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Sex Actualization . Tantra Practice Group
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"A tremendous change is happening on the planet.
I have a feeling we are ready, at long last, to truly love." Dawn Cartwright
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The Multidimensional Clitoris
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Week 5
Results of a research study conducted by the Department of Psychology, University of Hertfordshire, London, UK
and the Division of Psychology and Language Sciences, CEHP Research Department, University College London, London, UK, published by Frontiers in Psychology in October, 2013, explores the connection between affective hedonic touch; touch that is slow, meandering and pleasurable, and our sense of who we are.
The research highlighted the central role of interoception, the process by which the human brain integrates sensory information to give us the awareness that "this body is mine", and embodied affectivity; feelings in the body associated with emotion, that make it possible for us to experience ownership of our body and sense of self.
"Dynamic, slow-velocity affective touch can have a fundamental role in the malleability of our sense of body ownership and highlights the central role of interoception and embodied affectivity in self-consciousness."
Laura Crucianelli, Nicola K. Metcalf, Aikaterini Fotopoulou and Paul M. Jenkinson
Awareness of who we are expands through touch.
This awareness happens on both the micro and macro levels. We become aware of our bodies through this intimate, present, slow touch and we, simultaneously, become aware of the body we are all apart of - the universe, the cosmos, this life we are living. When we let go of a a desired outcome in our touch, when we let go of any goal in our actions, something extraordinary appears. This extraordinariness, which is also sublimely ordinary, is who we truly are.
"Our meandering movement is no longer movement in a forward direction, but movement toward the living, the spontaneous, the creative. This great letting go bring us unexpected joy. It is the first sign that we accept the movement of the world, that we are leaving the domain of this ridiculous claim of wanting to control our destiny and that of others. Joy depends on this acceptance, only upon this movement toward fluidity, toward the spherical."
Daniel Odier . Spandakarika
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We'll continue this exploration tonight, December 15th.
When you arrive, please use the restrooms on the ground floor instead of the restroom in the loft. This will save huge amounts of time and create a much more pleasant flow for everyone. To access the downstairs restrooms: The main entrance to the main building (from the parking lot side) is the first door to the left of entrance to the elevator. There is a corridor that leads to the restaurants and directly after the hallway are two public restrooms on the left. No key is required and there are multiple stalls.
Sex Actualization . Tantra Practice Group . Schedule
- Week 1 . October 27th . Open Class . The Spandakarika
- Week 2 . November 3rd . Magnetism, Attraction & Chemistry
- Week 3 . November 10th . Spherical Reality
- Week 4 . November 17th . Intimacy Beyond Orgasm
- No Class November 24th . Thanksgiving
- Week 5 . December 1st . The Multidimensional Clitoris
- No Class December 8th . Fragrance of the Lotus Tantra Teacher Training 2016
- Week 6 . December 15th . The Multidimensional Penis
- Week 7 . December 22nd . Mahamudra
How To Prepare . Please arrive between 7:00 pm and 7:15 pm if possible. Enter the space silently and find your place in the circle. A request, when you arrive, please use the restrooms on the ground floor instead of the restroom in the loft. This will save huge amounts of time and create a much more pleasant flow for everyone. Details here . . .
How To Access the Downstairs Restrooms . The main entrance to the main building (from the parking lot side) is the first door to the left of entrance to the elevator. There is a corridor that leads to the restaurants and directly after the hallway are two public restrooms on the left. No key is required and there are multiple stalls.
What To Bring . Pillow and blanket or sheepskin to sit and lie down on, towels, coconut oil. Plan your day and commute so that you are able to arrive early to allow plenty of time to find parking. What would make it possible for you to arrive and be in the space by 7:00 pm? 7:15 pm latest? Please enter in silence and remain in silence if you arrive after 7:00 pm.
In this newsletter, you'll find details about the new Advanced Group, Tips For Getting the Most Out of Class Each Week, Something I'd Like To Introduce You To, this week's Home Practice, information on How To Make Up Last Week's Session if you missed it, an invitation to our Endless Love Facebook Group, my iTunes Playlist for the Music played in class, some Q & A from all of you, the Sex Actualization . Video Teleclass information and more.
Much love, Dawn
Chandra Bindu Tantra Institute
www.chandrabindutantrainstitute.com
310.592.1293
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Sex Actualization Advanced Group
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Preview This Sunday . December 18th
This is the moment we've all been waiting for. The first Sex Actualization Advanced Group registration is now LIVE.
