Response-Able Educator Newsletter #81

Special Issue, June 1, 2009

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Mission Statement

Our mission is to inspire, encourage, and uplift the spirits of educators so they can in turn inspire, encourage, and uplift the spirits of their students.

In This Issue

This special issue of the Response-Able Educator Newsletter contains a re-run of our most often requested teacher article, "I didn't get to him." This article is especially appropriate near the end of the school year. Even if you have read it before, it is worth a re-read. Enjoy.

1.    Article: "I didn't get to him."
2.    Don't get caught with Your Pants Down.
3.    Summer Reading List.
4.    Game On with Reese Haller.

1. "I didn't get to him."

By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
It was about this time last year that we talked to Brenda, a concerned teacher who was not looking forward to a happy summer. Brenda taught fifth grade in a suburban community. She was worried about one of her students who by the end of the school year hadn't achieved academically and emotionally to the level she had expected. "I'm feeling bummed," she said, "because I didn't get to him."
Twenty-four of Brenda's students met the goals she mentally set for them at the beginning of the year. One did not. As the year came to an end Brenda focused on the one child she felt in her mind she hadn’t reached. "I feel like a failure," she told us. "It's going to be a long summer thinking about him and how I wasn't able to get through to him."
Brenda is like a lot of teachers we know. She ignored her twenty-four successes and focused instead on her one perceived failure. She mentally chastised herself because of the end results experienced by one student and failed to celebrate the incredible success enjoyed by all the others.
Have there been one or two students you feel you haven't reached this year? Maybe one of your students dropped out of school this semester despite your efforts to motivate and encourage her. Perhaps the child who had trouble making friends early in the year still has no friends. It may be that the student who chooses to bully seems to have made no progress during your time with him. Did one or two students flunk your third-hour science class? Did one child fail to master long division?
Are you feeling bad because you wanted to accomplish more with that child? Does it seem that you didn't do your job to the best of your ability? If so, consider the following.
1.) Maybe it wasn't his lesson.
You might be upset leaving for the summer and saying goodbye to a student who failed to learn an essential lesson. But what if the important learning this year was not intended for him? What if it was intended for you? What if this student was in your classroom this year to help you learn something valuable?
What did you learn from this child? What did you learn that you can put to use next year with someone else? If you learned your lesson, maybe this child accomplished his most important task during his time with you. If he did what he came to do, let him go with joy in your heart.
2.) The fastest way to go north could be to temporarily go south.
So maybe you had a student go south this semester. Some students need to get what appears to be "off course" before they can get back "on course." Refuse to see "off course" as good or bad. Don't even see it as "off course." See it instead as going south. For some students, going south is their most direct route to going north. You just might have been the only teacher that could create an environment where this student felt safe enough to learn the lessons inherent in going south. Celebrate your success.
3.) You can't make anybody do anything.
You know you can't make a horse drink. Similarly, you can't make a student study. You can't move her pencil, you can't think her thoughts, and you can't take her tests. All you can do is hold the door open. She gets to decide whether or not to walk through the opening.
You didn't fail this child. You succeeded at providing her with opportunities from which to pick and choose. You succeeded at helping her experience the legitimate consequences of her actions. You cared enough about her to hold her accountable for her choices. You succeeded at helping her learn what happens when you make poor choices. Congratulate yourself.
4.) Maybe you were number 67.
How many times does it take a child to hear something, experience a consequence, or be exposed to a concept before it sinks in? Different amounts of times for different students, we suspect. But let's say the number for this particular student is 75. Maybe she needs to experience someone reaching out to her 75 times before she realizes people want to help her. Maybe she needs to be consistently given a consequence 75 times before she realizes the cause-and-effect relationship that exists between her choices and the results that follow. Maybe she needs 75 incidents of unconditional love before she recognizes her worth. Maybe 75 is her number.
Wouldn't it be a rewarding experience to be the person who provided this child with the 75th exposure to an important concept? Wouldn't it be great to be there on the day when she experienced unconditional love for the 75 time? Wouldn't you like to see the smile on her face when the 75th occurrence of reaching out actually reached her?
But what if you weren't number 75 for this student this year? What if you were number 67 instead? What if you were the 67th person to reach out, hold her accountable, or teach her the same lesson?  If you were number 67 for her you wouldn’t get to see her day of awakening, her great excitement, her light bulb going on. If you were number 67 for this student you might be going home for the summer feeling like Brenda did. You might be thinking, "I didn't get to him."
Keep this in mind this summer: the 67th person makes the 75th possible. You cannot get to 75 without going through 67. Is the 4th incident, the 27th, or the 67th any less valuable because they weren't number 75? We don't think so. A student cannot experience the 75th if they never had a 4th, a 12th, or a 36th. All experiences are important. The 67th is just as important as the 75th.
Refuse to bemoan the fact that you didn't reach this child. Remember instead that you were one of many who are needed to make the 75th possible. It just may be that your efforts this year have set the stage and made it possible for the real lesson to be delivered by the next teacher, next year.
Create a relaxing and productive summer. You've earned it. 
Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. Chick has also written Spirit Whisperers: Teachers Who Nourish a Child's Spirit. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free monthly e-zine for educators. To sign up for it or obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your professional staff development needs, visit their website today:

