining about or resenting your child than being done with it? Beware, the ego is present.
 
8.  Do you talk down to your child with baby talk or condescending language? Do you play the game of "big me/little you"? When that happens, you are also playing the game of "my ego is more important than your ego."
 
9.  Do you expect your children to eat what you fixed for dinner without involving them in the process of choosing and preparing the meal? Do you decide on the vacation site and schedule with no input from them? If so, it is time to check your ego.
 
10.  Have you made the present moment your enemy when you are with your children? Do you wish you were someplace else or doing something different when you are with them? Do you multitask, doing three or more things when you are participating with them? If so, your ego has surfaced again.
 
Putting your ego front and center in your parenting doesn't work. Not if you want self-responsible, caring, conscious children. Begin today to remove your ego from the role of parenting by placing your higher self back in its rightful role.
 
Happy parenting.

Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman are the coauthors of Teaching the Attraction Principle to Children: Practical Strategies for Parents and Teachers to Help Children Manifest a Better World. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free monthly e-zine for educators and another for parents. To sign up for them or to learn more about the seminars they offer teachers and parents, visit their websites today: www.thomashaller.com and www.chickmoorman.com.


Teaching the Attraction Principle to Children

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5. Uncommon-Parenting Blog

Have we ever been having fun! Many of you have tried unsuccessfully in the past to talk us into doing a blog. We resisted. But not anymore. Our Uncommon-Parenting Blog has been operational since January. And we are having a blast.

We didn't know that blogging would offer us an opportunity to do two things. One, we can get more personal than in a traditional newsletter. (See I miss my dad today.)

Also, blogging gives us an opportunity to get more edgy. (See Video Game Addiction: Just the Facts, Ma'am. ) Yes, we like to dance along the edge and expect to do much more of that in the future.

Common parenting is not working. Join us at www.uncommon-parenting.com and become a reader and a responder on our new website. Sign up today on the right- hand side of the home page. And while you’re there, check out some of the recent blogs.

Recent Blog Posts


Copyright

Copyright 2009 Chick Moorman Seminars and Thomas Haller Seminars, all rights reserved. Share this with your circle.

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Special Event

The Parent Talk System Training of Trainers

July 30 – Aug. 1, 2009
Spring Arbor University
19855 West Outer Drive
Suite 300 E
Dearborn, MI



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Parents and educators want children to be successful. Coaches, school administrators and counselors want children to be successful. Politicians, clergy and grandparents want children to be successful. 101 Success Tips for Kids, written by Reese and Parker Haller, ages 11 and 8, will help children do just that.


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Schedule

May 28 - Clio, MI.
The 6 Best Parenting Strategies presented by Thomas Haller, Carter Middle School, 300 Upland Dr. 
 
June 5 - Livonia, MI.
Catching the Writing Bug presented by Thomas and Reese Haller Randolph Elementary School.
 
June 11 - Cancun, Mexico.
Spirit Whisperers presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email vigilesc27@hotmail.com
 
June 12 - Cancun, Mexico.
How to Talk to Children About Sex presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman AM. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email vigilesc27@hotmail.com.
 
June 12 - Cancun, Mexico.
The Law of Attraction presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman PM. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email vigilesc27@hotmail.com
 
June 13 - Cancun, Mexico.
Teaching the Law of Attraction to Children presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman, AM. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email vigilesc27@hotmail.com
 
June 13 - Cancun, Mexico.
Transforming Aggression in Children presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman PM. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email vigilesc27@hotmail.com.



Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 877-360-1477 (toll-free) or e-mail him at ipp57@aol.com.


CLICK HERE TO VISIT CHICK'S WEBSITE.

Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at thomas@thomashaller.com.


CLICK HERE TO VISIT THOMAS' WEBSITE.

Links

Contact

Personal Power Press
P.O. Box 547
Merrill, MI 48637
1-877-360-1477

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