The Sex Actualization Advanced Group is a hands-on advanced training in the fusion of ancient Tantric practices and modern day sexology we've explored in the Thursday night classes. A chance to dive into the practices in full experiential engagement.
Participation is limited to those who have completed at least one 7-Week Sex Actualization series - no exceptions. Each enrolee will be interviewed before admittance. We've created an exceptional community of extraordinary practitioners, now is the perfect time to take these practices deeper than ever before.
Sex Actualization Advanced Group
Private Location . Santa Monica
Sunday . December 18th
1:00 - 5:00 pm
$200 per person*
*Enter voucher code ACTUALIZE to receive 50% off tuition.
Register Now
Sex Actualization Advanced Group 2017*
- Sunday . January 22nd
- Sunday . March 5th
- Sunday . April 2nd
- Sunday . June 4th
- Sunday . July 9th
- Sunday . August 13th
- Sunday . October 22nd
- Sunday . November 19th
*Registration for 2017 Advanced Group will open December 19th.
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I'd Like to Introduce you to . . . The Multidimensional Clitoris
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Sex Actualization . Tantra Practice Group
"Did you know that the clitoris has eighteen parts, all of which play a role in the production of pleasure?"
Ian Kerner, Ph.D., She Comes First
The 18 Parts of the Clitoris
1. The Front Commissure
2. The Glans
3. The Labia Majora
4. The Clitoral Hood
5. The Frenulum
6. The Fourchette
7. The Hymen
8. The Clitoral Shaft
9. The Crura
10. The Vestibular Bulbs
11. The G-Spot
12. The Para-Urethral Glands
13. The Vulvo-Vaginal Glands
14. The Perineal Sponge
15. The Pelvic Floor Muscles
16. The Suspensory Ligament
17. The Pudendal Nerve
18. The Blood Vessels that Supply the Erectile Tissue of the Clitoris
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Home Practice . Exploring the Multidimensional Clitoris
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Sex Actualization . Tantra Practice Group
A practice for becoming aware of the clitoris through slow, intimate, present exploration. Expanding our awareness, simultaneously, of the human body, and the body we are all apart of - the universe, the cosmos, this life we are living. Discovering the extraordinariness of who we truly are, whether woman or man.
Exploring the Multidimensional Clitoris Practice
This practice may be experienced with your own body, with a friend's body, or with a photograph or drawing of a clitoris.
Allow 2 hours for this practice. Create a space where you feel comfortable, a place where you will not be disturbed.
Make sure the space you'll be using is completely private, well insulated and warm. Make certain you will not be disturbed. Prepare the space with soft lighting and music, warmth, soft pillows, blankets, a mattress, coconut oil, nitrile gloves, a flashlight and a mirror.
If you are practicing on your own, be sure to have a mirror and flashlight close by. If you are practicing with a friend, spend  20-30 minutes sharing your feelings, needs and boundaries. What do each of you need to feel present, open, respected and honored? Your partner will assist you with mirror, flashlight and may even offer gentle touch, using gloves if that feels loving and supportive to you both. If you are working with an image, you may wish to print the image so you can label it as you go through the practice.
When all preparations are complete, sit silently. Place your hands on your heart and sink into your body. Feel the rhythmic waves of your breathing and heartbeat. Feel the warmth of your body. Allow 5-10 minutes for meditation and connection with yourself. If you are working with a partner, allow another 5-10 minutes, transitioning from your own meditation to a heart to heart breathing meditation together. Place your hands on one another's heart and breath together, melting into trust, adventure and love.
When you feel ready to continue, lie down on your back, making sure there are plenty of pillows and blankets to support your body in a reclined position with your chest and head raised so you can see your clitoris. If you are working with a partner, first create a comfortable nest, then come sitting near your partner's hip, perhaps resting a hand on their knee for loving support. If you are working with an image, place the image on a table or flat surface before you.
You may wish to offer Anjali mudra, hand together in prayer at your heart, to the extraordinary body you are about to explore, especially if that body is yours.
Please refer to Ian Kerner's book, She Comes First, for a detailed map of the eighteen parts of the clitoris. Take your time, explore each one with sight and slow, loving touch. It is recommended that you use coconut oil and nitrile gloves to protect the delicate tissues of the clitoris during the practice.
Move slowly. Meander. Let go of any goal. Allow multidimensional clitoris to reveal itself to you in its own way. Stay open, curious, supportive and kind. Enjoy the uniqueness of the clitoris you are exploring - like stars and snowflakes, no two are alike. The clitoris is a microcosm of the universe, filled with life, majesty and mystery. Take your time. Be gentle. Discover who you are.