2. Don't Get Caught with Your Pants Down

Do you have your back-to-school speaker yet? Prime dates are going fast.

Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman are available to keynote your back-to-school staff development program or present one of their highly acclaimed full-day seminars for your building or district staff.

Their most popular seminars are:

Motivating the Unmotivated

Celebrate the Spirit Whisperers
Transforming Aggression in Children
Teaching for Respect and Responsibility
Brain Functioning Behavior in Children
Achievement Motivation and Behavior Management

Contact them at or at to begin the discussion of possible dates and topics.

August dates are filling up fast. Act now to insure a dynamic start to your school year with Chick or Thomas. Also, you can call toll-free 877-360-1477 to get the ball rolling toward an exciting and motivational first day.

3. Summer Reading List

Teaching the Attraction Principle to Children

by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman

Hardcover, 200 page book. ($24.95) [Add to cart]

Maybe you haven't heard about it, read about it, or figured it out yet, but there is a powerful principle at work in your parenting or teaching life. The Attraction Principle is helping you create your own family or classroom reality. Now, with this exciting book, you can teach the Attraction Principle to your children.


Spirit Whisperers: Teachers Who Nourish a Child's Spirit

by Chick Moorman

Hardcover book, 220 pages ($24.95) [Add to cart]

Learn how to put Spirit Whisperer energy to use in your professional practice as you nurture, uplift, inspire and help your students tune into the spirit and power within.

An inspirational and practical guide for teaching from the Heart.


Teacher Talk: What It Really Means

by Chick Moorman and Nancy Weber

Paperback book, 138 pages ($15.00) [Add to cart]

Teacher Talk explores the way teachers talk to children and exposes the underlying "silent messages" that accompany their spoken words. By selecting words and phrases intentionally, you can empower your students and enhance their learning. These verbal skill strategies can be used to dramatically increase achievement and manage behavior. This book will increase your communication skills and add fun and adventure to the important challenge of teaching.


4. Game on with Reese Haller

You know the summer brain drain, those few months over the summer where many students lose up to three months of reading or math learning?
Here is one possible solution: games. Many games that are fun for youngsters to play involve mathematical concepts and thinking skills as well as aid in developing literacy.
Are you wondering which games are enjoyable as well as educational? If so, tune into Reese Haller’s new radio show. Beginning June 9th, this twelve-year-old   radio personality will share his ideas about games on WIOG FM 102.5. Reese’s “Game On with Reese Haller” segment airs live every Tuesday at 7:00 a.m.
You can also catch the podcast on


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Summer Event

Training of Trainers in the Parent Talk System
This training is filling rapidly. Sign up now while there are still openings. 

  • Do you feel called in your soul to help parents consider the possibility that there might be a better way, an enlightened way, to parent?
  • Are you interested in helping parents move from a fear- and shame-based parenting style to one that is love based?
  • Would you consider helping the parents in your community make a shift in perception that would allow them to become the change that will change our world for the better?
  • Are you ready to make a giant leap forward to actualizing your potential as a healer of the planet?


July 30 – Aug. 1, 2009
Spring Arbor University
23400 Michigan Ave.
Suite P20
Dearborn, MI


June 5 - Livonia, MI.
Catching the Writing Bug presented by Thomas and Reese Haller Randolph Elementary School. 

June 11 - Cancun, Mexico.

Spirit Whisperers presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email
June 12 - Cancun, Mexico.
How to Talk to Children About Sex presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman AM. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email
June 12 - Cancun, Mexico.
The Law of Attraction presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman PM. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email
June 13 - Cancun, Mexico.
Teaching the Law of Attraction to Children presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman, AM. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email
June 13 - Cancun, Mexico.
Transforming Aggression in Children presented by Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman PM. For information contact Yessica at 001-52-998-8845438 or email

Chick Moorman

Contact Chick at 1-877-360-1477 or e-mail him at


Thomas Haller

Contact Thomas at 989-686-5356 or e-mail him at




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