|From Jill Badonsky April 26, 2017|
Hi Creative Ones,
As soon as I was old enough to do a cartwheel, my mom stuck a tennis racket in my hand and signed me up for tennis lessons. Life became tennis. I lived in Miami, my mom was a tennis-pro, and my dad was on the court at every free moment. Eventually, my mom entered me in tournaments and sat on the sidelines grimacing every time I missed a shot; a LOT of pressure for a sensitive, creative soul. She meant well.
I ranked first in the Miami-wide school district when I was 14 years old but at some point the pressure to win turned into a huge tennis block. I choked and the ruthless forehand that won me so many matches now betrayed me and I hit everything out. It was painful. I had lost something that brought me a feeling of competence at a time when life was turbulent and awkward. The lack of experience and support in dealing with the pain and embarrassment led me to quitting.
Fast forward to my thirties, I found a Zen tennis instructor to help me work through the block because I wanted to return to tennis for fun. He used metaphors and creative exercises to invite less mental interference. He gave me permission to hit badly as a way to remove the pressure. (These tools may sound familiar to those in the KMCC sphere).
My favorite tool was his instruction to “fascinate on the ball" as it came toward me. The words “fascinate on the ball” created an entirely different experience of being present with this round, fuzzy thing being whacked at me. Not only did it move me from overthinking and pressure to getting lost in a relaxed zone of easy follow-through, it was freeing and made tennis more fun. Bingo!
Words evoke feelings and if we repeatedly use ones that entice us to consciously approach our creative passion with more color, over time the subconscious will relax its habitual delivery of pressure, judgment, and comparison and we can shift toward showing-up more effortlessly.
Our blocks will melt.
Instead of focusing on how much you can accomplish,
focus on how much you can absolutely love what you’re doing.
On page 53 in The Muse is In: An Owner’s Manual to Your Creative, (turn there now, I'll wait...), I have a list of words called "Process Fuel" that can evoke a better feeling for showing-up for your work than the typical pressure and judgment. If you’ve had great success in a creative arena or are just starting, it’s not uncommon to have resistance. Often the best way to get through it is with novel strategies that shift the mind out of thinking too much
Scan this list and see if your intuition finds an enticing combining of words that may evoke follow-through in your own game of love. Do any of those work for you? Then just feel them... starting now. And remember what you LOVE about the creative process instead of the pressure.
other: invent one
From the Mind of a Muse:
Dear Muse: Help!
Join me in a free creativity call
on Tuesday, May 23 2017 2pm pacific/5pm eastern to discover some new ways to make creativity more of a passion and priority in your life. More here
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Most coaching models use the big challenge or blast model of change which appeals to a certain type of person who thrives on going big. Often this is not sustainable.
The Kaizen-Muse model creates change by taking baby steps - and change sneaks up on the client. Creativity is such a treat with KMCC - the process becomes it's own reward. ~Samantha Sinclair, Certified KMCC Coach
As a psychotherapist, creativity coach and facilitator of writing groups, I have followed and taught Jill’s work for years. But it wasn’t until I actually took her KMCC training, that I got to dive into the deep essence of her philosophy and truly experience the Beauty of her work—both soulful and practical in its application. Each and every tool that she offers provides direction that empowers our creative expression. Through her compassionate and skillful guidance, I learned how to navigate the challenges that can stall and block us, to mine our rich, intuitive inner Muse-inspired resources, and to use viable structure to make the creative process productive, fun and enjoyable.
Through Jill’s gifted vision and the exciting community that she has formed around creativity, I am now armed with incredible material to empower my clients. I feel filled with fresh enthusiasm for my own creative process. She has forged a path for the creative spirit in all of us—and one I had been waiting for all my life. Thank you, Jill! ~Cyncie Winter, MH, MA, LPC
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Many wonderful entries arrived from the last issue's request for poetry. Thank you to all who sent their precious verses, i loved reading them. I randomly picked one for a free copy of The Awe-manac: A Daily Dose of Wonder
From Gary Winters
one day I braced my fickle muse
called her a hallucination
just an imaginary thing
a cute colorful hologram
created by my rhythmic mind
who do you think you are I said
coming around when you feel like it
lone wandering schizophrenic
dependent on wave impulses
emanating from my own brain
I watched her smile and shake her head
nice try big boy is what she said
who do you think is the boss here
all you’ve ever done is play games
plucking at life like a cheap uke
so stop asking such dumb questions
sit down now and get back to work
don’t try to pull namby-pamby
I’ll spot it lickety-split quick
why are you stone-still standing there
Gary: send me your address or that of someone you want to gift
|Yours Truly, Jill Badonsky|