Emotions may arise, allow them. Be sure to have Kleenex nearby and plenty of water to drink.
Allow 45 minutes to an hour for this exploration, then gently close your eyes and sink into the stillness within. Allow 15-20 minutes to absorb what you have experienced. Impressions and emotions may continue to arise in the days and weeks ahead, you may want to keep a journal as this extraordinariness emerges for you after the practice.
If you have worked with a partner, allow some time for sharing and reflections.
Offer Anjali mudra once more, to yourself, to your partner, to the image you have meditated upon for this practice.
After the practice, go for a walk in nature, or take a bath. Pamper yourself.
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Make Up Last Week's Class . Private Sessions
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Private Sessions
If you missed class last week, or if you were there and you'd like to take it deeper, you can do that by scheduling a private session with me. I'm available weekdays 10:00 am to 4:00 pm. Skype sessions may also be possible.
Private Sessions
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Facebook . Endless Love Facebook Group
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Facebook
I've set up an Endless Love group for us on Facebook. It is a closed group, please invite your friends. It's a place where you can share your experiences, ask questions, and get updates on this class. It's becoming a very dynamic group. You can join the group by following the link below.
Endless Love Facebook Group
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Music
Dawn's Spotify Playlist for the music played in class. Please click on image below to access. List updated weekly.
Roth Herrlinger Live Music
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Feedback and Q&A
Please send me your questions - what's happening in your life? Thanks to those of you who checked in with me after the class - and - those of you out there in our world-wide community who chimed in.
If you don't see your question here, fear not. All questions submitted will be answered over the coming weeks.
Dear Dawn,
Thank you again for another beautiful workshop session last night.
I woke up this morning and during meditation a question came up for me I wanted to get your advice on. In the last segment of the exercise last night, "spooning and breathing", I started feeling overwhelmed with the energy flowing through my body. There was the sense of loosing control over my body which have not felt very often before. The breathing and focus on my sexual organs and feeling the other person's response was extremely strong, I felt deeply connected, felt and understood energetically (if that makes sense). How is this possible with a person I hardly know and have spoken to only for brief moments so far?
My intention going into the workshop has been to further explore and understand and "control" my sexual energy, and to turn it inward as a powerful life source. Is there something I don't understand or that I am not doing quite right. My quest is to gain control and instead I appear to loosing it.
I would love to hear your take on this.
Much Love, Kurtis
Silver Lake . California
Dear Kurtis,
It sounds like you're right on track. It's perfectly normal to gain a clearer sense of oneself through interaction. The dynamic, slow-touch you experienced while spooning with your partner made you even more aware of the energy flowing through your body. This energy is yours. It is you. The experience, as you convey it, was shared, your partner also felt energy moving in their body. Moments of feeling connected and energetically understood surrounded you both. This is intimacy, in fact, this kind of intimacy is one of the most pure - there was no "trying" or "doing" at all.
The next step toward mastery is to realize this experience is the essence of who you are. This flow of energy is not dependent on anyone or anything outside of you. While it may seem as if it all happened because of your partner, this is not the case, it never is. Perhaps the key here is to forgive yourself for shaming yourself. You are a brilliant, vital, beautiful man. It is perfectly normal for you to feel this flow - all the time.
When you look at it this way, being attracted to a stranger seems natural - shouldn't we all be attracted to one another? And, in that attraction, can we begin to dismantle the fairytale belief that every surge of aliveness means we must follow it anywhere other than back to ourselves. Then, relationship becomes something totally new. Something stable and balanced. A decision that is made from that flow within. We are no longer two halves looking to become whole. We no longer operate from need. We experience the generosity that love truly is.
Much love, Dawn
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Dear Dawn,
I have been with my husband for a few years now and while I still love him, I feel guilty that during lovemaking, I am fantasizing or thinking of anything else other than having sex with my husband. I don't know if he is aware and I would hate it if the roles were reversed. I don't even feel it is deliberate. I simply just zone out. How can I become more present and connected to him?
Thank you, Barbara
Boston . Massachusetts
Dear Barbara,
You are not alone. Busy lives, over-filled calendars, little if any down time, children and family responsibilities create a low-level stress response in the body, making it challenging to be present even under the best of circumstances.
Finding Your Way Back
1. Close your eyes. Yes, now. Breathe 3 slow breaths. Congratulations, you just meditated. Meditate in this way, for just a few seconds, throughout the day. You are teaching your brain how to switch from stress to calm - in 3 breaths. Once you've practiced for a few days, this simple meditation will become second nature and something you can practice during foreplay as well.
2. Pamper yourself. You probably have some sense when lovemaking is going to happen during the week. Take a break 20-30 minutes beforehand. Indulge in a hot a shower, or better yet, a bath with essential oils. Transition from "doing" to "being" and you'll be much more present with your husband during lovemaking itself.
3. Turn on your senses. Use all your senses when you're making love. Feel the warmth of your husband's body, take in the scent of his skin, look into his eyes, taste his kiss, listen to his voice. We are only able to sense when we are in the here and now. Our senses are doorways to the moment and the ecstasies of intimate pleasure.
4. Vocalize. Talk about sex with your husband while making love. Tell him how you feel, how he feels. This will bring your attention to the love and closeness that you share - and away from distraction.
5. Be creative. Explore new ways of making love, try a Tantra meditation during sex, make love somewhere new. Novelty is a great aphrodisiac - sharpening your focus and bringing you closer to the man you love.
Much love, Dawn
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Tips for getting the most out of class each week . . .
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Sex Actualization . Tantra Practice Group
Some tips for getting the most out of the Sex Actualization . Tantra Practice Group . . .
- Give yourself 15 minutes extra for your commute. If it takes you 30 minutes to get to Santa Monica, leave your office by 6:15 pm to arrive and find parking by 7:00 pm.
- When you do arrive and find parking, take 2 minutes, sit in your car and make a transition. Let go of the work day and traffic. Turn off your cell phone - don't just mute it - turn it off. Begin to bring your focus to you, your sexuality and your sexual journey. Start class inside yourself before you even get out of the car.
- Pause again at the door. Take off your shoes and leave them outside next to the door or place them in your backpack or purse and bring them inside.
- Enter the space consciously. In silence.
- Please do not wear synthetic perfumes or colognes, many people are allergic.
- If you're able to arrive early, we'd be thrilled to get some help moving furniture, lighting candles, showering the space with rose petals and basically creating heaven on earth, 6:45-7:00 pm.
- Enter the space silently and take your space in the circle. Give yourself time to land.
- Notice if you're always sitting in the same place each week, or if you've decided you need back support and always sit near the wall - be open to something new.
- Listen to the music during the silent meditation with your whole body.
- Modify the practices in any way that makes it possible for you to participate more fully. If you have a boundary or injury that needs extra care, please take time to create the best situation possible for yourself and your partners.
- Unless you're already involved with someone in the class, I suggest you consider not dating anyone in class - until the series is over. This applies to getting together for practice sessions between the classes too - wait until the series is over, practice on your own for now. The virtues of this one tip alone are infinite.
- Ask questions. (I love questions.)
- Make requests. (I love requests.)
- Send music suggestions. (I love music suggestions.)
- Treat yourself and every member of the group as someone precious - I can promise you, each one of you is.
- At the end of class, take a moment to fully savor all you have experienced and received.
- If you're up for helping out with getting all the furniture back in place, we'd love your assistance.
- Be sure to collect all your belongings and be out the door no later than 9:50 pm.
- No woman leaves on her own. Please, couples and men, offer your arm to the single women in the class. Walk her to her car, offer to carry her things if you feel to. See her off safely into the night.
- Allow 5-10 minutes each day for your home practice.
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Sex Actualization . Video Home Study Course
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Six 1-Hour Sessions . HD Video . Available for Streaming
Thank you to all of you around the world who encouraged me to create a video teleclass highlighting the Sex Actualization . Tantra Practice Group sessions. In these 1-hour sessions you are guided you through the same Tantric practices, exercises and meditations experienced in the live Sex Actualization classes. All the information, lectures, opening and closing practices are included. It's as if you are here, participating live - and - by purchasing the series for download, you'll have the videos to refer back to and practice over and over, taking the techniques deeper each time.
Sex Actualization . Video Home Study Course
Six 1-Hour Videos . Streaming
$350 series of 6 classes
Purchase & View Now
Sex Actualization . Video Home Study Course
Session 1 . Sex & Kundalini Energy
Session 2 . Partner Practice & New Beginnings
Session 3 . What is Love?
Session 4 . Sexual Confidence & Generosity
Session 5 . Mutual Orgasm
Session 6 . Sex & Self-Discovery
Chandra Bindu Tantra Institute
www.chandrabindutantrainstitute.com
310.592.1293
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